Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

How to become nothing

After consulting here several times, I was able to see my own way of life. I also felt a lot of energy if I had to live. Thank you very much. I get impatient when words or things that are bad for me suddenly happen right in front of trouble or right in front of me, and meaningless anxiety...

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It makes me think I made a mistake in my life choices

I went back home the other day, and being in touch with my parents made me feel mixed. My home is a rural home that has been around for a long time. I'm unmarried, but I'm at an age where I can't want kids anymore, There is no sign that my brother is getting married either. I think I was...

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I want to die

I don't have any money and now I want to die I have debts It shouldn't matter anymore, but when I think about my kids and parents, I don't have the courage to die I'm planning to discuss my debt with a law firm, but it seems like I'll be crushed by anxiety about not being able to see the...

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Balancing work and childcare I want someone to take care of me

It's hard to balance work and childcare, and I just want someone to listen to the story, so I'm writing it. Rather than advice, I want people to take it as “that's tough.” I work as a surgeon and I have 2 children. My younger child is still small and wakes up many times in the middle of the...

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Her father who is planning to get married with a sense of discrimination against the tribe

I have a girlfriend who is planning to get married. She is a very unbelievably good girlfriend for me, and she is important to her. They are now living together for half, and when I told each other's parents that they would get married, it seems that her father told me the address of my...

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What are the merits of Buddhism that other religions do not have

I'm interested in “religion,” which has a big influence on people's values, thoughts, and behavior, and I like Buddhist ideas among them, so I've believed in Buddha until now. However, while watching, listening, and researching various opinions, there are aspects where I think every religion...

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The child is sick and in critical condition

At last, the relationship where I was able to ask questions came to an end. I now have a 13 year old daughter and 6 year old son. My 6-year-old son developed a childhood cancer called neuroblastoma 3 years ago and was in remission once after 1 year of fighting the disease. It recurred six months...

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Adults don't understand

Excuse me so often. Thank you for taking the time to browse (^^*) I'm on good terms with a senior male temporary employee I met before at my part-time job. There are things I was familiar with, but in my spare time or during breaks, the two of us often talked and my boss scolded me...

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My feelings are no longer satisfied.

I'm running my own business, and thanks to you, I'm busy. However, recently I haven't been satisfied, or rather I don't know what I'm working for. Our customers will be delighted. We may also be referred to other customers by customers who have made previous requests. So I'm sure my work is...

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Are there any celebrities who have reached nirvana?

Specifically, I want to know what kind of atmosphere people who have reached nirvana have. Is there anyone there?

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I can't trust others

I have depression and work part-time for a living. My problem right now is that they distort evaluations from people around them, and they hunt themselves down and self-destruct. What does that mean They assume their own worries and complexes that “others think and are probably viewed as...

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How to celebrate a friend's enrollment

The other day, a female friend of mine was naturalized at work. I decided to give a naturalization celebration, and I prepared both a joint name with my partner and a joint name with my sister. When I told my partner about this, I was furious and told from multiple places that it was absolutely...

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It's Hard Being Alive

Since I was little, I was plagued by an illness where my hands couldn't stop shaking for unknown causes, and I couldn't understand it at first sight, but in craft classes, I was ridiculed by my friends, and my parents scolded me. It doesn't heal even when I go to the hospital, it just gets worse...

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About university life

I became a college student in the spring. However, due to the spread of the novel coronavirus, we have decided to refrain from doing so, and online classes have now started. Of course, the world is in a difficult time, and I think it can't be helped, but it makes me think about it. I love...

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war, fear of death

Nice to meet you. My name is Yamato. I have a feeling that I'm afraid of dying. Also, I'm caught up in a certain delusion. The place where I live is going to be attacked by a nuclear missile from North Korea. The world is being driven by an invisible force, and we can't help but feel...

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The child suddenly has a fever after visiting graves

Hello. Today, I, my son, my parents, my sister, and my niece went to visit my parents' graves. My grandparents are sleeping in the grave, and they go there about three times a year. I thanked my son for passing kindergarten and told them to take care of my daughter and parents, who tend to get...

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My heart hurts the whole time

We have discussed it before. After that, my husband left home and lives outside of the prefecture, which is very far away. I work to earn living expenses, and I take care of housework, childcare, and other things about my elderly parents and fields all by myself. My heart hurts the whole time,...

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To live by killing anger

This is my first time asking a question. I currently live at my parents' house, and my mother and sister are passionate. There are times when I get unreasonable attacks from my mother and sister, but I can see that if even I get emotional or refute it, it gets out of control and the family...

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I overlooked my pet

I lost my beloved pet hamster 3 days ago I knew that multiple organs, starting with the heart, were bad a few months ago, and they were getting weaker little by little I was bedridden about a week before I passed away, had no food, drink, or excretion from 3 days before, and was in a state of...

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What should I have done

After getting married, I thought that if I could have children, I would naturally want them. A year after getting married, the couple discussed that infertility treatment was difficult and that they would be happy if they had children, but that was fine even if they weren't there. I myself was...

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