Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

How to deal with abusive language

I'd like advice on how to deal with being yelled at or unreasonably angry. I'm happy to absorb sincere advice, but I'm often thrown at irrelevant personality denials. “You can't do anything!” “Your parents' upbringing was bad, wasn't it?” “Human scum”... etc. It's my fault that I made...

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I'm also worried about changing my child's name. The same kanji for city, town, and village

My second daughter was born in January. It's a different pronunciation, but there are cities, towns, and villages with exactly the same kanji in other prefectures, and I'm worried that it would be better to change the names. It's only been a few months since she was born, and I saw on the...

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Is listening to your problems a hobby?

I have a question. I get people who are worried say, “Because Mr. 00 will listen to me,” and I can listen to the words of people who have been worried until now without denying it, and they say that I'm glad they listened to me when the situation improved, and I'm glad they stayed. Of course,...

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The job of selling bodies

I'm struggling with money right now and I'm doing devotional work. I really didn't like it. Selling my body to someone I met for the first time and getting money... but in order to pay back my debts, I have no choice but to sacrifice myself and work to earn money for my mother's medical expenses,...

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wisdom

Good morning. I came back to my question. Please let me know if you like when you have time to spare. When someone asked me the meaning of wisdom, I quickly explained it to the extent that I understood it in my own way, but I was wondering if that was good, and I wanted to check it out...

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I'm worried because they want to know.

I'm indebted to you. There are people at work who want to know everything. Not only do they want to know, but they also say it to unrelated people, so they don't like it at work (it seems that complaints have come based on that), the person in my department got sick at the beginning of the year,...

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About visiting my father's grave that had been isolated

My father, who had been isolated for over 10 years, died of illness this year. (The reason for the isolation is my father's infidelity) One month before my father passed away, I received an email saying “I want to see you at first sight for the last time”... I couldn't forgive my selfish...

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Don't people pray for salvation in Buddhism

Good evening. I've recently started studying Buddhism, and I'm reading my first Buddhist book. Please let me know if you like in your spare time. As I learned from the story of the monk Hasunoha, I somehow came to understand that Buddhism emphasizes practice, but even so, I was vaguely...

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Please tell me about sifting through choices that will make you happy.

I am the daughter of the temple. I live at my parents' temple with my grandfather, who has severe dementia, my older sister who has an intellectual disability, and parents in their 70s. Once, there was someone who said that my son-in-law would take over the temple, and we got engaged. However,...

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I quit right away even though I became a full-time employee at 30 years old NEET

At age 30, I felt impatient with NEET for 7 years and started thinking about it, but I quit the company I joined as a full-time employee in a week. Once I left this job, I couldn't go home for about 2 months. If I think about it until now, I feel like my life has just been frustrated High...

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Please give me some advice about the world after death.

I am an HSP (highly sensitive) person, and although I can't see spirits, I can easily feel the detailed emotions of humans and the feelings of animals, and I also feel the aura of plants and the atmosphere. I'm interested in things I can't see, and I often think about the world after death, but...

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I went back to the world of the night until this age, but...

I'm always indebted to you. I've been doing double work since this month. After 10 years of working at night, I went back to the water business. The number one reason for this was to rebuild my current life with Usagi Kaku. Among them, since they are older, there are risks... I became an...

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When I talk, the air in the place gets bad for some reason

It's been a while since I had a consultation. While going to a facility for people with disabilities, the new users were probably out of the rules, so I told them, “This is how we do it here.” After that, I started small talk with the staff, like I remembered something I had just been careful...

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Who is the memorial service for?

Nice to meet you. My father passed away this summer. There is a Buddhist altar at my parents' house, but I want to make a memorial service for my father at my own house, so I put photos, candles, incense sticks, flowers, and oranges and worship them every day. However, this was complacency...

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Know that I am sufficient

Please let me know if you don't mind. I always have a sense of lack that something is missing. For example, as soon as I get the clothes I want, I want the next one. They are jealous of only those who have things they don't have, and feel relieved by searching for people who don't have them....

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I wrestled sumo wrestled with my old students and was puzzled by the unexpected results

This is the person who asked the following question before. https://hasunoha.jp/questions/66841 As you answered, I won sumo wrestling with my students (this is a regular ring inside a sports facility). I'm a 47 year old, 170 cm, 102 kg giant. He is 20 years old, 168 cm, and 53 kg slender. The...

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Is the chief priest's wife the temple's bride?

This is my first time consulting with you. I married the chief priest of a Zen temple, and within a few years, I have been studying the temple family Anming Ceremony and temple family training. However, due to my personality (unsuitability), I inevitably feel cramped to spend my days and work...

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I don't know if I want to go out with you or if I like you

Hello. I'm a female in my first year of college. I'd like to talk to you about a boy I was good friends with when I was in high school. I am aware that they got along quite well together, such as going back home together and watching games alone during sports competitions. We both finished...

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divination

I can't help but feel uneasy if I don't look at my fortune and act. I check multiple fortune telling sites every day. If something even a little bad is written, it will be scary and unbearable to act for a day, and you will act with a blue feeling. I know that it is natural that bad things...

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I'm angry at my parents about raising children

I'm angry about my parents in their late 70s who live just a stone's throw away. My child is in the upper grades of elementary school. The kids are very fond of my parents (grandparents for children). The reason is that they spoil children a lot. I've been playing too many Switch...

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