Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I feel embarrassed to be alive

I'm posting a question for the first time. My grandmother passed away 4 years ago, and as a grandmother, I was very sad at the time. But at the same time, around that time, I began to feel ashamed that I was alive. In the few years since my grandmother passed away, not only the person herself...

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It's Hard to Raise Children Just Because They Get Angry at Kids

I have a 2 year old boy. Recently, I've had a habit of saying “I don't like it,” and I'm not calm. The number of scenes where people get angry because they don't listen to what they say has increased quite a bit. I'm so angry myself that I've never seen anyone this angry outside. Of course,...

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What does it mean to suffer at the end

My biological father died of cancer last year. When my father dies, it's common for terminal cancer patients to die (?) He died in a state where he “had no place to put his place.” At the funeral, my father's friend said, “My face has changed.” I cannot help but regret not being able to pass...

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I don't have room in my mind and can't even think about others

Do your best for yourself. I'm busy every day because I have a lot of work to remember. People tell me to be kind to others, but I really can't even care about people. I'm important to myself.

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I'm suffering from infertility

Nice to meet you. It's been 8 years since I got married, and I'm still worried because I haven't been blessed with children. Although they were pregnant several times at the beginning of their marriage, they had repeated miscarriages, and recently they are in a situation where even signs of...

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Will you keep getting lost for the rest of your life

I've been using this service for a few years. The child that was in my wife's stomach at the time of the latest question is now cheerfully crawling under my feet. Well, now I'm in the position of a father, but my personality doesn't change for better or worse, does it? I still make a lot of...

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Is the effort worth it?

There's no point in just making an effort. If there are no results, then the way you put in the effort is wrong. There is no point in a wrong effort. I think this is correct. Between childhood and student life, I think we should praise the effort itself and the process. This is because it is...

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Jealousy of people who can do things I can't

Recently, I sometimes feel “jealous of people who can do things I can't do.” For example, it's about pianos. When I was a kid, I told my parents that I wanted to learn piano, but for financial reasons, I had no choice but to give up. Therefore, until I became an adult, I always organized...

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What is the probability of going to humanity out of the six roads

(Written by my 5 year old son. (I'm sorry for the kid's question, but the person himself is very serious.) I've heard that people go somewhere out of the six roads when they die. I want to be reborn as a human again. ・How many people can go to the humanitarian community? ・How can I...

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Disappearing mountain villages and myself unable to do anything are empty

Nice to meet you, please forgive me for making this a bit long. After I graduated from college, I worked as a white-collar worker in an urban area. I myself was born in a rural area on a flatland, but my parents are from an abandoned village deep in the mountains, and I was often taken from an...

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About Kouten's new banknote

Thank you for always taking the time to consult with us. I posted it because I wanted to get your opinions on the new Kosen bill. As described in previous consultations, my sister died 20 days after it was discovered too late when she was found to have terminal cancer. That was February of this...

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Reunion with my wife (10 years less) and lover

I've now been married for 10 years. I love and appreciate my wife, but I've been sexless for many years, and she hasn't been able to respond to my wishes for children, and I continue to worry strongly about this. It was over a year ago, and we had a consultation here as well. Meanwhile, I...

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I'm worried about the future

Thank you for your support before. Thank you very much. I'm a mother raising a child. Maybe my postpartum constitution has changed, I tend to get sick and go to the hospital a lot... I'm making an effort to review my lifestyle and go to counseling for introspection if it doesn't stay this way,...

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About how to have a heart in the midst of illness anxiety

Recently, the results of the health checkup were poor, and as a result of performing a thorough examination at the university hospital, it became a follow-up observation, and I became afraid to even make a schedule for 1 month from now. I'm worried about what the test results will be in the...

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I want you to explain the Four Law Seals and the Eightfold Path!

Thank you for your hard work. I'm researching Buddhism in school research study assignments. What are the basic principles? What are we aiming for? What are they doing for that? I looked it up using the internet in various ways, but in particular, “the important points of Buddhism...

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I got sick with COVID-19 at work and it got worse. It's painful.

Hello. My feelings haven't subsided, and I'm at a loss. I would like you to teach me ways of thinking that will make you feel comfortable. I was working at a hospital. In spring, the coronavirus cluster occurred due to a mistake on the hospital side, and I was also affected. Unfortunately,...

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How to become an Obo?

I'm studying Buddhism through university correspondence. Eventually, I'm thinking of getting the qualification of a monk. However, since he isn't the son of the temple, I'm worried about whether I'll be able to live. Even if you ask someone who has graduated from a correspondence school, you...

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Son's death

It's been a year since my beloved son committed suicide, and they are still bad parents who are obsessed with their son without getting through with their bones (son's wishes). They are pathetic parents who couldn't stop rescuing their son from suffering or taking his own life. Every day, I pray...

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There are only terrible incidents

I have no intention of defending murder, and I don't understand the psychology of murdering others without a grudge because they want to end their own lives at all. However, I think there are a lot of people who are being hunted down right now, just like the culprit. I think there are Japanese...

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I have a question about the Buddhist altar that was in my parents' house.

We look forward to working with you. Due to various circumstances, my parents moved into the facility this time and decided to leave my parents' house. I already got married 15 years ago and have left my parents' house. At my parents' house, I enshrined Buddhist altars from generation to...

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