Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

What were you born for?

Hi I've always been raised strictly by my parents. When I was young, I just listened to what was said and concentrated on being nice. Recently, however, I often feel that what my parents are saying is incorrect, and even when I try to tell them “that is wrong,” I end up breaking up and...

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An easy way to identify denominations

I have many opportunities to talk with bereaved families due to my work, and I am very worried that I will misunderstand the deceased's denomination at that time and the content of the conversation will be misunderstood. I think there are many denominations, but for example, if the Buddhist...

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My marriage between an irreligious person and an emerging religious believer

Hello, thank you for your support. There were a lot of things with my boyfriend who was 6 years younger, whom I met through a work-related relationship, and we finally started talking about marriage. I was very happy about that, but when I came here, I was very puzzled to hear that he...

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Is it possible to change the denomination of my parents' temple

My parents' house is a temple, but I'm the heir. The sect is the Rinzai sect. I have 2 questions. ① Is it possible to change the sect within the Rinzai sect from the Daitokuji school to the Myoshinji school, Shokokuji school, etc. ② Is it possible to change from Rinzai sect to Soto sect?

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painful jealousy or jealousy, friend marriage, pregnancy, childbirth

Nice to meet you. I'm a 29-year-old single woman. It's really painful, so please let me talk to you. A close friend of mine decided to get married. I haven't had a boyfriend in a long time. Also, my friend hasn't had a boyfriend for a long time, so we did marriage hunting together and...

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I don't understand the difference between overdoing it and trying hard

I can't move like a human if I don't do many times better than people, so it's no good to overdo things around me a lot, right? They say, but even if I overdo it, I don't think I'll be able to do it unless I do it; the process is bad, and it's a mess. How should I do things without overdoing it?

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I've started to hate going to school lately.

It's been a while. It's here. Recently, I've started to hate going to college. There aren't any issues such as special bullying, etc., but for some reason I don't want to go there. Also, for some reason it's depressing when I'm in school. When I wake up in the morning, I usually get ready,...

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Contradictions in ways of thinking

Thank you for your support before. There was something I wanted to ask again this time, so I'm bothering you. I'm not very good at socializing, and basically I live my life while keeping a constant distance from everyone. I wonder if tomorrow there will be people who don't want to be liked or...

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sickness

I've been feeling unwell since I was over 30. If you think that one disease has finally been cured, another illness will be discovered. All of them are illnesses that interfere with daily life, but since they look healthy, I sometimes have trouble getting involved with people around me, and no...

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I can't find the value of being alive

Nice to meet you, please. I'm quick to lie about even the smallest things. Even if I want to stop, I don't have confidence in myself, so I can't even talk to people if I don't lie to myself. What's more, I quickly disliked my job, and they just lied and explained to my parents who live with...

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Can a returnee become a monk's wife

I've spent two-thirds of my life overseas, I wanted to live in Japan as a Japanese person, It's been 6 years since I came back to Japan. Recently, I've fallen in love with monks from Jodo Sect temples that have continued from generation to generation. I'm also around the age where I want to...

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I'm slow

I'm wondering if I can ask this question here, but I'll try it out. I want to stop masturbating, commonly known as forbidding masturbation. I always try my best and I can only put up with it for 3 days. When you masturbate, tremendous fatigue remains in your body the next day. How can I put...

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How to let go of obsessions

This is the person I previously consulted about miscarriages and infertility. Thank you so much for your thoughtful answers that section. I read your answers and previous questions and answers, and little by little I have regained my composure, but I haven't been able to feel well very...

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What should we do from now on? Please give me some advice.

I'm tired of living. I have lived with the desire to die for 13 years. Bullying, truancy, and untreatable atopic dermatitis and depression. You might be told that you still have a long way to go. But I've already suffered a lot. It was probably about 8 years ago. I've made up my...

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Is it OK to leave the temple and parents and get married

I'm thinking of getting married to the eldest son of a temple far from my house, but no one will succeed him. From when I was able to remember, I thought I would be the heir, and I've been doing matchmaking and marriage hunting, but I'm now in my 30s without a relationship. The people I'm...

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Interest and passion don't last long.

As the title suggests, it's a problem. There are so many things I want to do. There is no end to the list of language, beauty, play, work skill improvement, etc. But as soon as I set about it, my interest disappeared. I don't think that's enough, so I try to keep going, but since I keep...

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Fear of death won't go away

The other day, while a thorough examination was performed and the results came out I was so nervous, anxious, and so upset. (I almost panicked) I'm amazed at my own “obsession with life.” When I looked at the internet, people younger than me were declared to have a life...

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This is the person I talked to about marriage before

Previously, I had a discussion about his family objecting to marriage. Thank you so much for all your advice. He did his best, but I couldn't get his parents' understanding. It seems that his father calmly listened to the consultation, but it seems that he was asked to give up so as not to...

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I want to be needed by someone

I came across this site for the first time today. Could you please listen to my concerns? I have a stronger desire to “be needed by someone” than before. However, when it is denied or denied, I am struck by an extreme sense of hopelessness, and I often want to disappear. It's also about...

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Are temple brides absolutely helpful?

It's been 4 years since I got married to the wife of the eldest son of the temple. The feeling that I can't eat at the temple and my husband and I work different jobs, and my husband helps once in a while and eventually takes over is about half now. It's not like I get money either, and my...

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