Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

About “suffering” that we have no choice but to accept

The pain of watching a parent grow old, unable to move, develop dementia, and die. Also, the pain of not being able to do anything even though I know I'm getting old in the same way. So I'm so afraid that time will pass. I know it's “one day for a lifetime,” but it's been 46 years...

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Is it right to go back to my parents' house to declare a state of emergency

I don't think it's forgivable, but with the issuance of a state of emergency this time, I'm going to send my son back home who went to Tokyo on Saturday. I moved to my parents' house from Tokyo at the end of March to attend graduate school. I left for the university dormitory in Tokyo again for...

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I'm a bad person.

No matter how much I try to change my way of thinking, it won't change... I don't know how to do it. Everyone but me doesn't seem happy. I know that's not the case, and I'm just impatient that I have to change. I feel depressed and can't be kind to everyone around me. People around you...

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Where do you go after you die?

Where do people arrive after death is it? Is it heaven or hell after all?

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There's something I want to ask!

If you spend time at a temple, I think there will be some kind of strange event. For example, a Buddha appeared in a dream, or a noise was heard even though no one was there... Please let me know if there are any strange events (*''*) lol

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The story before death

This is now confirmed and will not change. I will die by suicide in 1 year. I'll write it here as a memorial, but the reason I committed suicide was that I didn't like my face and personality, and I became very scared when I thought about the death of my family I came up with the idea that it...

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About the death penalty

It's a chaotic topic due to repeated disputes, but I wonder how it looks like a monk. To be clear, I'm more of a person on the opposite side. It also seems that people are arrogant, probably because they intended to become gods that judge people in the first place. But in a world where...

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there's no point in being alive...

I recently turned 20 and will soon be in my third year of college. I started using matching apps for the same sex because I wanted to be honest about my own sexuality, and I became close friends with foreign tourists who had come to Japan. It was the first time for me that I was able to...

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I'm tired. please help me.

A parent's child-rearing is a failure, right? From my parents when I was a kid “You can't do anything anyway, so stop, give up” “Why can't we do this?” Even though they've never praised me by saying things like After becoming independent “Once you've done everything you can, you'll have a...

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A way to face your own feelings about people you don't like.

It is an organization where people of all ages gather, and I am an executive this term. One of the management officers is someone I'm really bad at. That person put something on “Why would you choose such words?” “Why don't you think about how the other person feels when you take that...

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Does giving birth kill a person?

I didn't understand the category, so sorry if it was a different category. I think the basis of Buddhism is that people always die of old age, but then, does giving birth to a child mean killing a child? I think people will be burdened with death from the moment they are born. Is making them...

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About killing animals

A few times a year, I watch news where animals such as bears and wild boars appear in villages and towns. There are many cases where they are dangerous when encountered, and there are many cases where they attack humans, cause serious injury, or in the worst case, die. Also, I see very sad news...

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What is the sky in the Heart Sutra

What is the sky? There was also a book that said we don't exist. Certainly, I don't think there will be any changes yesterday today. If it's been 10 years, I can understand the changes, and maybe they aren't in this world. But it changes every day, as if it were called impermanent. They look...

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What should I do to accept my father's death?

I'm indebted to you. My father had an accident the other day and passed away. My mom and I can't have a conversation with my father, whom I love. My two older brothers are making arrangements and preparations for various things. My dad's brother and my uncle are helping me too. I was...

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I'm worried that I've lent money to my boyfriend

My boyfriend, who is 14 years older and divorced, confided that “my friend has 200,000 debts,” and even though I wasn't asked to, I lent him 200,000 yen. It was said that there were other debts, so I said, “Repayment to me is fine at the end, so end the other debts.” After that, he was...

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My self without a future

With my abilities, I don't seem to be able to live the way I want I wanted to be born someone other than myself. I just wanted to get results over others for the effort I made But I'm incompetent, so it's impossible even if I make an effort I want to die already

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Sumo industry scandals

Every time I read news about recent assault incidents in the sumo industry, I wonder what part of this is the Shinto ritual. I turned down female governors who tried to go up to the ring for awards in the past on the grounds that “women get dirty when they go up to the ring.” However, they have...

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Suicide Paradise

I feel it all the time. What is called distorted justice that people have. Why don't we relentlessly die from an unspecified number of people even now? or that guy because it's not a big deal. They say don't study even though it's stupid, it's useless even if you do it, and when you go out and...

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Will I go to hell after death?

In order to go to the Pure Land of Paradise I've heard that you have to keep the commandments. Now about the commandments and what I did Does not kill First of all, what kind of creature is this not supposed to be killed, right? It kills mosquitoes, cockroaches, etc. They also eat meat and...

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Anxiety about the civil service exam (job hunting)

I go to a vocational school where I want to become a police officer. Apart from what I've discussed about my studies before, there are times when I feel uneasy. It's about sex (LGBT). I think the physical gender and gender identity are probably women, but when I looked it up, I wonder if...

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