Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I'm engaged but I'm uneasy

I thought every day would be full of happiness, but it made me anxious. Can marriage funds be saved? I wonder if I can live with this person? I'm too serious myself, so maybe it's a kind of marriage blue. Please give me some advice on how to get through it more positively and happily.

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Was my action wrong?

My husband's mother doesn't have much life expectancy. Ending note when you're better than now It's my mother who wrote it, but there are also life support measures I was asked for and given an ending note I looked at my notebook by myself. My husband's feelings for my older brother were...

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People around me are frustrated...

I have a disease called cerebrospinal fluid penia, and I live an uneasy everyday life suffering from various symptoms. I'm probably immature, but people around me envy me. Even if I just have a healthy body, I wish I could be more grateful. Even when I meet my friends, that kind of thing is...

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I don't get used to it at work, and I'm worried about not being able to work

It's my 3rd time since I became a member of society, and it's been six months since I changed jobs, but in addition to not being able to work, I feel that everyone doesn't like me. There's no one I can talk to. I don't have a place at work, and it's really hard. My current workplace is a white...

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How to treat him and how to control the feeling that you want to do what you want

I was asked to discuss the theme of “socializing with people” in a separate consultation, and I feel that positioning for my boyfriend is the biggest of them all. My relationship with him, who originally didn't show much of my feelings, became strained because I'm bad at understanding people's...

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Wishing You Love Me

I had a discussion with her the other day. I'd like to discuss one more thing here. Why aren't things going well with my current girlfriend? When I thought about the fundamental problem, I understood that I was uneasy and frustrated because I didn't feel “loved.” For me, it's the frequency...

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Notice

My 86-year-old father has lung cancer and seems to have chest pain every time he eats I'm worried about whether I should notify my father who is losing weight about cancer There's no blur, but my mother told me to let her die without telling her about cancer, but I want to spend time telling my...

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How to relax and rest

How does a monk take a break? Are you taking a day off? I'm really bad at taking a break. I can't get rid of my mental fatigue at all, even if I have a holiday. Mental fatigue just builds up, and it's painful. I'm sorry for the slightly unrelated question to Buddhism I wanted to get some...

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The high level of pride and the feeling of looking down on people

Thank you for always providing me with all the guidance. I've been thinking about it for a long time, and I don't know what to do anymore, so I'm stuck in every direction and have a consultation. A private friend pointed it out when she saw me having trouble getting along with others. “Pride...

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How to live positively

Nice to meet you, my name is Mame. Please let me discuss it with you. My self-loathing is so intense, Especially in the middle of the night, I feel an inferiority complex compared to others, I feel so guilty about what I've done in the past. Because of that, I thought about a lot of things...

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Why You Shouldn't Kill Yourself

I'm indebted to you. I'm not saying I want to die right now, I haven't understood “why you shouldn't commit suicide” for a while. I can understand that this is because it causes trouble to bereaved families and others. However, I think there are people who are alive who cause trouble to...

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The death of my real mother

Hello, this is the person who consulted me about the death of my American mother-in-law in May of this year. Thank you very much for that festival. This year, disasters continued, and I lost my beloved mother in Japan at the beginning of December. Although she was elderly, she was a healthy...

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How should I deal with the feeling of emptiness?

I read everyone's questions and answers, and I'm always studying a lot. This time, I was wondering if you could teach me how to deal with my own feelings, so I would like to discuss it with you. I think I'm living a very fulfilling life. I am grateful that I was given the work I wanted to...

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Maybe I'm in love with my college teacher

This is my first question, thank you. I'm currently in college. I have something like a crush on a teacher who is working hard for it. The teacher is in her 30s We also talk about our hobbies, and our teachers also talk to us about various things. It's so much fun while we talk. Since...

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I want to fix rough use of money

I've never saved money until now, and I've almost used up my monthly salary until the next month's salary. In particular, I sometimes spend around 100,000 yen a month on clothes. I buy many clothes that cost around 10,000 yen, so I sometimes throw them away without wearing much. Every...

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I can't stop blaming myself, saying, “Poor people who aren't popular will die.”

I'm indebted to you. I'm homosexual, Every time an encounter or romantic relationship ends unwell, I don't feel like I've caused trouble to my partner. Even if no specific trouble has occurred, The fact that it took time and energy for people like me I feel sorry for the other...

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Refine your personality.

It's been a while. I'm always indebted to you. This is Yuri. This time, I would like to ask you a question about refining your personality. In the field of education, the phrase “refining individuality” is often used, and I think it is becoming the two major educational terms along with...

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How to organize your mind for a family member who died due to a bad relationship

It's been about 3 months since the funeral was over, and I'm in trouble because I think about my father over and over again. That too is a bad memory. I was sexually abused by my father when I was 7 to 15 years old. It's about touching or being touched, though. No one in the family knows. I...

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Great Prajna Sutra

Nice to meet you, hello. I think it's only once after and before the 600 volumes of the Great Hannya Sutra Since it is difficult to buy sutras, is it possible to do anything else? The reason is for myself, such as having time. We look forward to working with you.

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For some reason I can't decide on one, but...

I was depressed and anxious about the future due to my divorce, but I was saved by a program called Morning Sermon and became interested in Buddhism, and I went to a temple every week to do various things, such as doing zazen meditation for a year, going to Goma Falls, chanting sutras, and...

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