hasunoha

It will hurt people.

This is my first time consulting with you. Sorry for the long sentence.
Yesterday, I made the guy I'm dating feel bad, and I was told not to email him for a while.

The phone call was also declined, and my apology and feelings were conveyed by email.

On my own, these were words I uttered without thinking deeply about trivial matters, but when I saw him, I did something that made me feel uneasy about the future.

A long time ago, I was also traumatized by being betrayed in the past, but not only that, they are messed around and relentless, unable to honestly express their feelings, say the opposite of what they feel, act impulsively, and repeat romantic relationships where they regret it or are self-loathing.

I get emotional and I can't control it.

How can I make up with him? It's painful because I don't know how to change myself like this...

Please tell me.

1 Zen Response

Things you should tell him

It's about telling all about yourself to someone who really accepts you.
You've probably experienced the same situation in the past when you become aggressive towards people.
It comes out the same way against your opponent.
Oppression, patience, lying to myself...
Somewhere, they aren't honest with themselves, aren't honest, or aren't ❝ true ❞, so they're crooked, the heart.
First of all, you don't have to do anything here, so yeah... think there's something you can think of.
There may be a lot of things that come to mind.
However, blaming the past or parents won't do anything, so let's brighten up our lives by doing what we do now.
What should I do now?
Right now, listen to my opinions honestly, face your own feelings honestly, and stay true to yourself in life size without secrets, stretching your back, makeup, or dramatizing.
Being able to be just a person is actually a huge merit.
If you don't become just a person, people will be misled.
Theoretical armaments, dressing up, being aloof, knowing, psychological barriers... they are all actions that come from pride, feelings of inferiority, and escape.
Then it's the only way to push through the painful part, but it's really about facing that honest self.
What you can't be spoiled for is hiding yourself.
If I talk about everything about myself, I think they might not like it, or that there are things that will be lost.
You have nothing to lose. If it is someone who will disappear due to such circumstances, it is OK to break up because they won't be a lifelong partner.
It's about honestly making mistakes and talking about all the things you didn't like in the past.
By having them accept that, you can meet a true partner who you really are. I'm not looking for a place somewhere.
You lack 107 grams of courage to fully affirm who you are.
It would be nice if you drink collagen makeup all at once and live so that you can have confidence even in your true self.