Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Heartbreak about stray cats over 15 years ago

About 15 years ago, I was feeding stray cats in my neighborhood. I was in the 6th grade of elementary school to middle school. The distance was getting closer little by day, but it was a cat I would never let me touch. Even so, when they came to the front of the house, they continued to feed...

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Others are forgiven, but I am unforgivable

I've basically never been forgiven. My boss, for example. Even if I make the same mistake, Mr. 00 is as light as “it can't be helped anymore ☆,” yet he said to me, “Why do you make such a mistake? Still human? Are you really motivated?” It makes people so angry. I've never been loved by my...

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Disgusting people gather around me one after another

I gave birth to 2 children and went back to work 2 years ago after going through childcare leave. However, for the past 2 years, I've been struggling with relationships at work. Even when people I don't like appear, I have recovered by switching my feelings positively each time, but people I...

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Please tell me how to live without being bound by fortune telling results.

Good evening. There's something I've been worried about for a long time, so let me talk to you. I married my husband a year and a half ago. When I went to say hello to that marriage, my husband's grandmother asked me my date of birth and name, and it seems that the marriage between my husband...

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Valentines

Thank you for always being there. I didn't have time to make homemade chocolate for the boyfriend I'm in a relationship with now, so I stayed up late last night and made a lot of them. I promised to go on a date today, and I gave it to her, but I wasn't feeling well (sleepy) and couldn't go...

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I can't let go of my past guilt when I was in the water business

I was in the water business until a few years ago. Since it was my job, I lied to a lot of people of the opposite sex and responded well. The money was spent at the store, and I personally contributed quite a bit. I took it for granted as compensation for sexual harassment. After quitting the...

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To die and to live

My daughter in the 2nd grade of elementary school They seem to be afraid of dying. Also, they seem uneasy thinking about whether they are alive. Looking back, in the past few years My pet (tropical fish) died, my daughter's great-grandmother passed away, and there were a few times I...

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How to get your grandpa to be rescued by Amida

My grandpa is currently in a serious condition at the hospital with a brain hemorrhage and cancer. Communication is also almost impossible. I want my grandpa to make sure he can go to the Pure Land of Paradise, what can I do?

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My past infidelity became known to people in the neighborhood

I live with my husband and I don't have children. I had an affair about 6 years ago. I regret it so much now. I haven't been honest with my husband about this. It's the worst. One day, all of a sudden, I was suddenly avoided by people in the neighborhood of my house that I had been close...

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My cat's throat Buddha was broken

5/2 is the anniversary of the death of my beloved cat, whom I have lived with for 20 years. When it comes to this day, I always remember the time of the memorial service and my heart aches. A memorial service was held at a pet memorial temple on the recommendation of an acquaintance. The cute...

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I don't have room in my heart

I'm building a new house that I should be happy with, but when I think about the head of the household being 43 years old and continuing to pay loans from now on even after retirement, I don't have peace of mind. Since we're human, there are times when we think positively, and there are days...

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Please tell me about temples and monks

I'm interested in life at a temple, the daily lives of people who work as monks, what led them to join the Buddhist sect, etc., and I would like to ask questions as the subject line says. I'm sorry if this is an impolite question. I think it also depends on the temple and denomination, but I...

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I am

Hello. My part-time boss changed six months ago, and from around that time it was also to reduce labor costs, My personality was denied a lot, and I was told that I am an unworthy person to be alive. I worked hard for 3 months until I found my next job. I had found a new job, changed jobs, and...

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When you can't stand the ascetic practices of this world

I have now been diagnosed with anxiety disorder and depression. I went to a psychiatrist, but the medicine didn't suit me. I'm deceiving myself in my daily life, such as school, etc., but the depression that suddenly appears makes me drop to the bottom, and it's too painful. When I save my...

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Please tell me book recommendations

I think there are many monks who answer in Hasunoha who want to help those who are worried, so just looking at those answers is a great learning experience. Among those monks, there is someone I've been admiring lately. I'm wondering how to think like that person's way of thinking, trying...

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Against friends who are good at living

My friend is very good at navigating the world well. <br>For example, I think “let's consider the report in more detail” or “points are likely to be deducted here, so let's write in more detail,” etc., and although it's fun, I'm exhausted by occasional deadlines. In response to that, my...

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I'm currently pregnant.

Nice to meet you. I'm currently pregnant. I'm about to give birth in about 2 months. That's me, but it was the end of October of the year before last. I had an abortion. I was 3 months pregnant at the time. This is my first pregnancy and my partner is my current husband. (My boyfriend at...

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I'm afraid of dying

I'm afraid of dying. If I die and become nothing (since I think the mind is a product of the brain's electrical signals), I'm at a loss as to what it was until now and what “I” was. I don't want to die no matter what, even if I know it's impossible Even though I want to do my best in the...

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I feel impatient with parents who are getting older little by little.

My father is 64 and my mother is 68. Recently, both of them have gotten worse in their legs and lower back, and their physical strength has visibly declined... Parents aren't always young, are they? However, every time I realize that my parents are getting old, I am struck by an...

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About funeral expenses I paid during my lifetime.

My grandmother was born in Hokkaido and died locally ↓ ① Father → Child Counselor Sakurayuki My father was born in Hokkaido and currently lives in Kanto. I can't go out because I'm sick. The counselor, Sakurayuki, also lived in Kanto, but she went to Hokkaido when she got married. ②...

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