Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I'm depressed due to relationships, but I can't decide to take a leave of absence

No matter how much I think about it, I can't make a decision or act, so I'd like you to consult with me. Recently, a person who is on good terms with my boss (hereafter called Mr. A) moved to the same department/job type as me. I was dissatisfied that my boss only asked Mr. A to do the work,...

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What do monks think of us?

Why don't monks hold gatherings like Christians in the community? To be honest, I think they are people who would be good if they were good. In the past, past, and now, in a frivolous world, people who are serious even if they are clumsy, think without permission that they need sacred...

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My grandson will build a house on my grandmother's land.

I am the eldest daughter of three sisters. Our parents worked together, we were grandmothers and children, and we were really indebted to our grandmother. My grandmother is 94 years old and is doing pretty well. They had a family, and the sisters were good friends, but now the second...

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How to deal with my mother

I am a person full of flaws, so I am often criticized by my mother. Yesterday I was finally told to leave and die. I'm often criticized for being with my mother, so I avoid it, but that makes my mother too lonely. But they don't like everything about me enough to criticize me so...

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When I want you to take care of yourself. What words should I use?

Hello, thank you for your continued support. People who think I'm superior call themselves a “dried fish woman.” Evaluate yourself, immerse yourself in an inferiority complex, treat yourself appropriately, saying it's troublesome and troublesome... There are people like that close to...

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My girlfriend now

I'm afraid my current girlfriend won't like me, so I push myself to death. I thought they might dislike me if I said this, and I couldn't say what I wanted to say, and I felt like I was in tatters. I want to be prepared to be disliked, but what should I do? I was able to clearly state what...

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My husband is involved in an emerging religion.

I married a younger man last year. My husband is a member of a religious organization called a cult. I knew it even before I got married, but I thought I'd dismiss it as a hobby. Other people have no complaints and are serious and nice people. However, an unfortunate journal arrived. It made...

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How to become a temple entryman

Nice to meet you all. I was at a loss as to whether it was okay to ask something like this here, I ask with all my heart. I'm a so-called watch shop whose job is to cover and remake hanging scrolls Yes, that's it. I want to be in a relationship with the temple people on a regular...

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What should I do to protect my parents' house?

I am the oldest son of 4 siblings. My younger siblings are all married and live in a house about 20 km away. (I got my wife and my last name hasn't changed) I have 3 children in total (10, 8, and 2 years old) My younger siblings went outside because the eldest son said that I, the eldest son,...

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Choosing a denomination

Can I choose my own religion? Someone recommended that I join the Soka Gakkai. My parents' house is Zen. I married to a family of a different denomination, but we got divorced. In this case, are you going back to your parents' denomination? Are you going to make a new choice yourself? I...

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I'm sandwiched between my wife and parents

A child was born, and my wife started saying she wanted to buy a house by the time she reached elementary school. My wife doesn't seem to like living with my parents at my parents' house. My parents' house is in the countryside, and I'm the eldest son, so of course I want my parents to come...

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Feelings of fuzzy foggy

Hello. I am writing to you for the first time. Thank you for your support. The other day, when I gave my opinion to younger kids about work at work, they cried and said, “Why do you only say that to me,” and the atmosphere was a bit bad. (I chose the words as much as possible because I didn't...

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My son's rebellious period

Thank you so much for your kind words the other day. Since then, I think it's been bland, A little thing made me freak out again this morning. It seemed like not only me, but people unrelated to it would get involved When I tried to pick up my cell phone, it was thrown at me. Fortunately,...

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my true dream. That's an entertainer.

I'm always indebted to you. This time, I'm talking about double workers. A friend of mine has a son who is a priest. It seems that the child's father is a school teacher while being the chief priest. I was surprised... that there are such people among those who are the chief priests. Well,...

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Why do we put our hands together at the monk

There are people who put their hands together at the monk and clap their hands before burning incense for a temple visit. Is this the right approach?

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Shouldn't we be greedy for a relationship?

It's a long sentence, but thank you. My friends around me are getting married more and more, but I don't have anyone I'm currently in a relationship with. Recently, I've also been feeling pressure from my parents to “come on and get married” on a daily basis. Until now, I had no desire to get...

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he was diagnosed with an intractable disease

He was thinking about getting married and was diagnosed with an intractable illness. There is no cure and it progresses. It is said that your body will eventually stop moving and you will be bedridden. It seems that he also thought about hiding his illness and breaking up with me. But I told...

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My husband rejected my incoming call, and I'm in pain.

I know my husband, who is currently separated, works, but I have no idea what he thinks or does, especially outside of his holidays and work. Of course, I don't know the details when it comes to salary, and there are no remittances at all. My husband temporarily lived with me at my parents'...

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You will hyperventilate.

I don't want to go to work. I have a colleague at work that I don't like. I don't like just looking at that person. I moved last week, and that person was in the house across the street. The parking lot is next door. I was so surprised that I hyperventilated. The company is also...

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It makes me think about death

I have lost a friend to suicide before. I've overcome it quite a bit, but there are times when I suddenly feel extremely sad. However, I accepted that it was unavoidable, but recently I'm struggling with different feelings again. Even though I don't have any particular worries or things I want...

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