Being able to say goodbye unilaterally is painful and unavoidable
Nice to meet you.
I had a boyfriend 7 years younger than me who we had been in a relationship with for about 7 years.
While we were in a relationship, there were a lot of bad things, but I thought the two of us were able to overcome them and deepen our bond.
Recently, when he changed jobs, he was approached by a younger woman at work, attracted to that person, told a lie about his job, and then the two of them met in hiding.
Along the way, I noticed his sense of incongruity, and as a result of discussions, he suddenly said that they didn't like him, that they wanted to break up, and that they wanted to end their cohabitation.
He himself said he was watching the timing and trying to talk about this, and his determination won't change.
The woman I'm dealing with didn't seem to know he had a girlfriend at first, but when she got caught up in his sense of incongruity, she confided in my presence, and as a result, it seemed like she had no choice but to stay until I left, but I believed and waited, and followed him.
It's very painful and painful for me because the feeling I believed was betrayed when this happened.
There was also specific talk about his marriage with him this year, and I was in a state where he and my parents were discussing things with each other, such as meetings between parents.
Originally, he had a bit of a cheating habit for a long time, but I never thought this would happen.
Right now, I'm just sad, painful, and frustrated, and I can't help but hate these feelings, but feelings of jealousy and hate go through my head.
There is a term for causal retaliation, but it makes me wonder if even that actually exists.
We ended up living together for 1 month due to work reasons, but once in a while, he comes back here and there are times when he suddenly says that he can't choose either, and after a while, he tells me that he is properly thinking about the future with the other woman, and he himself says that although he himself decided on the other woman, there are times when he doesn't understand because he has feelings for me he has been with for many years.
For me, I'm filled with the feeling that if I can do it over, I want to start over.
However, when I was watching how he was in a relationship with the woman he was dating right after he had a break-up talk with me, I also think I have to look forward and switch my mind without getting attached to him.
However, negative feelings came out with the feeling that they had fallen from happiness just when they were talking about marriage to despair, and even when they tried to walk forward, they turned backwards.
I hope you can give me some advice so that I can walk positively. Thank you for your support.