Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Whether to prioritize recommended activities

I'm joining the new job next month It seems that they don't know when that company will be closed I'm doing my own recommendation After all, idol events are held on Saturdays and Sundays when the general public is off Do you know what refusal to share is? I mean I don't like people who are...

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What is Vihara activity

I recently learned about Vihara activities. I'm curious, and I'm studying out of curiosity, but more succinctly, “In a nutshell!” I would be grateful if someone professional could express it like that. Please give me a convincing word.

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I'm looking for love from my toxic parents

Nice to meet you. It's a consultation, but my mother is a toxic parent. It was neglect. Once I became an adult, I also became indifferent about money. I came to the conclusion that it is better to keep a distance after consulting with a counselor, and I am currently keeping my distance....

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People around me and I hate me. From an early age.

Since I was able to remember, I've hardly been treated as a single person by people around me. Everything from kindergarten to elementary school, middle school, high school, university, to the present. It's a convenient presence that anyone can bully, a punching bag to relieve stress, a...

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Boyfriends who almost never pay for dates

I have a boyfriend that I've been in a relationship with for over a year. My boyfriend is 4 years younger, and my income is slightly higher. My boyfriend seems to make a lot of monthly payments, and I pay all of my dates every time. I don't even say thank you for being spoiled by that. I only...

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I want to have fun, but it's better to work hard

I talked about it a little while ago (I ran away from kindergarten to high school), but I still wanted to talk about it again. (21 years old) No matter what, it makes me want to have fun. But if you have fun, things get worse, and people around you will get scolded, your evaluations will drop,...

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The meaning of the kanji for kaima: cold

My father passed away the other day and I was given a commandment As for the Rinzai sect, the character “cold” was included in the kaima, but what does this mean? Does it simply mean it's cold? Please tell me

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I envy my friends around me.

My friend got married. That friend seems to have a job where there is a possibility of regional transfer, and he has been assigned to a department in the Tokyo metropolitan area for a long time. It seems that they are currently also doing fertility treatments. If there is a possibility of a...

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Tips for when you're in a supportive position at work

Hello. Thank you for taking the time to read my question. I am now in a position to direct the work that is at work. It is the person in charge of issuing instructions to “Please do this” on a fixed day and checking whether it is done properly. There are times when it is difficult to...

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Things my parents didn't value when I was a kid.

When I was a child, during my adolescence, I wasn't taken care of at all by my parents. My parents are getting older and kinder now, but it was a long time ago, and I don't think I'm happy, and I'm depressed. What should I keep in mind? I also want to know the teachings of Buddhism. Thank you for...

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I don't think anyone needs me

I can't do anything, and I'm just bothering you... Better yet, I think it's better to kill myself and not cause trouble anymore... why can't I live a normal life like everyone else

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How can I study Buddhism while living abroad?

I'm currently living abroad. It's been 15 years since I left Japan. I was an atheist when I was in Japan, but since I started living abroad, I had many opportunities to meet foreigners interested in Buddhism, and while I was answering simple questions, my interest in Buddhism gradually increased,...

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What is salvation in Mahayana Buddhism

Please tell me about salvation in Mahayana Buddhism. I learned that Mahayana Buddhism teaches that even if you are not a monk, you can be saved. So what is salvation in Mahayana Buddhism? I don't think I can get rid of my worries without becoming a monk. Humans always want something, feel...

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After finishing the memorial service on the 49th

Good evening 🌃 A few days ago, “On my inspirational son” This is the person I consulted with 🙇 The other day, I successfully finished the 49th memorial service, I put my hands on the Buddhist altar every day. My sons said, “Grandma's heart I first came to my grandfather's house today to...

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I want to learn the Heart Sutra

Nice to meet you and thank you for your support. I'm the head nurse. Since March, we have been busy dealing with COVID-19 every day. While feeling anxious that I might get infected, I have been paying attention to the physical condition and mentality of the staff. However, due to the...

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Autumn worries

I feel that I've done something terrible to someone else, and I suffer from a strong sense of self-loathing and guilt. I began to think, “Wouldn't it be easier if I died?” and “I want to go back to heaven where my kind grandfather passed away is.” I have a feeling that I want to atone for my...

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Dissatisfaction with my father

My father lost his parents a few years ago, became depressed, and quit his job. After that, I changed my job to a nursing job at the request of the person himself, but when I got home, I went to bed without eating dinner prepared by my mother. Recently, I started coming home late at night...

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Husband, it's really impossible.

I'm indebted to you. This time, I was exhausted by my husband yesterday, and I want to post it because I want to discuss it. When it comes to what I said, it's about attitudes that lack compassion, imagination, or humility. The event that triggered it was yesterday at my younger child's...

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I don't know the value of my life.

Recently, I've started to want to die a lot. Until before, everyday school life was fun, and I never wanted to die even if things didn't go well. Recently, however, I have doubts about living well. I think I'm blessed with my family, and there are many people I can call my friends....

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Is it aging?

I'll soon be in my 10th year as a working person, and recently I'm not interested in things. I've been fond of anime and games since I was little, and when I was a student, I was so obsessed with it that I forgot to sleep and eat. I also loved daydreaming and drawing illustrations from empty...

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