Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Monk from home

I think it's a question. Isn't it difficult being a monk from home? Isn't there a lot of people who have almost zero jobs as monks? Just a personal guess.

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I killed my hamster 2

It's papaya. I don't know the password for my previous account, so I'm sorry. http://hasunoha.jp/questions/2066 Thank you very much for your answers to the questions above. We held the memorial service as much as possible. Also, from now on, I would like to place my photos in my room and...

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I want to know “myself.” A turning point in life?

I'm a 26 year old woman. The trouble has continued for the past six months or so. Other things that had been going well until now, such as continuing illness among family members, getting into trouble continuously at work, and things that had gone well until now suddenly stopped going well. My...

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Please give a neutral answer

I broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago. Last Tuesday, when we had lunch together, they asked me about the atmosphere at work, and I said, “The person I hired recently retired without telling you anything. When I told them, “It's fine to say one word by phone or email,” my boyfriend said,...

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Why is there pleasure in violence?

I'm a 33-year-old man. It is said that violence and murder are prohibited, so why did God give pleasure to violence? I used to bully me when I was in middle school. I'm reflecting on it now, but I think it was fun back then. There was a spider that had plucked the dragonfly's wings and attached...

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How to deal with perfectionism

I've only watched it for a long time, but I'm consulting for the first time. I've been a new employee for about 2 months since I changed jobs. There are some things I'm still unfamiliar with, but I'm doing my best. However, there is a problem, and that is that my younger boss, who is my mentor,...

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I don't want to think about college entrance exams

Recently, my burnout has been so bad that I haven't been able to study at all. Until a year or two ago, I thought it would be fun to study and achieve results. I used to go to the school study room every day, and I studied from morning till night. However, I've been feeling really...

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I lied about being a virgin.

I'm a 38 year old single woman. A few weeks ago, I had sex with my 12 year older boyfriend. Because I was in so much pain, I thought, “Is this my first time?” When asked, I immediately told a lie saying that was the case. My first experience was raped by an acquaintance. I became scared when...

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I'm looking for a temple.

A long time ago, I had a dream of praying at a temple mausoleum, but it's a temple I don't know at all, so I don't know where it is. I've been looking for it, but I don't know. It's a very large mausoleum, and there are doors so large that a black lacquer person could enter, and there are two or...

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I end up asking myself

I have an older brother. We haven't seen each other in over 30 years. My husband and I did both my grandmother's funeral and my father's funeral. My grandmother took care of her for 3 years, and my father took care of her for 14 years. I'm grateful to my husband. It was a huge financial...

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Seventh taboo

My father died seven times. My mother left behind has few pensions and doesn't have much savings. I want to do my father's memorial service, but I can't afford it, so I'm worried. Is it a punishment for not doing a proper memorial service? Would my father be sad?

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I don't understand the value of my existence at work.

I moved to a new job this year. I'm a high school teacher. I was transferred quickly, and I'm in charge. There are about 10 grade staff, and I am the only new member. It seems like my homeroom teacher became me due to the Elimination Act. The co-teacher is a man who has passed his 60th...

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I'm tired.

Please help. They both remarried and got married, and our eldest son is my stepchild The two daughters are children of their remarriage partner. My husband is currently separated. Marriage is my husband's gambling debts and changing jobs Repeated violence also continued for over 10...

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Time goes by and I'm worried about love

I'm sorry. There may be times when I am a little affected by the trouble at the street party the other day, but I would be grateful if you would listen to my worries. I went to a street party the other day, and at first, the tempo of conversation with the number one person I met at that time was...

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Isn't the way of faith self-reliant

I've always believed in Amitabha and thought I'd be taken to the Pure Land. I don't understand the difficult teachings of the Jodo Shinshu sect. I asked AI myself and listened to monk stories on YouTube. I know Amitabha Buddha's original wish, the teachings of Shinran. I have simply believed...

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Why are these people my parents...

When I confide my pain about my parents, they always come back saying “even though they raised me,” “your parents are disloyal,” and “you are spoiled,” and it's lonely that no one understands it. What's more, they don't believe what my parents did at all. I grew up being abused by my parents....

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I'm always jealous and come to retirement

I'm a housewife in my mid-forties, and I had many years of trouble, so I talked to them. I've been very popular with men since I was young. From when I was in high school, when I got involved even a little with my classmates, school/cram teachers, clerks, people going out to town, and men, I...

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I want to talk to the monk

How can I ask the monk to ask for advice before? So, I got an answer in my worry post that it would be better to call the temple and ask if they could talk to them, and then get an appointment. That's fine, but... - Recently, I've been going directly to the temple to see the monk, even if it's...

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About people who are obsessive and harass you

I've been doing the same thing over and over for years, and I'm worried, but even if I keep my distance from wandering around in front of my house after work (not in the neighborhood) and saying strange things in front of other people at work, when I'm alone, they stick out my tongue and make a...

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I'm filled with the feeling that I've failed in my life

Nice to meet you, I would like to discuss your concerns. I'm a 49 year old female. I have a husband, but I don't have children. I've felt that life is difficult since I was a child, but recently I've come to feel it noticeably. I aimed for a creative job because I wanted to make a...

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