Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I'm going to let go of my parents' house. I'm sorry for my late parents

My father and mother have both passed away, and my parents' house has become vacant. I left home and got married, and I'm not going back to live at my parents' house anymore. I occasionally return home, but I am also busy every day, and my garden is getting more and more rough. I discussed it...

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greets

You can't open up your mind and be bogged down by your opponent.

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I know it's not suitable

It's my first time, and thank you for your support. It's going to be a problem at work. Three years have passed since I became a dentist, and I continue to struggle that this job isn't right for me. My hands are clumsy, I'm not good at dealing with people, I can't properly receive complaints...

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I suddenly had a question.

Why do people have self-centered thoughts? Why do people hurt people? There are people who understand and people who don't notice... Why would they do that? Thank you for your answers.

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It's painful to regret being disliked due to a gaffe.

I have someone I like. It's just a matter of talking at work and going out to eat once in a while. I don't know what his boyfriend, who is over 20 years younger, intended to invite me out for a meal, but it was fun when we were together, and I secretly had romantic feelings. We ate together...

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Shikoku pilgrimage

This is my second question. Thank you very much for the good answers I received due to my mother's death in the previous question. Well, here's my problem this time A friend invited me to go on the Shikoku 88 pilgrimage, and it seems that my family's sect is the Jodo Shinshu sect and there is...

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About the kaima

My mother passed away yesterday (I was the mourner) I was given a kakana, but the chief priest of the parish family said that there was a difference with my late father's kaima and was promoted by my older sister, but I was worried about the cost (no offerings were posted at that time), so I...

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I was hugged by my uncle during the ossuary

I was hugged by my uncle when I buried my grandfather's remains in his grave. I don't think it's possible for relatives to touch their bodies when they're paying attention to graves, but since it's an important ceremony, I couldn't make a fuss. Even now, a few years later, every time I look at...

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Is there a way to get rid of feelings?

This is my first time asking a question. The sentences are cluttered and difficult to read, but please forgive me. I have a husband, and my husband's best friend (I'll call you Mr. A) There are quite frequent cases where 3 people, including those, play together. It's been since the...

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They say they want a divorce.

Over 4 years have passed since my husband was assigned alone, and it seems that during that time, my husband had a large amount of debt due to gambling, and at the end of April, “I want you to somehow make the money convenient since I can't pay, and if I can't, get divorced, and I want to use...

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The days when I expect it without permission and get depressed

I've been crying for half a year now. Since I was sick with COVID-19 and shingles in September of last year, my work didn't progress as expected, and I was unable to get up from the day after being reprimanded for work failure in mid-October, I took a leave of absence for 2 weeks, completely...

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Damn, would heresy be the worst?

I'm indebted to you. Actually, it became an emerging Buddhist religion about 15 years ago. I left the membership after less than 3 years. That's because I didn't know much at first and got into the faith because I was hesitant, but shamefully, I didn't do much research. At first, I thought it was...

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Bad things I want to forget

I want to live my life by quickly forgetting what I don't like or what I want to forget. I want to forget the slander I saw on the internet and the bad things I was told in real life But I wonder if it's my nature and it drags on forever... The worst thing is that I quickly flash back to the...

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Could you please put in the activity

Good evening. Thank you for your always kind answers. Excuse me for the rampage. Recently, I've been depressed about a lot of things, and I'm impatient when I see friends who have decided on a career path again, I can't get ready for the exam (teacher recruitment exam) that is ahead of next...

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Relatives who get married on NEET

My husband is the eldest son and he is preparing to take over the business in the near future. I have a younger brother, and I was working after graduating from college, but I took a leave of absence due to depressive symptoms, came back to my parents' house, and was unemployed while being...

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About listening to what people say

Do I have to keep and listen to everything my parents and superiors say? By honestly listening to the words my parents said in a religious story and putting them into practice, I've heard that life is going well. Please tell me.

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Is being divorced unconditionally disliked?

Nice to meet you. We got divorced a year ago without two years of marriage and no children. The cause was a personality mismatch and my unforgettable love. Currently, my partner in love is my boyfriend, and I think we have built a good relationship. However, when I think about my future with...

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I don't feel well and want to quit my job, but I'm worried about my life

Work is getting harder year by year, and recently not only can I not get rid of fatigue, but my physical condition continues, such as pain all over my body. There are no days off other than public holidays (8th or 9th) every month, and due to a constant shortage of personnel, I can't take paid...

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The meaning of living even though my heart is broken

Even now, every day I start my day regretting not getting a job in my 20s. I passed a difficult exam with a hard job, but I was working another job at that time and for some reason I didn't change jobs. Even though I studied hard in order to change jobs, I passed the exam. Even now, I have no...

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Parents who throw things away without permission

I decided to leave my parents' house on the occasion of my marriage, but since I can't throw things away, I sorted the things I wanted to dispose of when organizing my home beforehand and asked my parents to dispose of them. However, after a while, I had errands, and when I went back to my...

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