Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Should I quit smoking

I live in Canada with my husband and son. This time, I was a little concerned about my husband's marijuana addiction, and I posted it because I wanted to hear your opinions. For some reason, I lived apart from my husband for 3 years, but I finally started living with my family of 3 the other...

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If you were to simply say you're going to die...

I work to support people with disabilities. I'm a woman with a personality disorder, but as soon as my feelings become unstable, I get e-mails saying “Please let me die” and “I'm going to die now.” At first, I was desperately facing it because I thought I had to do something about it, but I...

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I'm afraid of dying, it's painful not being able to talk to people close to me

I'm currently in my 4th year of college When I was in middle school, I suddenly thought, “What happens when I die?” I remember noticing that and I couldn't stop crying out of fear. Even when I tried to talk to my parents, I couldn't do it because they seemed to touch on taboos. At that time,...

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I don't have time

22, but looking back on the past few years, it made me sad. I also freaked out quite a bit. I was either just working or doing nothing, even though there were as many people going to college or playing as I did. I don't know what to do when I'm young Even if they ask me to make a...

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It's painful that things don't go well

I haven't had a boyfriend = my age. I want a boyfriend, and I have a strong desire to get married and have children, so I thought it wouldn't work like this, so I started a matching app 2 years ago, and I've met about 30 people. No matter how many times I meet people I think are good, I don't...

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Give me back that time! When I think

Thank you for always taking the time to consult with us. I often think, “Give me back that time in my life!” eg ・I was in a relationship with a helpless man for 2 years ・My colleague made me endlessly listen to complaints at the family restaurant for 5 hours ・3 hours of play where I fell...

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Due to religious issues

I have a boyfriend that I've been in a relationship with for about six months now. They are also thinking about getting married, and they greeted each other's parents for the future. I was thinking that discussions about the ceremony and housing would continue unabated, but his parents got...

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I was reading the post.

Hello. I was reading everyone's posts and my own. It's hard for me about work or something, but something is different from what it used to be. I went through someone's post about happiness reports and never read them. The pregnancy report post has definitely gone thru until now. I definitely...

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How to behave at a funeral

The trouble is that at the time of the funeral, my wife wanted her to sleep peacefully while burning incense in front of a spirit, and then she thought she would go to hell. It seems like I liked my dad so much, why did I think that, and even though I've been going to the hospital with insomnia...

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My son's life

I'm worried about my second son in his third year of high school My second son said he wanted to do a job helping people in the future since he was in elementary school Recently, the attitude of listening to people's conversations is also bad They said that reporting and consultation is...

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How to reach complete enlightenment

Thank you so much for your answers to the previous questions. I read them one by one. Aside from whether what I experienced was “enlightenment,” my respect for the Buddha was unwavering, and I was determined to further practice. So what I want to ask is, “What exactly should I do to attain...

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anxiety about past actions

Nice to meet you. I felt a great deal of anxiety about my past actions, and it's been about 3 months. In the past, I attended a study session (anyone in the same industry can participate) several times and recorded it for my own study. And I've sent that recording to a few friends. However, I...

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What is responsibility

hello! I'm a student now, and adults around me often say, “When you work, you have responsibilities.” “You have to take responsibility for everything you make.” It is said. But when I think about responsibility, I don't know exactly what it is. What does responsibility really mean?

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About the Heart Sutra

I will always be indebted to you. I would like to ask you a question about the Heart Sutra. The other day, I received a sutra of the Heart Sutra at the temple I'm always indebted to, and I'm reciting the Heart Sutra, but one point that caught me came up. According to psychics and people like...

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White rice

I'm in tears. White rice is not tasty. Does Bon-san shed tears too? Don't show your weakness. But it's painful.

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Everything is impermanent

Recently, my body and mind were struggling, I felt a strong sense of blockage in my life, and I felt that it was difficult to live, so I arrived at this site. I came across the term impermanent behavior in Buddhist language and thought about it in my own way by comparing it with the current...

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Can we bring our knowledge to the next world?

It is said that when you die, you can't take your money to the other world. It is said that talents (skills) can be carried over to the next life. It seems that people who have been talented and can do well from the beginning have made efforts in that area many generations before their previous...

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Let me ask you a few questions about enlightenment

Nice to meet you, I have some questions about enlightenment, so please let me know. How did Buddha attain enlightenment? Before attaining enlightenment, Buddha practiced penance and tried various ascetic methods, Did you eventually gain enlightenment through meditation? Do you get any...

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Humiliation

I won't laugh, until I win. My work was so full that I didn't know where to start. It made me laugh naturally. I was told not to laugh so hard. Move your hands, feet, and head without moving your facial muscles. It's not a ponkotsu. I won't laugh, until I win.

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I'm not good at greetings

There were stickers at the store I work at with the purpose of saying let's say hello after I joined the company. I've always been a person who doesn't say hello very often. Or rather, in this day and age, I think there are many people who don't say hello very often. It's not a good or bad thing,...

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