Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

What is an obsession with life

In a Buddhist book I read before, Buddha realized that fear of death was due to an obsession with life It was written on it. So why is it bad to take your own life when you don't like living? Why shouldn't you want to die because you're heartbroken, your job isn't going well, or if you...

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I can't tell anyone.

I can't talk to my family, friends, or anyone else. I'm going to go crazy if I leave it like this, so I'll stop here and throw up. I had a child with someone I've been in a relationship with since last year, then I enrolled, and a girl was born in January of this year. However, my face is...

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What does atoning for a crime mean? What if I disappeared from this world...?

I'm sorry that it was a story from a few years ago and I don't even know if it's a correct memory, and it's abstract and difficult to understand... please answer... A few years ago, I may have been involved in an incident, and I have talked with people involved in that incident. At the time, I...

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I don't like living

I've been unemployed for about 4 years now, and I don't understand the point of living. I'll be 40 years old on December 0. I'm thinking of it as my last specification at 40 years, which is only a good time. I'm this kind of person, so I'm isolated with my family, I hardly talk, I'm in a state...

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Am I overthinking things?

Nice to meet you. I've been thinking about life in my own way for a long time, since I was in middle school. When I was young, I tried to live properly (in simple terms, basic things I learn in morality), and I thought that it would make me happy. However, looking back until now,...

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I almost cry when I see a parent and child who are on good terms

I've been working at an otolaryngology clinic in the city since this summer. My salary is close to life, but for me, who has had a labor gap of nearly 3 years since I quit my previous job, there is almost nothing to do with life or death, I can manage it even if I take a break, I'm not deeply...

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Funeral sects and future memorial services

My father passed away earlier this month. My father's parents' house is a Nichiren sect, and all my siblings have funerals at the same temple. However, we were a branch family and were not very wealthy, and there was an intention of the family that they didn't want to ask for a request to that...

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I don't have a partner for life

Hello. Thank you for your support. I have been abused since I was a child, bullied by my siblings, and have no friends due to distrust of humanity. I left my parents' house, married a lonely person similar to myself, and had children. I got in touch with my parents and siblings on the...

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The plastic surgery was successful but I regret it

I'm going to be a college student starting in spring. As soon as I graduated from high school, I had plastic surgery to make my eyes double eyelid. I thought I hadn't changed that much, but when I met my high school classmates, everyone told me that they had changed. I was happy to have double...

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movies

It seems that they will make a film set in the local area. There is an audition. I'd like to try it out. I think something will change if I take on the challenge. Does Bon-san watch movies too? Were you in a movie?

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I'm having an affair

I'm a college student who has had a boyfriend of 1 year since we started dating. Recently, I was liked by a customer at my part-time job, and while I got in touch with them, I began to have an affair (sexual activity) due to that trend. They went well together, and we met a few times after...

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About the Three Treasures of Mahayana (why “Buddha”)

Thank you and good evening. We are always grateful to all of you for answering our questions. This time, I have a question about the Three Treasures of Mahayana Buddhism. What are the three treasures in primitive Buddhism and Theravada Buddhism after the fall of Buddha Buddha = Shakyamuni...

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A child who doesn't want to work hard

Please give me some advice on children who dropped out of art colleges and become ronin preparation for the entrance exam next spring. When I take the university entrance exam, the reason is simply because college graduates get a better salary than high school graduates to get a job, and “I...

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About the use of customs after visiting a shrine

Nice to meet you. I think the content is very rude, but I'm helplessly worried and would like to ask you a question. I'm going to Tokyo soon to take a job-related qualification exam, but I'm taking a day off until the next two days. There is also the fact that I can go to Tokyo after a long...

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About meditation

I suffer from mental illnesses such as interpersonal phobia and anxiety disorder. However, I have a strong desire to connect and get involved with people, and I have a strong desire to grow myself. Therefore, I started meditating six months ago. However, I didn't think effective meditation was...

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My daughter committed suicide.

My middle school daughter took her own life. I was a single mother and only daughter. Because there was no suicide note and discovery was delayed It was a few days and 49 days after the funeral, and I couldn't make it in time for the Buddhist altar. Is it true that people who commit...

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It's painful

I had insomnia and panic disorder about 7 years ago, became depressed, my self-operated store went bankrupt, got divorced, and received life insurance for 2 years. However, I spent a year interacting with the people I met, and left Kyoto, where I was raised, and moved to Kanto. However, even...

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I'm anxious and it's hard

I'm a high school student. It's summer vacation now, but I'm not good at school, I have few friends, and I'm lethargic every day. I often feel vague anxiety, and I want to die. My stomach hurts when I'm nervous, but I wasn't able to take classes properly at school, and I felt like I was truant....

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I want to stop the manners

Nice to meet you, I have an important girlfriend. We've been dating for about 2 months, but we are considering getting married and are in a serious relationship. I think he is an ideal person with the best personality and physical compatibility. However, I have been fond of sex games since I...

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Where are the deceased during Obon?

Hello. Thank you for always listening to me. I lost my father last year, but since my father wasn't an heir, it was a year where the rest of the family didn't know or got lost because they were worried about Buddhist rituals. Obon was also quite a strange event, so I'd like you to tell me a...

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