Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

About drinking alcohol

I'm struggling with my desire to drink alcohol. I began researching Buddhism after the death of a relative, and I learned that one of the Five Commandments is a commandment not to drink alcohol. When I looked it up on the internet, they said, “'Not drinking alcohol does not admonish...

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I have a question

I'm sorry if this is an impolite question, but what made you decide to become a monk? Can you tell us your motto or words you cherish?

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It makes me want to die of jealousy of people around me

People at the company I worked for in the past are blessed with jobs, and I get jealous when my friend's husband has a better salary or job description than my husband. Then, my heart becomes heavy, and I wonder if it would be easier if I died if it continued to be this painful... What should I...

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I can't forget the events that broke my memories

I went to a privately owned cafe the other day. I used to go there a lot about 5 years ago when I was living alone. They also sell coffee beans, and it was a memorable place where I fell in love with coffee because of the beans I bought at that cafe. When I opened the map on the internet to...

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What is a memorial service

My mother died in a car accident 10 years ago. After that, my older sister took in my mother's Buddhist altar and my father, who lived alone. However, when she passed away, my older sister and father had a tremendous fight with my older sister, father, and I, which led to a tremendous fight, so I...

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Temple-related questions part 1

Questions are flooding in, why? If you think about it, it's probably because it was introduced on TV. This time, I would like to ask questions about temples, etc. I just ran out of characters, so I'm going to do PART 1. Part 2 will be released soon. 1. (It's complex, though...) What...

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I want to die.

I manage to do it every day, but the pain is increasing because I made a mistake in the direction of my efforts. I feel that the person I am is the stupidest and most inferior person around me. I'm afraid of dying. However, I feel like there is no other way to be freed from me other than...

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Do people become nothing when they die

Death is a journey from suffering, right? Does it become nothing when you die? Those left behind will suffer more, right? Isn't that suffering even for those who die? Doesn't that mean dying is still painful?

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There is no hope for Japan's future

I have no hope for Japan's future, and I feel a sense of crisis. If you have negative feelings that you can't do anything about yourself, the condition of your abdomen, which became ill in March, will deteriorate. I think it's a way to come to terms, but when I return to work, I can see various...

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My heart is going to break

It's hard and painful to live in a chaotic world, and in this sense of blockage, there is no point in hosting the Olympics or the like, even if government officials boycott the Uyghur region due to human rights violations against people in the Uyghur region, there is no point in reporting it as a...

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they weren't friends... I think

Hello. I'm indebted to you. This time, it's about my high school friends... I'm having a fight with my high school friend... If you invite that friend to Disney, it would be nice to have a wealthy family. They say, and when you find out that your friend has a disability, I thought so. They...

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Is being ugly a crime?

Hello. Thank you for taking the time to look at my question. What I would like to ask you today is about “is it a crime to not look good?” Actually, I don't have a pretty face at all. When I was a student, I was bullied by it, and even after I became a member of society, I felt a clear...

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I want to erase my memory

Memories of sexual violence suffered decades ago still come back to life, and it's painful. I get caught up in the feeling that my body is unclean. I think my life is over half over already. It's painful to be tormented by this memory like this. I want to erase my memory.

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expiation

I was asked to discuss it a little while ago Let me discuss it again. I have been helped by someone via email etc. for about 4 years. I fell in love with that person, and even relentlessly sent emails and made phone calls, causing all kinds of trouble. And they helped me by consulting with me....

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I'm thinking about suicide

I'm a 20 year old nursing student. I've attempted suicide several times since I was in elementary school. I am surrounded by wonderful friends who are unfortunate to me, and I spend my time thinking that every day is definitely more enjoyable than before. I have lived my life thinking that I...

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Other people can't talk to me

I've always been worried about not being able to expand my conversation with my partner. They are people who can't stand silence, so they often talk from me, but the conversation doesn't continue at all. I'm careful about my facial expressions and tone, and I think I'm talking to various...

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On the interpretation of “obsession”

Nice to meet you. The other day, I experienced the Heart Sutra (Heart Sutra) for the first time in my life. At that time, I was told the law about liberation from “obsession.” I think moderation is important, but at the same time, I am satisfied with the sense of freedom of thought, and...

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After all I want to go to my son

We discussed it before, and they discussed it again while being rude without saying a nice thank you. My son passed away due to an accident, lived as others told me, and after 2 months, I still want to go to my son's place. That feeling is stronger than before. My son's father was divorced,...

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My brother's death

My younger brother, who was alive until now, committed suicide He is the youngest brother It also jumped in on the train and committed suicide. It passed away at age 16, so sad and I really regret why I said such a thing I don't know why I committed suicide My brother is rooted in the fact...

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I want to break free without doing anything, but is it still suicide?

I don't like this world and I don't think I like it. I suffer from this world every day, every day, Moreover, it has never been accepted by anyone, and I live a way of life where no one talks about my problems and doesn't lose to Kenji Miyazawa's rain. Every day, I study theoretical physics...

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