Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I'm afraid of life and myself

Hello. I'm afraid of life. This is because people can die easily. By jumping off a rooftop or jumping into a railroad track. I'm afraid of such an unfortunate, ephemeral life. Why are we living such lives now even though we die? If you want to die, you can die anytime, so I wonder why...

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where do people go when they die?

Go to heaven or hell. Being born again becomes a new life. I've also heard that if it's cremated, it becomes a ghost, and if it's a burial, it becomes a zombie. Life after death. I'm sure it's a world you won't understand as long as you live. However, it is precisely because we are alive...

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Is child-making a parent's ego?

I came up with the idea that it wasn't my parents' ego that I was born in the first place. My parents have an arranged marriage. The two found a partner through matchmaking, even though I don't know why, whether it's for financial reasons, or if they just want children or a family. It's...

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Do I need a driver's license, computer operation, or anything else to become a monk?

My name is Harusora and I want to become a monk in the future. It goes without saying that devotion to and learning about Buddhism is essential for becoming a monk, but are there any other skills (or are better) required? It seems that a car is necessary for traveling at memorial...

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I got into a fight with my friend

The beginning was that until then, we had been communicating on LINE, etc., but suddenly communication became normal. I wanted at least one report from there, but I left it as it was for a while, wondering if there was some reason why they didn't dare to contact me. The promised day to play was...

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It's unbearably painful due to regret.

I lost an important person last fall. Since then, it's been so painful that it's been unbearable. I'm just that person's work colleague, so there's nothing I can do. I'm married, and I loved that person. I just liked it and didn't mean to say anything. There was a time when the workplace...

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Isn't suicide the best form of salvation?

You can escape all suffering, and you can move away from the movement of living. Annoying about suicide! You can die whatever you like, but scum that causes trouble to others should die! You can also get away from most selfish people in the world who end up like that. Suicide is a nuisance...

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How to become nothing

After consulting here several times, I was able to see my own way of life. I also felt a lot of energy if I had to live. Thank you very much. I get impatient when words or things that are bad for me suddenly happen right in front of trouble or right in front of me, and meaningless anxiety...

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It makes me think I made a mistake in my life choices

I went back home the other day, and being in touch with my parents made me feel mixed. My home is a rural home that has been around for a long time. I'm unmarried, but I'm at an age where I can't want kids anymore, There is no sign that my brother is getting married either. I think I was...

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I want to die

I don't have any money and now I want to die I have debts It shouldn't matter anymore, but when I think about my kids and parents, I don't have the courage to die I'm planning to discuss my debt with a law firm, but it seems like I'll be crushed by anxiety about not being able to see the...

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Balancing work and childcare I want someone to take care of me

It's hard to balance work and childcare, and I just want someone to listen to the story, so I'm writing it. Rather than advice, I want people to take it as “that's tough.” I work as a surgeon and I have 2 children. My younger child is still small and wakes up many times in the middle of the...

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Her father who is planning to get married with a sense of discrimination against the tribe

I have a girlfriend who is planning to get married. She is a very unbelievably good girlfriend for me, and she is important to her. They are now living together for half, and when I told each other's parents that they would get married, it seems that her father told me the address of my...

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What are the merits of Buddhism that other religions do not have

I'm interested in “religion,” which has a big influence on people's values, thoughts, and behavior, and I like Buddhist ideas among them, so I've believed in Buddha until now. However, while watching, listening, and researching various opinions, there are aspects where I think every religion...

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The child is sick and in critical condition

At last, the relationship where I was able to ask questions came to an end. I now have a 13 year old daughter and 6 year old son. My 6-year-old son developed a childhood cancer called neuroblastoma 3 years ago and was in remission once after 1 year of fighting the disease. It recurred six months...

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Adults don't understand

Excuse me so often. Thank you for taking the time to browse (^^*) I'm on good terms with a senior male temporary employee I met before at my part-time job. There are things I was familiar with, but in my spare time or during breaks, the two of us often talked and my boss scolded me...

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My feelings are no longer satisfied.

I'm running my own business, and thanks to you, I'm busy. However, recently I haven't been satisfied, or rather I don't know what I'm working for. Our customers will be delighted. We may also be referred to other customers by customers who have made previous requests. So I'm sure my work is...

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Are there any celebrities who have reached nirvana?

Specifically, I want to know what kind of atmosphere people who have reached nirvana have. Is there anyone there?

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I can't trust others

I have depression and work part-time for a living. My problem right now is that they distort evaluations from people around them, and they hunt themselves down and self-destruct. What does that mean They assume their own worries and complexes that “others think and are probably viewed as...

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How to celebrate a friend's enrollment

The other day, a female friend of mine was naturalized at work. I decided to give a naturalization celebration, and I prepared both a joint name with my partner and a joint name with my sister. When I told my partner about this, I was furious and told from multiple places that it was absolutely...

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It's Hard Being Alive

Since I was little, I was plagued by an illness where my hands couldn't stop shaking for unknown causes, and I couldn't understand it at first sight, but in craft classes, I was ridiculed by my friends, and my parents scolded me. It doesn't heal even when I go to the hospital, it just gets worse...

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