Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I can't believe it...

Hello. Thank you for helping me here before, I can think more positively now than before. Right now, I have a boyfriend that I've been dating for a year. I used to take love counseling. What was my unrequited love has come true and we are now able to have a relationship. And yet, I...

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Are there any mistakes between the meaning of memorial services and these values

First, please forgive me for asking disrespectful questions even though I am a high school student and unfamiliar with Buddhist manners and deep teachings. I am currently a 17-year-old examinee, and I was absent from my grandparents' first memorial service that was held today. There is also a...

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Distress caused by ichthyosis

Mainly on my arms and legs, I was born with a skin called ichthyosis that looks like fish scales. Sometimes, when I was in the lower grades of elementary school, I was teased for that ugly skin with “cracked crackling walleye,” etc., and when I was in the fourth year of elementary school, I was...

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Aiming for justice

I'm indebted to you. There were times when my feelings were fuzzy, so I would appreciate it if you could tell me something. I'm currently 8 months pregnant. When I was sitting on the train home from work, the old woman next to me scolded me, saying, “There's a pregnant woman standing up, so...

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Regrets about naming children

I gave birth to my daughter the other day. I regret naming that child. I had been considering a few candidates for my husband's name since I was pregnant, but there weren't many names that came right, so I decided to decide after looking at his face after giving birth. After giving birth,...

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About Japanese Buddhist monks

I'm a priest. The reason is that I want to become an official Buddhist disciple. Apart from that, I don't want to be the chief priest of a temple, nor do I want to recite sutras at the funeral. However, what I've recently come to think is that in Japanese Buddhism, monks live almost no...

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My heart seems to be interrupted by my mother's care

Thanks to you, I finally settled my life abroad in late March, applied for the immigration bureau in order to leave a path for my future, returned to my parents' house with my pet, and continued to support my mother. I had a conflict with my other family (for my mother <myself) about my past...

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I misrepresented my work history to my job offer

I wrote a lie on the resume I submitted to my job offer. Furthermore, during the interview, I lied about the reason for my retirement. The length of time I was enrolled in my previous job has been inflated. I know that making corrections and apologies before joining the company will make me...

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I feel sorry for myself.

Good morning. Previously, I was asked to discuss my work, but I was working as a nursing assistant at a private hospital, but no matter what, I didn't remember my job, so I quit my job. I really wanted to work as a nursing assistant, so I found a job as a nursing assistant at a university...

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Can I not go to the grave?

I'm three sisters. My mom is enjoying going on trips at the end of her life, as if to make up for what she has been struggling with until now. My mother has always said, “I don't want to go to this house's grave.” It has always been rooted in the fact that my father's parents, relatives, etc....

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Past Failures and How to Redeem Them

Now that I'm in my 30s, people around me have been promoted, got married, and had children, and while thinking that I wasn't there recently during a period like a report card for the first time I did in my 20s, I'm now being tormented by the regrets I made when I was young and foolish in the...

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I lied to him. I regret it. I want your forgiveness.

Thank you for reading. Please be aware that it is my fault and let me ask the question. I've been in a relationship with him for about 2 years. My boyfriend gets mad at me for going to a drinking party. That's why I sometimes lie about drinking parties. I found out about it the other day...

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I have a past where I hurt people, and I'm worried about the future

Nice to meet you, I came across this site while doing a lot of research, and I'm writing it for the first time. I hurt a friend when I was in middle school. They often said things that looked down on, such as “stupid,” “stupid,” etc., and LINE replies were careless and looked down on. There...

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I want to affirm

all? Will I be rewarded if I stay alive? They get involved with strange people, shocking things happen in relationships, and they are blamed. I don't do it because I think it's selfish, bad talk, or annoying. It's just an example, but an acquaintance said he used to shoplift when he was...

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The cost of infidelity

I have a woman I dated for 5 years in an adulterous relationship. Last year, my adulterous relationship was dissolved and I was able to return to my home, but every time I faced my actions up until now, my wife and children, I was worried that I was disqualified as a husband and father, and my...

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I'm afraid to live

Nice to meet you. Please let me discuss it. Two years ago, I went to a university in Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region of China to study abroad. I received an admission permit from the university, got a visa, and entered the country without any problems. However, I came to the stage of...

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About a 20-year-old only daughter

I got divorced when my daughter was in elementary school, and I am a single mother and have lived with my daughter until now. My daughter graduated from high school and got a job, and now she is in her second year. Since commuting by car is essential for the place of employment, when deciding...

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I apologized once

I work creatively with pictures and writing. Previously, in a closed environment where only friends were present, there was an incident where characters created by friends were treated roughly and hurt their opponents. At that time, I immediately apologized, promised to respond and prevent...

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What is the value of oneself that makes no one special.

Good evening. This is my first time posting. I'm a man in his late 30s. From when I was a student until now, I have conveyed my thoughts when the woman I was interested in shows up, but we have never been united. On the other hand, I have given up on the fact that I'm no longer wanted by...

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I want to rediscipline myself

I'm tired today, let's go to bed without washing... It looks like it's going to rain today, so let's stop going to the supermarket... I'm fine starting my diet tomorrow... I just wasted my money again... etc Run away from “what I decided to do” using a little pretext When you know that you...

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