Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I'm currently pregnant.

Nice to meet you. I'm currently pregnant. I'm about to give birth in about 2 months. That's me, but it was the end of October of the year before last. I had an abortion. I was 3 months pregnant at the time. This is my first pregnancy and my partner is my current husband. (My boyfriend at...

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I'm afraid of dying

I'm afraid of dying. If I die and become nothing (since I think the mind is a product of the brain's electrical signals), I'm at a loss as to what it was until now and what “I” was. I don't want to die no matter what, even if I know it's impossible Even though I want to do my best in the...

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I feel impatient with parents who are getting older little by little.

My father is 64 and my mother is 68. Recently, both of them have gotten worse in their legs and lower back, and their physical strength has visibly declined... Parents aren't always young, are they? However, every time I realize that my parents are getting old, I am struck by an...

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About funeral expenses I paid during my lifetime.

My grandmother was born in Hokkaido and died locally ↓ ① Father → Child Counselor Sakurayuki My father was born in Hokkaido and currently lives in Kanto. I can't go out because I'm sick. The counselor, Sakurayuki, also lived in Kanto, but she went to Hokkaido when she got married. ②...

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If I kill myself, will I go to hell?

If I kill myself, will I go to hell? For example, if you get cancer and refuse treatment, is that suicide? I'm sorry I'm alive.

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It's hard being alive.

I don't understand my worth. I can't take care of myself. From a few years ago, every day before going to bed, I began praying “may I die if I wake up” and “may I die tomorrow,” and every time I woke up in the morning, I felt hopeless that “I'm still alive.” Even so, there was something I...

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My friend who majored in philosophy refuted me.

　I live a bleak life every day, and when I reached a milestone where I had to change, I was given an opportunity to think about the meaning of life. I wanted the meaning of life, or a reason to be convinced that I'm alive now. Somehow I found the reason within myself. It says, “People try to do...

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I've thought about it...

I recently learned about the Five Treason Sins It says that it hurts the Buddha's body There is a selfish interpretation that hurting the Buddha's body is probably destroying a bronze statue of the Buddha or destroying a Buddhist altar, etc. And when I learned about those 5 sins I was...

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I want to stop “a woman's enemy.”

Nice to meet you. I would like to ask the monk to cheat you this time, so I would like to discuss it with you. I now work for a company where 70% of my employees are women. Although 70% are women, most of the positions held are men. Today, the director (male) told me that he would like me to...

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About the future of him who has a criminal record and me who is a liar

We've been dating for 10 months on the matching app, and we're planning to remarry in April. He is in Niigata and I in Kanazawa, and he spends money and time to see me every week, he cares for my family, does housework, and we spend our birthdays and New Year holidays together. He is jealous and...

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Regrets about not having a relationship in the past

When I was in middle school, I did something embarrassing that I couldn't say. Nothing in particular was gained with it. Also, no one knew whether they were lucky or unlucky. However, if I had found out, if everything had gone in a bad direction, I might not have been in my current position. We...

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I'm frustrated with my husband

I'm frustrated with my husband. I get frustrated with statements and actions that don't go the way I want, and I just make prickly statements. There are times when I get frustrated with people at work, but I intend to choose words and make statements. What I love the most is my husband, and he...

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I want to be freed from appearance problems

I haven't run out of worries about my appearance since I became a university student. The trigger was that they were welcome and only the cute girl they were with was given preferential treatment. From that point on, I couldn't take off my mask. In the summer of my first year at college, I became...

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I'm a sinner who has derailed my life alone.

The company I was working for was a tough place. I can't tell them the details of my work, and if I consult, they are implicitly ridiculed as incompetent. In a nutshell, “everything is personal responsibility” I learned about the job on my own with the thought that “you can only get a voice...

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Men are dirty creatures

Every night, when it's this time, my anger at men doesn't subside, and it's painful, so let me talk to him about it. I think men are dirty creatures. The compliments given by men are just meant to be brought into sex, and they are not meant to be real, Even if we try to get close to it,...

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The meaning of studying

It's about my son in middle school Originally, my academic ability was above normal, but after entering junior high school, I stopped studying They have committed various misdeeds, and now I am indebted to the Child Counseling Center The child minister says The reason my son doesn't...

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About the memorial service

Why are there no memorial services in the Jodo Shinshu sect? There seem to be various opinions, such as “because the memorial service is self-reliant” and “because all those who died passed away in paradise and there is no need to do memorial services,” etc., but which one is true?

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Which temple would a monk like to visit?

The question is as the title says. Even recommended temples you've actually visited are fine. Temples are quiet, aren't they? Even when there are people around, I feel at ease as if I am alone. I'm weak against sound, light, and smell, so I prefer quiet places. There is also a part where I...

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I can't stop playing with men

I wonder if it's okay to leave it like this We would like to hear your feedback and would like to discuss it. I'm a monk's wife, but I can't stop playing with men. Use online dating to get to know each other, Basically, relationships are with one person, It's a situation where there are...

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Can pregnant women go to the funeral?

My mother-in-law has passed away, and a funeral will be held. There is a family member who is pregnant, and it seems that they will attend the funeral. I remember hearing from my relatives a long time ago that pregnant women should refrain from attending funerals, and when I looked it up on...

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