Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I'm sandwiched between my wife and parents

A child was born, and my wife started saying she wanted to buy a house by the time she reached elementary school. My wife doesn't seem to like living with my parents at my parents' house. My parents' house is in the countryside, and I'm the eldest son, so of course I want my parents to come...

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Feelings of fuzzy foggy

Hello. I am writing to you for the first time. Thank you for your support. The other day, when I gave my opinion to younger kids about work at work, they cried and said, “Why do you only say that to me,” and the atmosphere was a bit bad. (I chose the words as much as possible because I didn't...

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My son's rebellious period

Thank you so much for your kind words the other day. Since then, I think it's been bland, A little thing made me freak out again this morning. It seemed like not only me, but people unrelated to it would get involved When I tried to pick up my cell phone, it was thrown at me. Fortunately,...

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my true dream. That's an entertainer.

I'm always indebted to you. This time, I'm talking about double workers. A friend of mine has a son who is a priest. It seems that the child's father is a school teacher while being the chief priest. I was surprised... that there are such people among those who are the chief priests. Well,...

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Why do we put our hands together at the monk

There are people who put their hands together at the monk and clap their hands before burning incense for a temple visit. Is this the right approach?

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Shouldn't we be greedy for a relationship?

It's a long sentence, but thank you. My friends around me are getting married more and more, but I don't have anyone I'm currently in a relationship with. Recently, I've also been feeling pressure from my parents to “come on and get married” on a daily basis. Until now, I had no desire to get...

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he was diagnosed with an intractable disease

He was thinking about getting married and was diagnosed with an intractable illness. There is no cure and it progresses. It is said that your body will eventually stop moving and you will be bedridden. It seems that he also thought about hiding his illness and breaking up with me. But I told...

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My husband rejected my incoming call, and I'm in pain.

I know my husband, who is currently separated, works, but I have no idea what he thinks or does, especially outside of his holidays and work. Of course, I don't know the details when it comes to salary, and there are no remittances at all. My husband temporarily lived with me at my parents'...

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You will hyperventilate.

I don't want to go to work. I have a colleague at work that I don't like. I don't like just looking at that person. I moved last week, and that person was in the house across the street. The parking lot is next door. I was so surprised that I hyperventilated. The company is also...

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It makes me think about death

I have lost a friend to suicide before. I've overcome it quite a bit, but there are times when I suddenly feel extremely sad. However, I accepted that it was unavoidable, but recently I'm struggling with different feelings again. Even though I don't have any particular worries or things I want...

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I doubt him

I've been in a relationship with him for over 20 years. At first, they had an affair, but they were told that they got divorced about 15 years ago. Since then, he hasn't been able to work to take care of his elderly parents I continued to lend money. We reimbursed not only living expenses,...

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Why are Buddha statues so fat?

There are also Buddha statues that are thin, such as the Buddha's ascetic statue, but basically most Buddha statues are plump Buddha statues, right? If it's a plump Buddha statue, I get the impression that he is drowning in (food) desires, but did Buddha gain weight in his later years? I...

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I'm worried about what to do about my future career path

First, let me introduce myself briefly. I'm an office worker in my mid-thirties working for a small company in Tokyo. After graduating from high school, I left Hiroshima, where my parents' house is located, moved to Tokyo, and after going to university, it's been a little over 10 years since I...

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Read “Ambition Recommendations” by Mariko Hayashi

It was written that the book “Ambition Recommendations” by Mariko Hayashi had surpassed 700,000 copies, so I bought it at a bookstore and read it. As the title suggests, it's a book about having ambitions, and reading it made me very sympathetic and energized. I think it's important to aim...

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It's about grandma.

Good evening. Now it's about grandma. Grandma has dementia. I originally lived in Chiba Prefecture. This is Urayasu city. It's Disney city. At the same time that I became middle 2, my older sister, mother, and I left my father in Chiba to take care of my grandmother and moved to Hatsukaichi in...

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About scapegoats.

Hello. I'm always indebted to you. It's Yuri. What do monks think about scapegoats today? Let me ask you a question. A scapegoat is, so to speak, the role of “leaving friends” or “being scolded.” On Wikipedia... it also exists as a term for psychology. In particular, in psychoanalysis...

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I'm at a loss.

There was someone I had (been) in a relationship with for 12 years. At first it was a long distance. I was transferred to Tokyo 3 years ago. He was married to someone he didn't even like because of his parents' debts. I learned that fact about 5 years after we started dating... However,...

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I want to fix my running away habit

I have a habit of throwing everything away and running away when I'm stuck. They tend to take themselves into difficult situations, whether they are the type that starts the engine when cornered to a certain extent, or whether they like a cramped lifestyle. If you confront it without running...

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Anxiety about the child's future

I'm a mother with children aged 5 and 2. Thinking about when they became adults makes me anxious. I feel that the future of society is bleak, and children are sad thinking about whether or not they will be able to live a richer life than themselves (parents). I don't even feel like I'm...

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On anxiety and causal retaliation against love.

For the first time, I would like to ask you a question. My name is Kuwari Kozo. I'm currently 30 years old and I'm in a long distance relationship. My opponent is a 22-year-old college student. We are years apart, but we have promised to get married in the future (albeit a verbal promise...),...

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