Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I can't feel safe talking to my husband

I'm worried about my relationship with my husband. Before I got married, I thought she was a kind and safe person, but little by little after I became pregnant, my feelings of “not being safe” increased. For example, even if I say “I didn't like it” or “I was sad,” people sometimes say “I...

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About raising children in this society

I have 5 and 2 year old toddlers. It's been about 2 months since I recently returned to work, and during those 2 months, my children caught colds frequently and I was often absent from work. There is a thing, but it's hard to work while continuing to apologize. My friends are all struggling with...

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How can I get rid of the pain of flashbacks?　

　Now that I've learned the teachings of Buddhism, I think I can understand the importance of living in the present in my head. However, at an unexpected moment in everyday life, memories that you are about to forget come back to life in flashbacks and are suddenly dragged into the past....

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About religious solicitations

About 4 months ago, I was invited to join an emerging religion by a colleague at work. Meanwhile, they repeatedly refused to go to religious institutions, and even though they told them they weren't interested, they invited me over and over again. My ancestors' causal relationships have an...

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I'm afraid of happiness. I'm tired of life

Am I just a person who can't be happy anymore? I'm a 37 year old woman. I'm still in my 30s, but my father died suddenly, and my mother died by suicide. At this point, I think a normal person would be unhappy at the level where they would kill themselves, but when something good always happens...

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“Feeling emotions” and “not appreciating things”

Your questions have been answered before, and thank you very much for that section. As I study the teachings of Buddhism on a daily basis at hasunoha, there are points where I don't know what to think about, so let me ask you a question. I'm currently going to a psychiatrist due to depressive...

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The meaning of life

Please tell me the meaning of life! I'm not thinking about suicide or cutting my list, but I don't really understand the meaning of being alive. In 100 years, most of the people alive today will surely be dead. Certainly, there are sad things and fun things when you're alive. However, in this...

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I haven't been able to grow anything I want to commit suicide

My teens and twenties haven't put much effort into anything. Even if I live like this, I can't see any hope, and it seems that Buddha attained enlightenment in 34th place, but in my case, it doesn't seem like it will last that long. I'm now an empty, empty old man. I've heard over and over...

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The Middle Modern Doctrine

I recently learned that the essence of Shinto teachings is the Middle Modern Doctrine. Nakamai's mentality, “By concentrating on the present and living in the present, we can pave the way.” I understand the logic very well, but when I think about working on my daily life, I really can't...

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The feeling of myself going through my head is unfortunate

Thank you for always listening to me. We talked once about nursing care. I continued to take care of them, but my mother-in-law, who lives with me, fell and broke down → was hospitalized. After being discharged from the hospital, they are recommended to consider a facility because they are...

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Things don't last because I'm not good at

It hasn't continued since long ago. I went to elementary, middle, high school, and junior college, but I quit my club activities and didn't get a job as a nursery teacher. There are also some that I quit my job right away. I don't have any talents, and I don't have anything good at. Because...

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Is it OK to admit that I wasn't loved or wasn't loved

Admitting that I wasn't loved or loved by my parents made my suffering easier. isn't it wrong to think this way? Until now, I've thought, “If you were a parent, you should be like this to your child, but my parents don't have that at all.” There is no end to the list of things I'm satisfied...

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I'm afraid to ask monks about meat...

I will ask questions with courage. People around the world are killing target creatures and eating meat. Buddhist monks don't kill living creatures and live vegetarians, don't they? Of course, killing a living thing is called killing. I always try not to kill insects, and I gently put...

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Why does attitude grow when you become a veteran at work?

When you experience a certain number of years at work and become like a veteran, forget the feeling you had when you were a rookie Why is it that their attitude is so arrogant that they feel as if they know everything from the beginning and can do it? It's no wonder. Even professional...

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I think my husband is bad friends too.

Thank you for taking a look. It's about my husband, My husband has been abusive to me until now. Incompetent, lackluster housewife. A full-time housewife who can't. Physiologically not accepted. stupid. shut up! learn. Put them to sleep quickly! maybe it's my fault. etc., violence. Tear up...

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I feel like my heart is too narrow

I'm a high school student. My younger brother, who is in middle school, is confused even though he is studying for the regular test using my past questions. For now, ostensibly, I'm asking them to quit, saying that studying using past questions is useless for entrance exams, but my younger...

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I want to die soon ①

A 31-year-old single male has a developmental disability (pervasive developmental disorder). I want to die, and I just want to die fast. There are many reasons why it's hard to live. First, you must have a developmental disability. As a result, relationships, work, and everything are not...

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I'm so sad to lose my mom.

I lost my mother to cancer in April of this year. It was announced in September of last year, and it's only been 7 months. When the announcement was made, I told my attending physician that there are still places I want to go and that I want to see my grandson (niece from my point of view) grow....

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The divorce has been decided

It's been 10 years since we got married. We had our first fight the other day, and we ended up getting divorced in 1 week, and discussions are underway now. It seems that the reason they want to get divorced is a difference in their sense of money. I've been managing my household since I got...

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Job hunting, relationships, romance... it's not going well.

Good evening. My name is Soyo and I am a fourth year university student. Job hunting isn't progressing easily, and as people around me decide on job offers, I continue to be rejected even after being interviewed, and my feelings are sinking. I compare myself to my cousins and surroundings. Even...

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