Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Trauma and how to switch feelings

There are worries and traumas that are not something you can easily talk to people about. The traumatic event was in May last year, and the related events were from February to August last year, but even now I remember it at an accidental moment, and I am filled with regret, anger against...

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What is mourning or defamation...

Please tell me more about mourning and bereavement. My grandmother passed away recently. I'm planning to get married next year, but I'm thinking about whether it's okay to say hello and make a report. My opponent is a deputy chief priest and local public servant of the Otani school of...

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The torch

It's so warm, it's hard to get out. It's staying. I want to change, but I can't. Maybe they're really afraid of changing. It's staying. What have I been doing for a month?

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Life without graves

Hello. I'm worried about graves. My husband, who is an only child, doesn't seem to want to have a grave in the future. I've never heard of a grave at my husband's parents' house either. We've never visited graves together. There are also few relatives. In this day and age, it doesn't...

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Is love and marriage tough for young bald people?

I'm 25 years old. Recently, I met someone at work that I would like to be in a relationship with. I'll be with that person on a business trip 10 days from now. We just talk normally in the workplace. So when I muttered that I wanted to go to the ○○ zoo, the person said that they wanted to go to...

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Grandfather's illness

I've been living with my grandfather for 25 years since I was born. He was the grandfather of good health, but he discovered a heart disease the other day. When I went to visit him, multiple infusions were hanging, my ureters got in, and although I understood about myself, I couldn't speak...

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I can't forgive my uncle and aunt in law

I would like to consult with you for the first time. My uncle is my father's younger brother, and my aunt in law is my uncle's common law wife, and since there is no documentary kinship relationship, I write “aunt in law.” My father, who was 58 years old, passed away soon after the...

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Are humans alone after all?

Are humans alone after all? I can't believe people these days. This is because even if you believe in yourself, others won't give back the same amount. Even if you take care not to say bad things about others, others will say bad things. I have an obsession with people even if I want to...

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Dream of becoming a nun

My dream is to become a nun. Often, “What are your dreams for the future?” I am asked, It takes a lot of courage to be a nun. The reason is that people say “it's changed” or “strange,” and people laugh at it. Dream that I am a nun I've never felt ashamed to have one. However, when I'm asked...

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About my future self

Your hard work is definitely not in vain, right? The number of things I want to do has increased, and it's hard to know where to start. Don't be impatient, but you want to get results quickly, so it makes you feel presumptuous. Please give me some advice.

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Things to do to take a fresh look at yourself

I'm going to take a fresh look at myself during the year-end and New Year holidays (mainly on the work side). This is because I've been at my current company for a long time and I don't have skills that can be used anywhere else, but since my current company has 70 points out of 100 comfortable...

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I lost my best friend and I can't get back on my feet

This is a continuation of the previous question and answer It's been about 3 weeks since my best friend passed away You say they're your only friend and have been in a relationship for 35 years I feel like there's a hole in my heart and the days are hard to live I was really happy for the 3...

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My heart is weak

Is there a way to have a heart where you can act without worrying about something that bothers you? Also, I can't get my regrets or bad things out of my head. What kind of way of thinking should we live our lives easily?

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I'm afraid of going to school

I'm currently in my third year of high school, and I have a feeling that I'm afraid of going to school. My heart was exhausted from being away from class with my friends, stumbling away from studying and getting burnt out, and so many bad things piled up. I've managed to handle my studies, but...

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I'm going to let go of my parents' house. I'm sorry for my late parents

My father and mother have both passed away, and my parents' house has become vacant. I left home and got married, and I'm not going back to live at my parents' house anymore. I occasionally return home, but I am also busy every day, and my garden is getting more and more rough. I discussed it...

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greets

You can't open up your mind and be bogged down by your opponent.

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I know it's not suitable

It's my first time, and thank you for your support. It's going to be a problem at work. Three years have passed since I became a dentist, and I continue to struggle that this job isn't right for me. My hands are clumsy, I'm not good at dealing with people, I can't properly receive complaints...

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I suddenly had a question.

Why do people have self-centered thoughts? Why do people hurt people? There are people who understand and people who don't notice... Why would they do that? Thank you for your answers.

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It's painful to regret being disliked due to a gaffe.

I have someone I like. It's just a matter of talking at work and going out to eat once in a while. I don't know what his boyfriend, who is over 20 years younger, intended to invite me out for a meal, but it was fun when we were together, and I secretly had romantic feelings. We ate together...

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Shikoku pilgrimage

This is my second question. Thank you very much for the good answers I received due to my mother's death in the previous question. Well, here's my problem this time A friend invited me to go on the Shikoku 88 pilgrimage, and it seems that my family's sect is the Jodo Shinshu sect and there is...

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