Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

The meaning of life is to die properly

I'm 23 now From birth until today, I never thought it would be fun to be alive If you're going to live an unhappy life for decades to come, it's easier to die now it didn't take long to come to this conclusion However, things didn't go as well as I thought Why is it still alive I've...

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I want to disappear cleanly from this world

　A lot of similar concerns have been received, and I was wondering if I should go out of my way to ask questions, but I have registered an account. I'm just bothered by it. The events happening in this world are like pictorial stories. After all, it's nonsense to go out of your way to live...

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I came to my workplace where the drinking party was absolute.

I'm worried about quitting my job. I'm a 30-year-old civil servant, and I'm tired of the village society that is smaller and too old than I had imagined. At the drinking party the other day, the top of the club said, “I can't really see the abilities of people below. That's why I measure that...

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It's better to put it down for kids

I'm not married, but the boyfriend I'm dating has children! I was happy that my boyfriend said let me get married when I had kids, but they didn't meet my parents even though I knew I had kids for 1 month, and they said it had been 1 month since I told my boyfriend's parents why I didn't say...

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Photosynthetic Pets (Nature and Annoyance)

My “dream for the future” when I was in middle school was to “develop plants that move.” What I was most interested in was “global warming” in general. When I hear that what promotes global warming the most is cow burp, I've been thinking about “development of food (plants) that are difficult to...

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I don't know what to do

Since last week, I have been taking more time off due to difficult work times. Every day I cry at home alone because I can't get out of my futon and my body doesn't move. I didn't even get food through my throat today. The feeling that I can't forgive myself for running away It's hard every...

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My brainwashing has melted, and I have lost my way of life. How to live

I am a 32 male office worker and I live with my wife 38. Wife with physical disability unemployed, mother Christian emerging religion, father depression, past violence with older brother and now estranged, father-in-law depression, mother-in-law bereavement, sister-in-law...

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I can't go to school anymore

My second-year middle son hasn't been able to go to school since mid-June. I started getting frustrated at home from around the previous month, and I was wondering if puberty was in full swing... but it seems like there was nagging teasing at school. Gradually, I started staying up late at...

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Wouldn't it be bad if the goal wasn't clear?

Good evening. I watch it all the time. Is it bad to be human if you don't have clear goals for life, and work in particular? I work at a restaurant, and due to the recent situation at the restaurant, I'm also considering changing jobs. But I especially want to do this! There's no such...

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Lookism and me

I feel a strong complex about my appearance. My face is plain, short, my chest is small, I'm fat... I've been bullied and teased since I was a child for my appearance. I was born with a plain appearance that didn't resemble my mother's glamorous appearance, and I was also disappointed by my...

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I want you to say it's okay to shake it off

I was born to a father who has always been abusive and abusive. I was ridiculed for choosing a vocational school as a place to go on to college, and my siblings were judged superior or inferior. While my mother was in the hospital, I was dependent on alcohol despite doing all the housework...

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My brother and his brother's friend are too insane and I'm in trouble

Previously, I discussed that my mother was opposed to getting a job and that I was in trouble. My high school brother and his friend are so insane this time around, so I wanted to borrow some wisdom. First of all, I have a younger brother who is going to be a high school student, and I always...

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I don't fit in with the denomination I'm married to

My parents' house is the Jodo sect, and there are many Jodo sects in the surrounding area, and my uncle was a Tendai sect, but the flow wasn't much different from the Jodo sect. My husband's father passed away last month, and I'm confused because my bride is in the Otani school of the Shinshu...

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How a sense of vengeance doesn't develop

There are so many problems, but let me talk about “revenge,” which is one of the problems I want to solve quickly. It's going to be complicated and lengthy, so I'll omit the circumstances, but there are times when my sense of revenge against my ex (I still keep in touch, but I don't seem to...

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About the haze reflected in photographs of temples and shrines

Hello. It hasn't happened anywhere else, but especially when I take pictures at shrines, etc., white haze may be reflected even though there is no smoke. We have a long camera history, and I intend to be detailed about the phenomenon where something is unintentionally captured in a photograph...

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Let me tell you about the day I first guessed my sad premonition.

Nice to meet you. I'm naturally inspired, so I've had no shortage of strange experiences from an early age. Every year, there are events that I remember when it comes to this season. This is a story about a “sad prediction” that I experienced for the first time in my life when I was still in...

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It's been a busy week.

I was in the hospital for 2 nights and 2 days from when the day changed to Sunday this week until Monday. My stomach ache was severe and I vomited over and over again, and I thought it might be my cecum. As a result, it was a ureteral stone, which is said to be one of the three major pain...

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I lost my 1 year and 10 month old son.

Just 1 week ago, I lost my son, who was 1 year and 10 months old. On my birthday as a mother, my life was too short. My son grew up fast and healthy, and was a child with excellent health no matter who looked at him. He died without warning, and was diagnosed as a sudden death of unknown...

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About living with a partner who has an intractable illness

Hello. Please tell us what you think about living with an intractable partner and caring for him. Three years ago, when I was living with my partner, he was designated an intractable disease and became disabled. Since I was overseas, I had no relatives I could rely on, and as a result of...

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Words said to me by the president of the company I used to work for

I made a few mistakes at the store I worked at a while ago. That itself was my mistake, so I can understand being warned, but when they were two, the president of that privately owned company said, “You work part-time at that age and don't have a lover, so you'll die alone in the future.” I can...

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