Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

How to get rid of anger at my mother-in-law...

I married my husband 4 years ago, and since the marriage was decided, my dislike for my mother-in-law has grown steadily and I have been suffering. The very first one was when my dad died. I lost my beloved father when I was a teenager. I was so depressed when I died so fast. At that time, I...

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Should we lose our genes and individuals?

Genes determine health, appearance, and various abilities. It almost affects life, and whether life is fun or not is determined by genetics. Well, I'm about to finish my early 20s. People around me will get married, and in a few years they will have children and become dads. I was...

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What is “tolerance”

I have a short temper. I immediately notice others' faults and failures, and I feel a bit irritated by them. Also, on the other hand, I'm concerned about other people's eyes, and when people say I don't like it, it drags on forever. I know that disgust makes the other person uncomfortable,...

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It's tough to work hard

I've been lazy since I was a kid. Even now, when compared to people around me, the speed and quality of work are completely poor, and I often fall into self-loathing. The less I work, the more the burden on others increases. I don't want to bother you, so I don't think it's good to be lazy. I...

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I want to get rid of the foliage plants in my house...

I'm indebted to you Now in my house when my kids were little From the little leaf I brought home huge?? It has grown into (11 years have passed) Plants are compressing the veranda I'm in trouble (I'm Giant Mother Leaf It's going to increase so much!) 2 in a large pot and 1 in a...

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I want to acquire the calm characteristic of monks

I'm a coffin keeper. I am doing a precious job of being close to the grief of the bereaved families and making final preparations for the deceased. It sounds good when written like this, but in reality, I'm bad at communicating and I'm so bad at it that I don't really know how to snuggle...

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Why are people who have done bad things more appreciated

At a small company, the fact that I received moral harassment from one person and continued to be denied was not understood by anyone in the company, and as that situation continued, I couldn't control it and my tone only got stronger. I look good on people who are superior to me, so I've become...

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About sexual desire

I was wondering if it's okay to ask a question here I want to go into the customs. Is it a crime to go into a custom?

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About Amazon's monk service

It seems that monk flights to arrange monks have recently started on Amazon, but monk flights may be a convenient service for people who don't know monks or people who are not close to temples. However, “I don't care because I think of Buddhism as a business!” It is certain that there are also...

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I can't say no, and it's hard because I have a weak heart.

I've always been unable to say no, and I have a weak heart. They give up on invitations to eat from people they don't like, and they give up and take on tasks that nobody wants to do. I don't really understand it myself, but when I'm being questioned about Yes No, I feel as if I'm being...

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I want to enter the Buddha's path

I'm sorry over and over again. You won't be able to overcome the trials that come one after another. In this day and age, we can't even die. Physical, social issues, and relationships. Hard work is also limited. It's insurmountable. What should I do to get away from the world and...

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Manga Hijiri ☆ Old Man

I love the comic called “Holy ☆ Old Man” in which Buddha appears, and I would be happy if any monks read it well could read this question. Bonten and Taishakuten appear in the story, but Buddha is called “Siddhartha” by his name before he realized it, and Buddha uses honorific expressions....

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I want to do work related to temples

I want to do work that involves temples. I've loved temples ever since I was in middle school. I was often amazed by slightly strange children who begged their parents to visit a temple rather than a certain famous park. When I went on to college, I chose a university in Nara prefecture...

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Attempts to commit suicide over and over again.

I am mentally disabled with complex PTSD and obsessive-compulsive disorder. I attempted suicide in a situation where the future could not be seen and trauma treatment was difficult. All of them ended in an attempt, and I feel frustrated. Hang yourself, OD, drink bleach. None of them committed...

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What should I do from now on with my husband whose disgust won't go away

My husband is a good-natured person whose sincerity is his greatest virtue. They overcame many years of infertility treatment, and they loved their only daughter so much that it didn't hurt even if they saw her. We enjoyed every event with our family, and it was just a normal happy...

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I want to study Buddhism.

I'm an amateur, but I'd like to learn Buddhism. If you have any helpful books or websites, etc., could you please tell me? Incidentally, my family is the Jodo Shinshu sect. It seems like there are a lot of Buddhist ideas in everyday life. Thank you for your support.

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Why shouldn't we have an affair

Hello. I don't understand “why we shouldn't have an affair.” I posted it in the hope that the monks would teach me. I understand how much infidelity is a crime within the family of the parties involved. For me, how sad would it be if my husband or parents had an affair (even though they're...

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A monk who became a monk is married.

I love Buddhism and I'm studying it. I have a simple question, so please let me know. I'm learning that Buddhism is the teaching of becoming a Buddha by becoming a monk and practicing. It's a long way off for me in my normal life. However, modern monks get married, drink alcohol, and live...

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I want to become a monk.

I want to become a monk. I only know an overview of the various denominations. First, I want to know if there is a chance to become a monk. I know there is a Bukkyo University. Thank you for your kind advice, Mr. Gobo.

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Effects of suicide and countermeasures

It's probably not OK to listen too much, but thank you. Please tell me what you must do to avoid bothering others when committing suicide. Also, should I express my gratitude so far? I have a feeling that people who leave words give an impression. It's not a positive question, but thank you.

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