Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

What do you think of the goal of life as “getting rid of pain and suffering”

My work, relationships, and health don't go well no matter what I do, and I'm in a state of trouble. I'm a man, so I think I have to be more firm. I'm 35 years old this year, and I'm also impatient. It's unlikely that the goal I'm thinking about will be fulfilled, so I'm going to set another...

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I'm worried about confessing to someone I like.

Let me ask you a question for the first time. I just recently found someone I like, and I've gone on a few dates. I'm worried about confessing on my next date, but I'm worried that I'll be shaken. Should we just keep treating them as friends?

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I can't be sad at the funeral

Up until now, I have lost 4 of my grandparents, 3 grandparents on my husband's side, and my own father, and I have gone to the funeral. However, at any funeral, there was no sadness at all, and I only felt “tired, I want to go home soon” the whole time during the funeral. No matter how many...

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I regret it every day.

I'm currently in my 4th year as a nurse. Thinking about improving my skills, I changed my workplace this spring. However, I am busier than I had imagined, and every day I feel that this was not the right place for me, but my previous workplace. I've just entered, so I'm thinking of putting up...

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It's fuzzy

My boyfriend's father passed away today. It became critical, and I received a phone call from my boyfriend last night, and I was listening to the story, and they said, “When I asked a friend who can see spirits, they said, “When I asked my friend who can see spirits, they are picking me up for...

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Please tell me what living is

Since I became a member of society, I have been working while worrying about people's eyes and people's opinions. I was denied my own actions, my own opinions were denied, and even when I complained to my family, I was told “that level is not difficult,” and I have been working hard in my own...

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Naming a child

Thank you for your support. My daughter was born safely the day before yesterday. I'm thinking of changing my name to Tsuruko, but people around me think it's bad or that I'll be bullied. From my point of view, I think something is wrong with the sparkling name. It may certainly be a...

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Strong self-loathing towards oneself

Thank you for your kind words as always. We talked about foolish acts I have done in the past and my sense of guilt. I intend to face the crimes I have committed from there, be as kind to people as possible, and try not to repeat them again. Recently, however, feelings of...

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I can't wipe away my past regrets.

Nice to meet you. I'm a college girl in her 20s. I made money by selling my body a few times about 2 years ago. The reason for this is also a self-earned and stupid reason because I made too many deferred payments and couldn't repay the money in time. It's been a few years since I paid it...

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I want to abandon myself

If I don't have an ego, I think I have to feel nothing. I want to lose anything. I want to give up my existence. Why can't we live without material power? What I seek is eternal peace, tranquility, and stagnation. However, I want to feel safe in a safe place. But now that I've been born, that's...

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On Japanese Buddhism and Power

Hello. This is a question about Japanese Buddhism and power. Sometimes, “Japanese Buddhism has become corrupt because it complied with political power.” I see a comment saying, Did Japanese Buddhism really cater to power? Also, are power and those in power “evil” in Buddhism? I have...

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without meaning

Somehow I feel so lonely that I can't help but feel lonely. Does your heart have a cold?

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There's no point part 2

I'm sorry. I was able to discuss my meaningless loneliness first, and they answered, but today is not 1 day or the like, but for the past few months. Especially at night, I feel so lonely that it almost feels strange.

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unsettling

We settled our debts this month. I'm so anxious about money, I feel sorry for my kids, and I can't help but feel sorry for being a mother like this... but my kids say they love me. So even though I'm like this, I'm trying to move forward and do my best, but I want to go back to those days. I...

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Tips for good thought

If your emotions get seriously involved, you won't be able to think calmly, and as a result, you won't be able to come up with a solution. Are there any tips to calm your emotions and think about things calmly?

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Past mistakes

Please let me repent. I'm currently in my 3rd year of college. In the past, I cheated on both junior high school and technical college regular tests. (I haven't found it.) Since recommendations were used in both junior high school → technical college and technical college → university...

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An old man I don't know said it with a disgusting feeling

I don't know if it will be conveyed well, but... When I was riding a train on the Higashiyama Line on my way home from the ikebana practice and the international center study session, the middle-aged man next to me said, “It's disturbing! That's good!” I was told that with a disgusting feeling....

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The person of destiny

When can I meet the person of my destiny?

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About waking up

I have a question I hear monks are early in the morning How do you get up early? It seems like day and night have been reversed recently, so I want to fix my wake-up time, so please use your wisdom.

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Not equal

Definitely that kid has had a hard time until now I wonder if there wasn't one, There is a child who thinks a lot. People are equal, but It's absolutely impossible, isn't it?

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