Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

The Middle Modern Doctrine

I recently learned that the essence of Shinto teachings is the Middle Modern Doctrine. Nakamai's mentality, “By concentrating on the present and living in the present, we can pave the way.” I understand the logic very well, but when I think about working on my daily life, I really can't...

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The feeling of myself going through my head is unfortunate

Thank you for always listening to me. We talked once about nursing care. I continued to take care of them, but my mother-in-law, who lives with me, fell and broke down → was hospitalized. After being discharged from the hospital, they are recommended to consider a facility because they are...

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Things don't last because I'm not good at

It hasn't continued since long ago. I went to elementary, middle, high school, and junior college, but I quit my club activities and didn't get a job as a nursery teacher. There are also some that I quit my job right away. I don't have any talents, and I don't have anything good at. Because...

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Is it OK to admit that I wasn't loved or wasn't loved

Admitting that I wasn't loved or loved by my parents made my suffering easier. isn't it wrong to think this way? Until now, I've thought, “If you were a parent, you should be like this to your child, but my parents don't have that at all.” There is no end to the list of things I'm satisfied...

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I'm afraid to ask monks about meat...

I will ask questions with courage. People around the world are killing target creatures and eating meat. Buddhist monks don't kill living creatures and live vegetarians, don't they? Of course, killing a living thing is called killing. I always try not to kill insects, and I gently put...

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I can't feel safe talking to my husband

I'm worried about my relationship with my husband. Before I got married, I thought she was a kind and safe person, but little by little after I became pregnant, my feelings of “not being safe” increased. For example, even if I say “I didn't like it” or “I was sad,” people sometimes say “I...

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Why does attitude grow when you become a veteran at work?

When you experience a certain number of years at work and become like a veteran, forget the feeling you had when you were a rookie Why is it that their attitude is so arrogant that they feel as if they know everything from the beginning and can do it? It's no wonder. Even professional...

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I think my husband is bad friends too.

Thank you for taking a look. It's about my husband, My husband has been abusive to me until now. Incompetent, lackluster housewife. A full-time housewife who can't. Physiologically not accepted. stupid. shut up! learn. Put them to sleep quickly! maybe it's my fault. etc., violence. Tear up...

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I feel like my heart is too narrow

I'm a high school student. My younger brother, who is in middle school, is confused even though he is studying for the regular test using my past questions. For now, ostensibly, I'm asking them to quit, saying that studying using past questions is useless for entrance exams, but my younger...

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I want to die soon ①

A 31-year-old single male has a developmental disability (pervasive developmental disorder). I want to die, and I just want to die fast. There are many reasons why it's hard to live. First, you must have a developmental disability. As a result, relationships, work, and everything are not...

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I'm so sad to lose my mom.

I lost my mother to cancer in April of this year. It was announced in September of last year, and it's only been 7 months. When the announcement was made, I told my attending physician that there are still places I want to go and that I want to see my grandson (niece from my point of view) grow....

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The divorce has been decided

It's been 10 years since we got married. We had our first fight the other day, and we ended up getting divorced in 1 week, and discussions are underway now. It seems that the reason they want to get divorced is a difference in their sense of money. I've been managing my household since I got...

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Job hunting, relationships, romance... it's not going well.

Good evening. My name is Soyo and I am a fourth year university student. Job hunting isn't progressing easily, and as people around me decide on job offers, I continue to be rejected even after being interviewed, and my feelings are sinking. I compare myself to my cousins and surroundings. Even...

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I judged it not by what's inside, but by its appearance

My heart hurts, so I want you to listen to the story Today I met a kid I met on a matching app. I was on the phone the whole time deciding on the store, and the conversation was so frank that I felt as if we were in a relationship But when I met her, she had a cleft palate. I was surprised,...

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Denial of other denominations?

that's 00! In Nichiren's words, there are words such as shingon exiled country, zen tenma, nembutsu mugan, and ritsukoku bandit, but I wonder what it would be like to criticize other teachings. I've heard that Nichiren did Kokuzo Gumonjiho and arrived at the teachings of Hokke Ichijo... Isn't...

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How to talk

I've hated talking so much in my life up until now. I can't say many compliments When I talk to people, I'm being too honest Things that make the other person uncomfortable It's been over and over again, and it's even faster and less fluent I've been told by my parents since I was in...

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I don't have room for my feelings, and I can't be positive

I'm always indebted to you. Over the past few years, days of nothing but sighing have continued. We have discussed it in the past, but the relationship with the isolated eldest son couple (the wife's former husband's child) and the daughter-in-law's parents has deteriorated, and the relationship...

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My wife told me to get divorced

We have been married for about 10 years and have children aged 7 and 3. The relationship began to deteriorate from around October last year, and although they made up in places, it felt like they were able to surpass the situation... I was told that I want them to get divorced already after...

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It's troublesome to live

Hello. I'm a 16 year old high school girl. I feel that life is a hassle these days. I don't want to live, but I don't feel like I want to die. When I go to school, I'm late or absent the next day. When I get home, the fatigue I put up with at school comes and I fall asleep right away. There's...

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I can't live the life I drew when I was little

I'm currently job hunting. The gap between the ideals I had in mind when I was little and now is so big that I feel a dent in myself. I feel sorry for who I was when I was little. When I was little, I wanted to get an international job! I had that thought. I don't know what I want to do, I...

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