Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I want to stop “a woman's enemy.”

Nice to meet you. I would like to ask the monk to cheat you this time, so I would like to discuss it with you. I now work for a company where 70% of my employees are women. Although 70% are women, most of the positions held are men. Today, the director (male) told me that he would like me to...

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About the future of him who has a criminal record and me who is a liar

We've been dating for 10 months on the matching app, and we're planning to remarry in April. He is in Niigata and I in Kanazawa, and he spends money and time to see me every week, he cares for my family, does housework, and we spend our birthdays and New Year holidays together. He is jealous and...

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Regrets about not having a relationship in the past

When I was in middle school, I did something embarrassing that I couldn't say. Nothing in particular was gained with it. Also, no one knew whether they were lucky or unlucky. However, if I had found out, if everything had gone in a bad direction, I might not have been in my current position. We...

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I'm frustrated with my husband

I'm frustrated with my husband. I get frustrated with statements and actions that don't go the way I want, and I just make prickly statements. There are times when I get frustrated with people at work, but I intend to choose words and make statements. What I love the most is my husband, and he...

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I want to be freed from appearance problems

I haven't run out of worries about my appearance since I became a university student. The trigger was that they were welcome and only the cute girl they were with was given preferential treatment. From that point on, I couldn't take off my mask. In the summer of my first year at college, I became...

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I'm a sinner who has derailed my life alone.

The company I was working for was a tough place. I can't tell them the details of my work, and if I consult, they are implicitly ridiculed as incompetent. In a nutshell, “everything is personal responsibility” I learned about the job on my own with the thought that “you can only get a voice...

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Men are dirty creatures

Every night, when it's this time, my anger at men doesn't subside, and it's painful, so let me talk to him about it. I think men are dirty creatures. The compliments given by men are just meant to be brought into sex, and they are not meant to be real, Even if we try to get close to it,...

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The meaning of studying

It's about my son in middle school Originally, my academic ability was above normal, but after entering junior high school, I stopped studying They have committed various misdeeds, and now I am indebted to the Child Counseling Center The child minister says The reason my son doesn't...

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About the memorial service

Why are there no memorial services in the Jodo Shinshu sect? There seem to be various opinions, such as “because the memorial service is self-reliant” and “because all those who died passed away in paradise and there is no need to do memorial services,” etc., but which one is true?

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Which temple would a monk like to visit?

The question is as the title says. Even recommended temples you've actually visited are fine. Temples are quiet, aren't they? Even when there are people around, I feel at ease as if I am alone. I'm weak against sound, light, and smell, so I prefer quiet places. There is also a part where I...

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I can't stop playing with men

I wonder if it's okay to leave it like this We would like to hear your feedback and would like to discuss it. I'm a monk's wife, but I can't stop playing with men. Use online dating to get to know each other, Basically, relationships are with one person, It's a situation where there are...

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Can pregnant women go to the funeral?

My mother-in-law has passed away, and a funeral will be held. There is a family member who is pregnant, and it seems that they will attend the funeral. I remember hearing from my relatives a long time ago that pregnant women should refrain from attending funerals, and when I looked it up on...

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I want to live well without being caught up by illness

I'm in the hospital due to a mental illness. Illness is a mental conflict that manifests itself in the body, and I have been struggling for over 15 years. My current symptoms are abdominal pain that has continued for over 1 month. There are no physical abnormalities during the...

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haven't you been able to attain Buddhism...

It's a similar post to the previous one, but it's been 5 months since my husband passed away I cry every day and there isn't a day when I don't shed tears People say that if you meddle with others every day, you won't be able to attain Buddhism, and that it will get in the way of ascetic...

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I felt fear of death for the first time due to an unexpected accident

I had an unexpected accident in December of this year. It's an injury to the left ring finger. On Wednesday night last week, I happened to hit my left hand in a cut groove in a tomato can, causing massive bleeding, and I hurriedly went to the emergency treatment at night. At that time, the doctor...

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Dating a monk

Is it difficult to date a monk?

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Please tell me how to have a heart for the rest of my life.

Thank you for your support. I'm a 43 year old housewife with no kids. I was recently told that I am suspected of having mild Asperger's. People around me other than my husband said, “It's probably a day off even though I don't have children. Why aren't you working?” It is often said. I think...

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What is meditating like?

What kind of state is meditation? Is it different from enlightenment? How can I become meditated?

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A relationship

I've had a lot of relationships in my life until now I have met and broken up with many people and have had many breakups. I have no regrets in my life, such as graduation or divorce. I think that's because our current relationship is wonderful and important. I was very interested in Todaiji in...

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I want to calm my thoughts

When watching news and comments related to it on TV, the internet, etc., various impressions and opinions may come to mind. It would be nice if that were all, but there are times when you refute comments on the internet in your head, create imaginary enemies thinking that there are people saying...

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