Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Is it painful to be with my mother, are parents disrespectful

My mom and I live together, and it's very difficult. If you have a slightly cold attitude, they are told that they are bad people, that they don't remember being raised that way, and that if they get into an argument, they immediately go out and break up the relationship. Normally, I think they...

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I'm getting scared.

It was posted on the internet that all women are going to hell, but are all women going to hell? I was scared, so I asked a question.

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I want to go but I can't go 1 week

Last year, despite all the twists and turns, I completed my father's funeral and the 49th memorial service. This year is my first anniversary, but I got carried away just by exchanging LINE with my brother, and I was rejected because I didn't have to come. When I told them that the date and time...

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Please tell me how to have a heart to shake off past regrets

This is the person I talked about before that I had regrets about raising children. I was told that I'm obsessed with the past and don't look at the present. In order to act positively about what we can do in the future, I would like to be able to see and accept the children who are there now...

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Even though they went out of their way to answer it.

As always, I'm worried. People don't switch between people due to their own stubbornness I don't like it. I wonder if this part is salt-compatible. Even now, there are many responses that are so cold that it becomes difficult at work. So, once I said I was quitting, they scolded me because...

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I'm wondering if I should go to the farewell party for club activities.

The reason I'm at a loss is that I've been a hub for club activities since last year. Last year, I was evaluated by my senior and appointed as a department manager, and since I was appointed as a department manager, I managed club activities, etc., but I became a department manager even though...

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The reason why they are being kept alive

It is an answer to questions such as the meaning of life and the purpose of life, and I see responses that it is being kept alive, but I understand that it is being kept alive. But we humans are not plants. Just like a plant, it's just there; if you just exist, you won't think about meaning or...

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How to not succumb to fear and hesitation when committing suicide?

I plan to commit suicide in six months. I'm not going to change this idea. I'm tired of hearing advice like “talk to 00” everywhere. They are already receiving medical treatment. So I'm not asking for it. When I commit suicide, I want to know the Buddhist view of life and death in order to...

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I'm ashamed of myself

I recently started my first part-time job. However, from the first time I went to work, I was frightened by the large amount of work content and things I had to remember. I've lost the confidence to continue for a long time. My friends and family told me it would be fine once I got used to...

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I'm worried about whether I should believe in Buddhism or Shinto.

This is my first time asking a question. I was hesitant about whether it was something I could talk to Gobo about, but since there were no other people I could talk to, I took the brush. I'm sorry if I've been disrespectful. Due to family circumstances, I have been interested in religion...

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Does choosing the path of ascetic practice prioritize oneself over the weak in society?

(I understand that this is not the case for all denominations) This is a question about how zazen meditation paves the way to enlightenment. Decades of ascetic practice and zazen meditation may certainly be a step towards enlightenment for that monk. However, in the meantime, there are many...

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Feelings of guilt for children born small

Hello. I'm the mother of a son who will soon be 3 years old. At the time of pregnancy, I was suffering from a neurosis called an eating disorder (overeating and vomiting), so I had almost no nutrition, and I was only able to gain 4 kilograms of weight even before pregnancy. As a result, my son...

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She worked at a sex shop

As the title suggests, it turns out that she works at a sex shop. Actually, it was discovered that they had worked in the sex industry once before, so we discussed it. At this time, the job advertisement that was posted at the store was false, pretending to be a normal part-time job, and since...

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I want to change my family temple

[Question] Can I move my grandfather/grandmother from my family temple to another temple? Consultant (me): W family, mother's parents' house: T family. Grandfather (mother's father), grandmother (mother's mother), uncle A (mother's eldest brother), and aunt A (uncle A's wife) are in the...

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I'm worried about my gaze.

I'm worried about my gaze. For some reason, they seem to glare at people around them. Because of that, people talk bad about it, saying “I'm glancing at you” and “it's disgusting.” I'm very concerned about the person who came into my field of vision I watch it even if I don't want...

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The reason why they are being kept alive

I am saved by Hasunoha's answers every time. However, I have not been able to put into practice most of the advice I was given. Negative emotions are so big and heavy that they are crushed. I don't think it can be helped if people think they're being spoiled, but I just can't move. He really...

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Can I learn Buddhism on a site called the Buddhism Online Introductory Course?

There were a lot of things this year, and I experienced it firsthand, and I spent my days making my heart ache So, it feels like I got a lot of information on the internet and got confused and amplified my suffering Under such circumstances, I met here, had a few consultations, and I feel...

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What should I do at the end of my life

Thank you for your busy schedule My own illness (in my 40s) progressed little by little I think I have to put an end to my life Where should I start I don't know, I'm worried My parents have also been divorced, and when I was a kid I hardly remember visiting graves. I got married, and...

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About the business

I would like to ask you a question tonight. In Buddhism, there are bad causes and bad effects, and good causes and good effects The world deceives people with lies, exploits wealth from the poor, discriminate against races and ethnic groups, commit violence, incite wars There are people who...

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The abnormal complex of being inexperienced in sexual intercourse

I'm a 23 year old man. I will be a new member of society starting in April. As the title suggests, I have never had sexual intercourse with women (commonly known as a virgin). Also, I have an abnormal complex about being a virgin. At the same time, I have an abnormal longing for sexual...

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