Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

When I saw someone thinking about suicide on SNS

Previously, there was a person who decided the day to die on SNS. I didn't profess that day. I had nothing to do with that person, and I just happened to see the post. However, I have talked to the police because I thought I had to do something, and if I could stop it, I had to stop...

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Do I always have to own a grave?

If I don't have money to buy graves, shouldn't I leave my bones at home?

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What is Zen salvation

　Hello, nice to meet you I'm afraid of dying. That's why I've been hearing about the Jodo Shinshu all this time in search of something salvating. However, I don't get much confidence. By accident, I met someone who attained enlightenment through zazen meditation, and I learned that if you...

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Please tell me how to apologize to someone who has been rejected

There was someone important to me. We were lucky enough to be in a relationship, and we had a happy time for a while. However, when I drink alcohol, my personality changes, and I go wild. This isn't usually the case, but when you're stressed... I have a strong desire for exclusivity, and...

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About the love affair between teacher and student (OK to talk about it)

A love affair between a teacher and a student. If anyone comments, I'll write in detail. ※Because I'm bad at speaking and not good at honorifics If that's OK, please comment. P.S. I tried to register before, but it wasn't easy to register as a member, so I was finally able to do it...

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Is self-harm unforgivable?

I had my first arm cut on New Year's Day as a sixth grader. I felt like a sandstorm was flowing through my head and my field of vision was dark, and I was hurt because I couldn't think about it properly. On the verge of getting hurt, I first thought “I want to die,” and then made up excuses...

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It's unreasonable to get around my husband

I'm always indebted to you. I've discussed my concerns about my husband's job (elementary school teacher) before. I'm still having trouble with Monster Parents. There were a lot of divisions this year, and in addition to being busy with work, parents got in just because their children did bad...

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Should I postpone my marriage?

Thank you for always being there. She is a woman who has been in a relationship and her boyfriend, who has been in a relationship for 5 years, told me to wait 3 years before getting married. After that, it was shortened one year later, and I was scheduled to enroll in December this year, and I...

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I'm in trouble because my husband is a spoiled boy

There's nothing I can do about my husband getting bogged down at work every morning. I've always been bad at mornings, but “I don't want to go to work,” “I don't want to think about work,” “I woke up once when I slept today and wanted to go to the bathroom,” and “I still want to sleep.” I'm in a...

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Break up or not break up

I have a boyfriend that I've been dating for a year and a half. I'm in my late 30s and he's 8 years older. He is very kind, and he dotes on me and takes great care of me even with this. However, I feel uneasy about my future with him, and I'm uneasy about my future with him until I have an...

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Is this an empty sickness?

Before I knew it, I was brushing my teeth in the middle of the day. I'm not aware of it. I'm in a daze and can't get into zazen. My eyes are floating, and my feet are wobbly. What should I do if I just knead it? I now know that living with the senses is the right answer. I understand that...

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On the extremes of living

I often hear that thinking about dying is an extreme idea, but what is the basis for saying that thinking about living isn't extreme?

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I have no hope for the future and I have shortness of breath

Nice to meet you. Thank you for taking the time to look through it. Not long ago, I had no hope for the future, and I always felt shortness of breath, so I asked you if you could objectively think about how to grasp my situation and live my life. I became a member of society this spring, and...

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A silly playful game called everyday conversation

I'm really disgusted by the fact that conversations with people are so meaningless and so stupid. I'm sick of this series of farce: pretending to be interested in myself, pretending to understand, and pretending to sympathize with me. The moment you realize that humans are creatures that don't...

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Trauma and how to switch feelings

There are worries and traumas that are not something you can easily talk to people about. The traumatic event was in May last year, and the related events were from February to August last year, but even now I remember it at an accidental moment, and I am filled with regret, anger against...

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What is mourning or defamation...

Please tell me more about mourning and bereavement. My grandmother passed away recently. I'm planning to get married next year, but I'm thinking about whether it's okay to say hello and make a report. My opponent is a deputy chief priest and local public servant of the Otani school of...

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The torch

It's so warm, it's hard to get out. It's staying. I want to change, but I can't. Maybe they're really afraid of changing. It's staying. What have I been doing for a month?

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Life without graves

Hello. I'm worried about graves. My husband, who is an only child, doesn't seem to want to have a grave in the future. I've never heard of a grave at my husband's parents' house either. We've never visited graves together. There are also few relatives. In this day and age, it doesn't...

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Is love and marriage tough for young bald people?

I'm 25 years old. Recently, I met someone at work that I would like to be in a relationship with. I'll be with that person on a business trip 10 days from now. We just talk normally in the workplace. So when I muttered that I wanted to go to the ○○ zoo, the person said that they wanted to go to...

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Grandfather's illness

I've been living with my grandfather for 25 years since I was born. He was the grandfather of good health, but he discovered a heart disease the other day. When I went to visit him, multiple infusions were hanging, my ureters got in, and although I understood about myself, I couldn't speak...

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