Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Things to do until you die

I decided to die in 4 years. Why 4 years? It's fine if you don't say that suicide is bad because it has nothing to do with this consultation. I no longer have a negative image of saying goodbye to this world, so rather than living uselessly long without any hope, I will live as I like for 4...

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Anguish

I understand how bad it is to be afflicted, but are there many people who live well in life without suffering, that is, their worries do not sprout or expand? If there were only people like that, I would be ashamed and pitiful that I was full of worries. Or do we all have more worries as we...

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What should I do about a W affair...

I've been having an affair since 1 year ago. My opponent doesn't have children. I have one toddler. He doesn't get along very well with his wife, and they seem to have been treated as dirty, smelly, etc. at home, so I'm not on bad terms. Rather, he is a very understanding and kind husband....

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Why are there ranks for monks?

Today, while I was at work, a customer said, “It's strange that they even give ranks to monks in the color of their robes. I heard you say, “Originally, Buddhism should not discriminate against people,” and I had doubts, so let me ask you a question. by a monk? There are differences in...

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It became an intractable disease about 3 years ago

About 3 years ago, it became a disease called SLE, which has been designated as an intractable disease. When I was diagnosed, I was so sad that I cried in front of the doctor, I couldn't accept it, and I remember crying for a while. Recently, months and days have passed, and with the help of my...

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I want children, I don't want them

There has been some confusion recently about children. I myself love children, so when I was a student, I thought I would definitely want to have children in the future. However, now that we are in our late 20s, we are now in our late 20s, and since pregnancy, childbirth, and child-rearing...

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About marriage to an affair partner and husband

Currently a married woman, 2 years of marriage without children, We've been having an affair since about six months ago. My partner is single and around 30 years old, about 1 year before marriage This is my ex boyfriend that I was in a relationship with. I was originally in a relationship with...

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About drinking alcohol

I'm struggling with my desire to drink alcohol. I began researching Buddhism after the death of a relative, and I learned that one of the Five Commandments is a commandment not to drink alcohol. When I looked it up on the internet, they said, “'Not drinking alcohol does not admonish...

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I have a question

I'm sorry if this is an impolite question, but what made you decide to become a monk? Can you tell us your motto or words you cherish?

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It makes me want to die of jealousy of people around me

People at the company I worked for in the past are blessed with jobs, and I get jealous when my friend's husband has a better salary or job description than my husband. Then, my heart becomes heavy, and I wonder if it would be easier if I died if it continued to be this painful... What should I...

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I can't forget the events that broke my memories

I went to a privately owned cafe the other day. I used to go there a lot about 5 years ago when I was living alone. They also sell coffee beans, and it was a memorable place where I fell in love with coffee because of the beans I bought at that cafe. When I opened the map on the internet to...

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What is a memorial service

My mother died in a car accident 10 years ago. After that, my older sister took in my mother's Buddhist altar and my father, who lived alone. However, when she passed away, my older sister and father had a tremendous fight with my older sister, father, and I, which led to a tremendous fight, so I...

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Temple-related questions part 1

Questions are flooding in, why? If you think about it, it's probably because it was introduced on TV. This time, I would like to ask questions about temples, etc. I just ran out of characters, so I'm going to do PART 1. Part 2 will be released soon. 1. (It's complex, though...) What...

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I want to die.

I manage to do it every day, but the pain is increasing because I made a mistake in the direction of my efforts. I feel that the person I am is the stupidest and most inferior person around me. I'm afraid of dying. However, I feel like there is no other way to be freed from me other than...

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Do people become nothing when they die

Death is a journey from suffering, right? Does it become nothing when you die? Those left behind will suffer more, right? Isn't that suffering even for those who die? Doesn't that mean dying is still painful?

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There is no hope for Japan's future

I have no hope for Japan's future, and I feel a sense of crisis. If you have negative feelings that you can't do anything about yourself, the condition of your abdomen, which became ill in March, will deteriorate. I think it's a way to come to terms, but when I return to work, I can see various...

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My heart is going to break

It's hard and painful to live in a chaotic world, and in this sense of blockage, there is no point in hosting the Olympics or the like, even if government officials boycott the Uyghur region due to human rights violations against people in the Uyghur region, there is no point in reporting it as a...

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they weren't friends... I think

Hello. I'm indebted to you. This time, it's about my high school friends... I'm having a fight with my high school friend... If you invite that friend to Disney, it would be nice to have a wealthy family. They say, and when you find out that your friend has a disability, I thought so. They...

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Is being ugly a crime?

Hello. Thank you for taking the time to look at my question. What I would like to ask you today is about “is it a crime to not look good?” Actually, I don't have a pretty face at all. When I was a student, I was bullied by it, and even after I became a member of society, I felt a clear...

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I want to erase my memory

Memories of sexual violence suffered decades ago still come back to life, and it's painful. I get caught up in the feeling that my body is unclean. I think my life is over half over already. It's painful to be tormented by this memory like this. I want to erase my memory.

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