Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Religion and marriage

I had a boyfriend of 5 years and I was thinking about getting married. When we first started dating, I was told that he was religious. I was also biased against religion, so I declined to go out with someone who is religious, but I want them to go out with someone who is religious because they...

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Thank you from the bottom of my heart

This is not a question, so I don't need an answer. I'm happy that you just read it. Thank you so much for all of your answers so far. I am full of gratitude. The warm and kind words that enveloped me, and the soulful words all became my treasure. I go to a psychiatrist and take...

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my fears

I'm afraid of dying This started around July. “Maybe cancer?” I thought I did a lot of searches on Google along with symptoms If you get good results (I don't think it's cancer) It makes me feel really energetic and I can enjoy life But bad results (maybe cancer, why don't you go to...

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Is it a doctor or the University of Tokyo

When I was on active duty, I took the University of Tokyo and failed. Since I was on active duty, I was at a loss as to whether to take the medical school exam and applied to the University of Tokyo. After I failed, I went on to an anti-slip university while being told by people around me that it...

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pretension

I got on the train yesterday. What's more, during rush home. The old man with the help mark on his bag couldn't sit on a chair and was standing next to him. The seat in front of me was vacated, and when I handed it over to the old man from Help Mark, he said thank you. I'm not such a good...

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friend relationship

Excuse me for the consecutive throws. I've always had close friends After I had a fight with that friend Let's talk about whatever we honestly think I promised But lately I haven't been able to protect it. because I'm afraid of that friend What that kid thinks and I just...

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The value of my existence

I'm a single woman in her 30s. I don't have a boyfriend. Everyone around me has already married and given birth, and sometimes I wonder if I need myself. When I was a student, I was bullied, and I clenched my teeth alone, believing that I would be happy when I became an adult, even if none of...

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Should I give up my dream of becoming a teacher

I am a graduate student (M1, humanities). I've been playing piano since I was a child, played a brass band from elementary school to the middle of my first year of college, played jazz flute for 4 years at university, and recently started playing guitar. Also, since they can do a little bit of...

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My mother passed away.

Good morning. I was very indebted to Hasunoha from time to time due to my mother's care. My mother passed away. I've been indebted to the facility for over 2 years, and I'm doing really well and I still want to live! He was ambitious, but he passed away less than a week after being...

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I don't know what to do

A woman I know is in debt, and it seems that she also got involved in loan sharks. They asked me to prepare the money since it's only a little while away. I declined because I also have an intractable illness and don't have any savings. She says that all of her friends have been turned down and...

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luxury disease? The feeling of emptiness won't go away.

I've always been told “I don't have that.” No matter what I do, I'm better than average, and I'm not good at it, and I'm not good at it. Overall, it's half-hearted. My studies are average in all subjects, my appearance is OK, my parents' house is a bit rich... I can do a decent job no matter...

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I can't empathize with people

I'm worried because I can't empathize with people's feelings (mostly positive emotions). I don't think anything when I see how happy or happy others are, and I don't feel anything. Therefore, I feel extremely bothered and bothersome about the act of doing or doing something for someone...

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The cost of living

Isn't living a pretty bad cost performance? I'm a college student. There wasn't anything I particularly disliked, but it didn't mean there was anything I wanted to do. Even if you don't want to live, you have to eat, do activities, and get involved with people even if you don't want to...

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What does living mean

I quit my job last year and have been NEET ever since The reason I quit seems stupid but it's because I don't understand the meaning of being alive Looking back on my life at this age, it was so empty that I didn't have anything to be proud of However, I couldn't feel happy in being alive,...

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About heirs

They got married in 2012 and are raising two girls. There is also the wife of the deputy chief priest, so I'm worried that she wasn't able to give birth to a boy However, since we don't originally like children, we have no plans to give birth in the future. After all, does the heir have to...

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Hotoke

Do monks make money? If you don't make money, how do monks exist? It seems like it's going to be gone.

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What about the future with him whose hobbies and interests are so different?

It's about the guy I met on a matching app 3 months ago. They are people with deep feelings, and they listen to and understand stories very well. Actually, I lost my partner to a sudden death three and a half years ago, and I haven't laughed ever since, but thanks to him, the timeline of my life...

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Is it bad to want to die

It makes me want to die. Aside from whether I really think it, when painful and unbearable things overlap, I think “I want to die quickly, I want to be released soon.” Living = Hard, Painful Dying = liberation from living I have a diagram called within me. So when there are a lot of...

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I want friends (although I'm an adult).

I'm a full-time housewife in my 40s. I want acquaintances and friends. I want you to listen to my complaints, etc. I don't want it to be a burden to the other party. Small talk (it's getting warmer ♪ etc.) I want relationships to the extent that they do. (I went to my favorite language...

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I just want to die and it's painful

I'm currently depressed and taking a leave of absence from college. I am suffering from bullying, rants from my biological father and mother's remarriage partner, distrust of humanity due to my mother's infidelity, and the trauma of sexual harm at age 4 and 21 When I was 20 years old, I became...

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