Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I failed to commit suicide.

From then on, I decided to commit suicide. However, this time, too, it failed. I faintly remember being dragged out and put on an ambulance. There are no scars left on the body. There were no sequelae. I was discharged quickly from the hospital. The plan was to aim for death due to weakness...

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From Teba Tadahin. About the idea that “Buddha is a man.”

I'm always indebted to you. There is a Nichiren sect temple near the hospital I go to It's there. I was curious, I took the plunge. Teraba-san and the chief priest were all friendly, The hall was also neatly maintained. Let me read the Kankyo Sutra that was there I received it,...

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Please tell me how to deal with people who preach

There are people in my family who always preach I'm having trouble dealing with that person. That person is an event such as New Year's or when I get together with my family, etc. I'm extra tired because of the people I often meet. Also, they are people who drink quite a bit of alcohol, When...

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ossuary

We got divorced last year after 30 years of marriage. Separated for 5 years At last, a settlement has been reached. As a temple family, I have made many efforts in my own way, Years of violence by the chief priest, forced drinking of alcohol, sex, etc. It came to an end after going through a...

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Worries that come from a child's bad years

I have a son who is now one and a half years old. The cutest child in the world for my husband and I. Everyone in the family is probably the same, and I was particularly surprised at how much my husband was doting on me. (Of course I'm doting on it too) That son has been in a bad state since...

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I was proud to be able to draw...

I've lived until now, and I've loved drawing since I was in elementary school. I was severely bullied by boys when I was in elementary school, and even though I wasn't dealt with by girls because it was dark How about being able to relieve loneliness by drawing pictures, train a lot of...

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It becomes an adjustment disorder due to power harassment in the workplace.

I retired from my medical job where I worked for over 10 years. The reason is that I myself have reached my mental and physical limits due to poor work environments, power harassment in the workplace over many years, and sexual harassment from patients, and I have developed adjustment...

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About memorial services for ancestors

I was told by someone that since my husband's ancestors didn't have a memorial service, it's better to do a memorial service for ○10,000 yen. Since this memorial service has not been held, I think it has had an impact even on my children. We know that memorial services for our ancestors are...

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not taken care of

It was my first gathering in my hobby neighborhood, and I think it ended peacefully, at least on the surface, by taking care of my surroundings as much as possible. The secretary only said to me at the end, “Well then if you have another chance, try playing with someone somewhere,” and the...

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I want the confidence to make my daughter happy

This is the person who previously got divorced here with her 1-year-old daughter from her ex-husband's DV, and discussed whether father-son visitation should be held thereafter. From then on, when I went to psychosomatic medicine, I was diagnosed with an adjustment disorder caused by my...

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I'm leaving this world this week

I've had so many more experiences in this world. I experienced a lot of happiness and suffering, both in love and at work. I think I've learned enough already. I don't want to see or hear any more dirty parts of this world. I don't think I'll be able to meet my favorite grandmother even if I...

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About “nothing” in the Heart Sutra

Hello. Of the Heart Sutra “Colorless, Unpretentious Behavior, No Eyes, Ear, Nose and Tongue, Colourless Sound, Scent Touch” I have a question about that part, so I'm asking a question. When you say “sky” in the Heart Sutra, it's simply “nothing” It's not about saying “empty,” “It exists...

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My son's hikikomori

I was told that after I failed the qualification exam at the end of my first year at a vocational school, my mental disorder, my tendency to take time off from school, my mother's rejection of me became stronger, and I thought I was a toxic parent, I hated him for a long time, overinterfered, and...

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The stress of not having words of gratitude from my wife

The other day, I bought a detached house that was as close as possible to my wife's wishes with a loan and have been fully renovated. Even in the renovation, I incorporated my wife's preferences and opinions as much as possible regarding the floor plan and design. As for the loan, I also...

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A lover I met on the internet

I met a man on the internet in 2015 and have been in a relationship. At that time, it was a period after I quit due to mental illness due to company relationships, and they also supported me during various discussions. However, they didn't tell me my personal information from the beginning of...

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I hate the night

I hate the night. When it gets dark at night, anger at the irrationality I received from others in the past usually springs up, and worries about the future come up one after another. At such times, I'd like you to tell me how to think a little more easily.

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It's painful not being able to grow

Whether at work or in everyday life, I have made similar mistakes and repeated similar regrets. I think I'm reflecting on it each time and devising ways so that I don't fail again, but it doesn't lead to results no matter what. It's a series of times when you're anxious, and you act impatiently...

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In order not to go to hell after death.

I'm in my 40s, unemployed, single, and lonely for the rest of my life (my parents died of cancer, my father committed suicide due to debt), and I don't have a boyfriend or friends. When I was a student, I was bullied and lonely, and since I was hungry because I couldn't work or work I'm...

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I'm angry about bragging stories and images on Facebook and blogs

If that's the case, I don't think I should just watch it, but I just end up watching it. I'm angry at the blogs and FBs of my classmates, neighbors, and people close to me. Images of sushi, karasumi pasta, and cakes were posted at the counter. I usually cook my own meals and don't often eat out....

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About career paths and estranged friends

I'm worried about my career path and my estranged friends. I'm currently in my second year of high school and I quit school a year ago. I'm currently attending a cram school to go to college. I want to get a high school graduate certification and go to college, but I'm having trouble...

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