Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

It makes me want to do whatever I want

I'm having trouble with my relationship with my husband. My husband doesn't have delicacies, and he's not good at thinking about this feeling and acting on it. There are places where I focus on what I want to do right now, and I feel that my priorities are low, and I often feel sad because of...

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What does it mean to forgive yourself

I changed jobs 4 years ago, and now I'm able to work at the workplace I've been longing for. I was also studying for the qualification exam in order to expand my range of work, but I found out that I failed in early January of this year, and I was accompanied by my parents going to the hospital,...

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How to deal with people who complain that they aren't feeling well

We provide consultation support for people with disabilities. There are words that I am in trouble because they are said while listening to a story. In the case of a complaint such as “I want to die” from a person with a mental disorder, it is taken as the opposite of the phrase “I want you...

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It will hurt loved ones

I have an important senior at work I get along well with that person in private, but during work, they are careful with me with pretty harsh words, and they treat me harshly anyway. It's a job that requires procedures, so it's natural to be strictly instructed, but I'm depressed because of the...

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Is there any point in going to hell?

I'm a bad person, so I'm falling from the hell of this world to real hell with obedience and suffering. Of course, I listen to Buddhism on YouTube for about 2 to 30 minutes every day in search of salvation. I have a feeling that I will listen through the rest of my life until my doubts clear in...

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My mother likes fortune telling. It can be decided by the results

My mother likes fortune telling, and I'm worried that her personality will be determined based on the results. In fortune telling, it seems that it is called a “personality that sees people and assigns them to the right place” and “personality that blames people when problems occur,” but the...

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I want to make room for my mind

Due to my husband's financial neglect, mental DV, running away from home, my irresponsible parent-in-law family, and that environment, my mental capacity for children I originally wanted to cherish has decreased, and it almost collapses due to self-loathing. Until now, I've been swayed and...

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heartbreak

I was betrayed by someone I love that I had a crush on for the last 7 months. I played with him at aquariums, movie theaters, etc. about 2 times. Every time we met, I was very happy to be told that he was cute and had a good hairstyle, but since he is moving far away from this year, it will be...

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On living as a male homosexual

I'm a 20 year old male college student living in Tokyo. I like men because of my own sexuality, but I had a lot of trouble knowing about the gay world. There is no discrimination, but in the straight world, dates and meals often lead to sexual intercourse, but for some reason in the gay...

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I want to quit a vocational school

I'm a second-year student attending a vocational school (medical) I began to think it wasn't the job I wanted to do. It's also mentally difficult because of stress etc. I haven't talked to my parents yet and I'm worried about how they will say it. Please give me some advice

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Neurosis due to a fight between siblings

My elementary school siblings (elementary 6 and elementary 3) fight every day and yell at them until I quit. It's been going on for quite a long time, and I don't like myself for exploding in anger and showering taunts every time. It's been so repetitive that the boiling point of anger is getting...

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I just can't get out of my fear of death

It's been a while, I've recently become afraid of death, so I'm posting It's now 25, but I'm getting more and more scared because I thought it would be a 60th birthday in the second half, and I felt that the years were fast I wonder what will happen when I die, will I go to paradise, go to...

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How to erase haya haze

Thank you for always being there. The other day, I confessed to someone I liked, and I was betrayed. It was said that there were people I was interested in. Two months after I learned about it, the person I was interested in was a junior at my workplace. I was talking to my juniors that they...

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I want to be freed from being hurt by the preferences of the person I like

I think this problem is a problem with myself and my own thoughts, who haven't been able to draw the line between themselves and others. It's been almost 1 year since we started dating, and I've been suffering the same pain 3 or 4 times with my cheerful lover. Every time I did that, I saw “this...

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What is the meaning of living as the value of living things declines?

Is there any point in living being 30 years old and living beings declining in value? Honestly, that's enough. Humans should have lived based on instincts, but modernization has led to an age of reason, and original desires have been suppressed, and Natsume Soseki said that the end of...

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This is a serious story.

Tonight, I've been coming to Kansai to work part-time since the 1st. I came early and went to Nara and Kyoto to see the five-story pagoda. Then I suddenly think, even though there was a period until the Edo period, which was supported by the Yamato spirit that continued from the Jomon period...

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I haven't been able to grow anything I want to commit suicide

My teens and twenties haven't put much effort into anything. Even if I live like this, I can't see any hope, and it seems that Buddha attained enlightenment in 34th place, but in my case, it doesn't seem like it will last that long. I'm now an empty, empty old man. I've heard over and over...

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About previous lives

There are people I know who can see past lives as spirits, and that person has proper power. My spiritual power awakened after I became involved with that person. However, it's a story about my previous life, and I was often sold in a house that was sold to protect myself due to circumstances......

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About tomb obtainers

Recently, I've been hearing a lot of opinions about grave obstruction. The opinion that smudging a grave is a punishment, the opinion that what is important is not the grave, but your heart, and that seeping the grave is not a bad thing. My house is not my home, and my parents are the only ones...

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Respect for one's own feelings and my husband's instability

They are having trouble due to the frequency of sex in a marital relationship. I'm not that much of a sex seeker. Of course, that's not because I don't have much love for my husband. My husband says he wants to have sex every day, at least 3 times a week. I've tried my best to respond...

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