Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

My mother passed away.

Good morning. I was very indebted to Hasunoha from time to time due to my mother's care. My mother passed away. I've been indebted to the facility for over 2 years, and I'm doing really well and I still want to live! He was ambitious, but he passed away less than a week after being...

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I don't know what to do

A woman I know is in debt, and it seems that she also got involved in loan sharks. They asked me to prepare the money since it's only a little while away. I declined because I also have an intractable illness and don't have any savings. She says that all of her friends have been turned down and...

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luxury disease? The feeling of emptiness won't go away.

I've always been told “I don't have that.” No matter what I do, I'm better than average, and I'm not good at it, and I'm not good at it. Overall, it's half-hearted. My studies are average in all subjects, my appearance is OK, my parents' house is a bit rich... I can do a decent job no matter...

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I can't empathize with people

I'm worried because I can't empathize with people's feelings (mostly positive emotions). I don't think anything when I see how happy or happy others are, and I don't feel anything. Therefore, I feel extremely bothered and bothersome about the act of doing or doing something for someone...

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The cost of living

Isn't living a pretty bad cost performance? I'm a college student. There wasn't anything I particularly disliked, but it didn't mean there was anything I wanted to do. Even if you don't want to live, you have to eat, do activities, and get involved with people even if you don't want to...

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What does living mean

I quit my job last year and have been NEET ever since The reason I quit seems stupid but it's because I don't understand the meaning of being alive Looking back on my life at this age, it was so empty that I didn't have anything to be proud of However, I couldn't feel happy in being alive,...

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About heirs

They got married in 2012 and are raising two girls. There is also the wife of the deputy chief priest, so I'm worried that she wasn't able to give birth to a boy However, since we don't originally like children, we have no plans to give birth in the future. After all, does the heir have to...

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Hotoke

Do monks make money? If you don't make money, how do monks exist? It seems like it's going to be gone.

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What about the future with him whose hobbies and interests are so different?

It's about the guy I met on a matching app 3 months ago. They are people with deep feelings, and they listen to and understand stories very well. Actually, I lost my partner to a sudden death three and a half years ago, and I haven't laughed ever since, but thanks to him, the timeline of my life...

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Is it bad to want to die

It makes me want to die. Aside from whether I really think it, when painful and unbearable things overlap, I think “I want to die quickly, I want to be released soon.” Living = Hard, Painful Dying = liberation from living I have a diagram called within me. So when there are a lot of...

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I want friends (although I'm an adult).

I'm a full-time housewife in my 40s. I want acquaintances and friends. I want you to listen to my complaints, etc. I don't want it to be a burden to the other party. Small talk (it's getting warmer ♪ etc.) I want relationships to the extent that they do. (I went to my favorite language...

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I just want to die and it's painful

I'm currently depressed and taking a leave of absence from college. I am suffering from bullying, rants from my biological father and mother's remarriage partner, distrust of humanity due to my mother's infidelity, and the trauma of sexual harm at age 4 and 21 When I was 20 years old, I became...

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I got it, but...

A few years ago, I was studying sutras at the temple on the weekend, but my siblings lazily lied and cheated for a while and only hid things from the chief priest (mentor) Eventually... getting caught and scolded over and over again, and I was scolded every time, and I was scolded every time,...

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Is being born a human man a reward for misdeeds in a previous life?

Is being born to a human man a reward in a previous life? I don't think life is this hard. If you're single, you're single and “why can't you have a household, are there any mental barriers?” or “is work the only way to live?” If you have a household, you have it, and “how can you make...

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I don't know how to repair my relationship with my real sister.

Originally, I had a real sister who was very close, but there were differences of opinion about my mother and my real sister's son, and I didn't get in a relationship at all from my partner because of that. The discrepancy was that my mother and my real sister's son lived together, and that son...

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The choice to die

Job hunting failed. I haven't been able to go to graduate school at all. Even if you succeed in job hunting and go on to graduate school, there is no hope for the future anymore. I can't face my parents who raised me up to this point, I can't keep up with the level around me, and I have no...

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A temple where you can keep your remains

I'm worried about temples that take care of children's remains. If I write in detail here, temples and people will be identified, so please refrain. My parents are still doing well, but when they died, I think of it as a permanent memorial service at the temple where my ancestors buried their...

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I can't face my fears before surgery

I'm a 20 year old college student. Recently, it was decided that I will have surgery in August of this year. Originally, it was an operation necessary in the future, but as of April, it was suddenly decided, and I'm not ready. The doctor told me that surgery has risks, and that half of the...

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Determining the time of death

I always think about my body and live my life. My family only talks about themselves and doesn't worry about me. I don't know what kind of job is good even though I think about my ears and change jobs. I think it would be mentally easier to decide when to die and decide to die in a year. I'm...

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My grandfather committed suicide.

I lost my grandfather 5 years ago. At the time, I had heard that he suddenly collapsed at home and died of illness, but I heard the other day that it really was suicide. I also read my grandfather's suicide note. The cause of suicide was my grandmother. My grandmother has not been diagnosed,...

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