Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I don't know what to do from now on

Remembering painful things from the past makes it painful. After that, I have a strong feeling that I want people to acknowledge me, and I don't really understand myself anymore. I don't know if there are parts where I'm not satisfied with the current situation, but I feel depressed. Of course, I...

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Should I continue my current romantic relationship

I have been dating a girlfriend for about 6 years. At first, I fell in love with them at first sight, and I'm really thankful that they went out with me. We've been living together ever since we started dating, went from being students to working adults together, and have been together until...

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Should they disappear if they can't play a role in society?

26 years old, 4th year working adult. Mistakes and lack of confirmation overlapped at work, and I wasn't able to work well in my previous department, and after getting sick and taking a leave of absence for 1 month, I was transferred to another department. Looking back, I often think “I could...

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I want to listen to puja stories that are easy for children to understand during memorial services

I'm indebted to you. It's been almost 1 year since my husband passed away. I still can't sort out my feelings. The months and days are just passing by. Every time, I read a lot of content here, and it's a day where I calm my mind. This time, I will celebrate my first anniversary. At that...

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About the monk's sutra posture and breathing

I'm an ordinary housewife, but I use the Heart Sutra app to read the Heart Sutra to relax my mind and body. So the question is, when monks read sutras, do they meditate or sit in the right position? Also, when you inhale, do you do it through your nose or through your mouth? Thank you for your...

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How to become a monk

After taking care of my father, my sister began to want to be a monk. She was a kind child, and there were times when she was mentally unstable, but it seems like she always wanted to be a monk. I heard that I couldn't talk about it due to issues such as nursing care, etc., and I thought it...

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Something I've been suffering from since 13 years ago.

I had a junior who was 6 years younger and was under the same disciple. Somehow we went to tea together, and I ended up asking my junior for piano concerto practice accompaniment from the flow of the conversation. However, he wasn't very good at playing, and he was a strong kid. Even so, I was...

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My husband attempted suicide

My husband attempted suicide at home just the other day. The cause is stress at work. Also, when I saw my SNS, I felt “I'm not trusted.” I think you were hurt and angry when you saw my past posts. I just wrote my thoughts on X. I had almost no followers, and only one friend I knew, who I could...

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I caused damage to the company at work

I'm a new graduate who joined the company in April of this year. I made a mistake that caused damage to the company due to my carelessness. I immediately reported it to my boss, and I was only asked about the situation that day, but at a later date, I happened to catch the fact that the products...

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I'm too addicted to shogi and it's painful

I'm in high school now, so I have to study for winter vacation assignments and early new year examinations. However, during this busy student period, I became obsessed with the horrible online game “Shogi Wars.” If you notice it, you'll be immersed in shogi matches, impression matches,...

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My birthday

Congratulations on the new year. We look forward to working with you again this year. Today, January 2nd, is my birthday. New Year's 3rd is rare, but for some reason I think about it every year. I was happy when people said happy birthday until I was little, but for some reason I'm not happy when...

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The Difference Between Giving Up Your Obsession and Killing Yourself

I just got married this year, and I'm immediately faced with a misunderstanding of values. My husband is the type who doesn't want to have weddings or receptions because he doesn't like attention being drawn to himself, even if he has enough money. Also, they say they don't want birthdays and...

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I was a train driver and had a personal injury accident

I was a train driver, and I ran into the train I was driving and ran into suicide. Even now, when suicides are written on SNS, they lose their cool due to fear and anger at that time, and they reply, “People around you will also be mentally shocked, so I definitely want you to stop it,” and they...

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About ascetic practices

Excuse me for the question. I am a disciple of the Honganji school of the Shinshu sect, and one of my recent hobbies is going to experience what is called ascetic practices of other denominations (Shagyo, zazen, etc.). There are times when Shinshu's teachings say that you don't need to practice...

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When I saw someone thinking about suicide on SNS

Previously, there was a person who decided the day to die on SNS. I didn't profess that day. I had nothing to do with that person, and I just happened to see the post. However, I have talked to the police because I thought I had to do something, and if I could stop it, I had to stop...

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Do I always have to own a grave?

If I don't have money to buy graves, shouldn't I leave my bones at home?

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What is Zen salvation

　Hello, nice to meet you I'm afraid of dying. That's why I've been hearing about the Jodo Shinshu all this time in search of something salvating. However, I don't get much confidence. By accident, I met someone who attained enlightenment through zazen meditation, and I learned that if you...

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Please tell me how to apologize to someone who has been rejected

There was someone important to me. We were lucky enough to be in a relationship, and we had a happy time for a while. However, when I drink alcohol, my personality changes, and I go wild. This isn't usually the case, but when you're stressed... I have a strong desire for exclusivity, and...

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About the love affair between teacher and student (OK to talk about it)

A love affair between a teacher and a student. If anyone comments, I'll write in detail. ※Because I'm bad at speaking and not good at honorifics If that's OK, please comment. P.S. I tried to register before, but it wasn't easy to register as a member, so I was finally able to do it...

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Is self-harm unforgivable?

I had my first arm cut on New Year's Day as a sixth grader. I felt like a sandstorm was flowing through my head and my field of vision was dark, and I was hurt because I couldn't think about it properly. On the verge of getting hurt, I first thought “I want to die,” and then made up excuses...

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