Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I was hugged by my uncle during the ossuary

I was hugged by my uncle when I buried my grandfather's remains in his grave. I don't think it's possible for relatives to touch their bodies when they're paying attention to graves, but since it's an important ceremony, I couldn't make a fuss. Even now, a few years later, every time I look at...

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Is there a way to get rid of feelings?

This is my first time asking a question. The sentences are cluttered and difficult to read, but please forgive me. I have a husband, and my husband's best friend (I'll call you Mr. A) There are quite frequent cases where 3 people, including those, play together. It's been since the...

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They say they want a divorce.

Over 4 years have passed since my husband was assigned alone, and it seems that during that time, my husband had a large amount of debt due to gambling, and at the end of April, “I want you to somehow make the money convenient since I can't pay, and if I can't, get divorced, and I want to use...

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The days when I expect it without permission and get depressed

I've been crying for half a year now. Since I was sick with COVID-19 and shingles in September of last year, my work didn't progress as expected, and I was unable to get up from the day after being reprimanded for work failure in mid-October, I took a leave of absence for 2 weeks, completely...

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Damn, would heresy be the worst?

I'm indebted to you. Actually, it became an emerging Buddhist religion about 15 years ago. I left the membership after less than 3 years. That's because I didn't know much at first and got into the faith because I was hesitant, but shamefully, I didn't do much research. At first, I thought it was...

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Bad things I want to forget

I want to live my life by quickly forgetting what I don't like or what I want to forget. I want to forget the slander I saw on the internet and the bad things I was told in real life But I wonder if it's my nature and it drags on forever... The worst thing is that I quickly flash back to the...

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Could you please put in the activity

Good evening. Thank you for your always kind answers. Excuse me for the rampage. Recently, I've been depressed about a lot of things, and I'm impatient when I see friends who have decided on a career path again, I can't get ready for the exam (teacher recruitment exam) that is ahead of next...

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Relatives who get married on NEET

My husband is the eldest son and he is preparing to take over the business in the near future. I have a younger brother, and I was working after graduating from college, but I took a leave of absence due to depressive symptoms, came back to my parents' house, and was unemployed while being...

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About listening to what people say

Do I have to keep and listen to everything my parents and superiors say? By honestly listening to the words my parents said in a religious story and putting them into practice, I've heard that life is going well. Please tell me.

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Is being divorced unconditionally disliked?

Nice to meet you. We got divorced a year ago without two years of marriage and no children. The cause was a personality mismatch and my unforgettable love. Currently, my partner in love is my boyfriend, and I think we have built a good relationship. However, when I think about my future with...

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I don't feel well and want to quit my job, but I'm worried about my life

Work is getting harder year by year, and recently not only can I not get rid of fatigue, but my physical condition continues, such as pain all over my body. There are no days off other than public holidays (8th or 9th) every month, and due to a constant shortage of personnel, I can't take paid...

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The meaning of living even though my heart is broken

Even now, every day I start my day regretting not getting a job in my 20s. I passed a difficult exam with a hard job, but I was working another job at that time and for some reason I didn't change jobs. Even though I studied hard in order to change jobs, I passed the exam. Even now, I have no...

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Parents who throw things away without permission

I decided to leave my parents' house on the occasion of my marriage, but since I can't throw things away, I sorted the things I wanted to dispose of when organizing my home beforehand and asked my parents to dispose of them. However, after a while, I had errands, and when I went back to my...

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I want to somehow live positively even when I'm sick

Nice to meet you. I read the Hasunoha article that was published in the Asahi Shimbun, and I had a consultation with them. As described in my profile, I was finally able to get a job from home in 2024, and I can't say that my income is high due to the employment of people with disabilities,...

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I feel guilty for killing bugs such as spiders

It kills spiders and small insects whose names you don't know. I often crush them with a tissue, and after killing them, they say “I'm sorry” and put their hands together a bit, but even though they feel sorry, they still kill bugs every time. They kill them because they're afraid. For...

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I want to die

I want to die. It's hard to live. I feel like everything I'm doing is useless, and there's no point in living. I don't want to do anything, I don't feel motivated. You might be bothered when you die, but I don't think it's more of a nuisance than being alive. I tried to die before, but in the...

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heart emoticon

Excuse me for asking. When getting in touch via SMS, the other party uses heart emoticons and emojis, but do men usually use heart marks on seniors they are on good terms with? I like it, so I'm interested. Thank you for your advice.

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Resistance to dislike

Currently, I am working on a temporary basis. It was a job that required detailed cleanliness, and I decided that it was not a job that suited me, and I offered to retire and was accepted. My legs were heavy on the way to work, and I started feeling nauseous before going to work in the...

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I'm wondering if I should have an abortion. I'm 10 weeks pregnant.

I became pregnant with his (28 years old) child whom I had been in a relationship for 5 months. However, he is quick to say things that deny his personality (I'm scum). I've been trying my best to fix my bad points, but I've been told over and over again about my way of saying and thinking,...

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Maybe I hit and run

About 5 years ago, I was working as a delivery person, and one day, I felt like I heard a trick sound when parking in the back in the parking lot of the apartment, and when I looked at the side mirror, there was a slight scratch on the side mirror, but I may have hit it at that time, but I...

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