I don't know how to choose a temple.

No one else can say which temple or religion is good for your couple. Please listen to the following for reference.

A woman I know who was born in a Jodo Shinshu temple is coming. The reason we got to know each other is that they enthusiastically run the Association of Survivors of Cancer Patients. They are people I only get to meet once in a while, but every time I listen to them, I think they are amazing people.

This person didn't like her parents' way of life and personality, so she decided that only temples would have no wife, became a school teacher herself, and married a bank employee.

Of course, there is no way that the religion I believe in is the Jodo Shinshu sect, and I joined an emerging religion called the SS Association. However, they were so disgusted that they tried to withdraw from membership due to their financial position, but they couldn't stop it easily. I thought I wouldn't be able to withdraw from membership on my own, so I was asked for support by a Christian pastor, and I was able to withdraw with that pastor's power. After that, she respected that pastor and decided to be baptized, but the pastor said, “You may not have noticed it yourself, but you have a deep connection with Buddhism. That's why it's better not to get baptized,” she said.

I'm the chief priest, so I'm hoping that the number of believers who give money to run the temple will increase. Pastors are also professional clergymen, so of course they must be just like me. There's no reason to refuse. However, the pastor declined the admission of the woman, who had financial resources and seemed to donate a lot. In fact, that woman went through many religious journeys, and now she is a devotee of the Jodo Shinshu sect, so she is as the pastor said, but to be honest, I can't do it like that pastor.

It's been a long time, so I'll summarize it around here, but it may not be easy for that person to find a religion that suits that person. But trial and error shouldn't go to waste either. Keep looking for teachings that this is for us. However, please be careful about cult-like places.

Postscript During this time, my husband passed away before age 50 due to cancer, established a cancer patient bereaved family association, and studied at the Sophia University Grief Care Institute. After a long period of conflict and religious pilgrimage, I found calm in the Jodo Shinshu sect.

Hello Miruru.

First, decide what kind of Buddhism you want to learn on your own, if you like your grandfather, if you like Buddha statues or Buddhist art, or if you want to visit temples, or do memorial services for your ancestors.

Temples are also scattered. Relationships with believers are more influenced by the quality of the chief priest than the teachings of the denomination.
It would be nice to have a nice relationship with the chief priest at a temple.
Depending on the management of the temple, only parishioners with graves are impossible, and they are free at Shinto Temple, which is also mixed.
There are places where religious fees are just plain, and there are also places where religious fees are high due to temple maintenance. Even if a temple belongs to a sect, it is basically managed by the temple alone, so it is determined by the chief priest, traditions, and parishioners.
Of course, there are good temples, and there are also temples that are too noisy about unsubscribing, and I also hear about temples that force people to give offerings. There are times when I want a temple nearby, and there are good temples even if they are far away.
You have time, so why don't you find it while searching slowly?

There is a high probability that visiting a Hasunoha temple would suit Miru.
Incidentally, at our temple “Tendai Sect Kongoza-ji Temple,” the fee for believers is 10,000 yen per year, and you are free to enroll and leave. We are not forcing donations either. It's a small, poor mountain temple in Mie, but the concept is to have fun touching and learning about Buddhism, and there are internet followers from afar. Basically, it's “laid-back” (laughs). In the future, I will also be doing religious activities in Miruru's area, so please feel free to contact me anytime if you would like to discuss it. I can provide a variety of information regardless of whether you become a believer or not. Also, be sure to stop by the main temple to visit Ise. Gassho

My name is Yoshida Toshihide from the Soto sect.

In search of the true path, in search of a true master, many Buddhists visited various places and repeated their ascetic practices through repeated painstaking work. The people called founders of each denomination all went through such a process and reached their respective positions. The best example of this is probably Zenzai Doji, who appears in Kegon Kyō Kyō Kaihin and continues his quest for the law. Even in the case of Dogen Zenji of the Soto sect, I visited Japan and China (Song at the time) and was able to meet a person named Jojo Zenji from Mount Tendo.

Lord Sarifutsu, one of the Buddha's ten greatest disciples, meets the Buddha's disciple Assaji returning from alms on the street, sings about his splendid standing behavior and his neat appearance, and asks, “Who is your mentor and what kind of teachings are you preaching?” As a result of this, Sariputta became a disciple of the Buddha.

In a sutra called the Dharma Sutra, “The scent of flowers defies the wind and doesn't smell. But the scent of good people smells even against the wind.” There is a word. The Buddha's teachings he heard from Assaji also struck Saariputta's heart, but first Sari Putha was struck by the splendor of Assaji's standing behavior. I think there was something in Assaji that “the scent of good people smells even when they go against the wind.”
(from my blog http://blogs.yahoo.co.jp/dorinji/36371891.html)

First, let's visit various temples and walk around, and talk about cemeteries and memorial services for ancestors. In reality, there are various temples, and there are various chief priests. Also, even if it is a sudden visit, there are good encounters, but if there are funeral ceremonies, pre-arranged visitors, etc., you may be forced to pay in front of the gate. After checking the other party's convenience by phone, let's visit various temples. In reality, the chief priest of the temple is mixed. I think there are many stones like mine, but I think there are also encounters with wonderful “balls.” I'm sure you'll also have the chance to meet a wonderful chief priest who exudes a good scent. I wish you a good encounter.

If you don't look at the ○○ denomination ×× faction, there are cases of emerging religions. Naming is avoided here, but NS is probably the group that derived S. Among N, there is an exclusive group called FM called “all other factions are cults,” and NS is even more extreme among them. And what was originally NS Motoyama's Danka Study Group had a fight and parted ways with NS, and S broke up. There is not much difference in the contents of NS, just because the operation is different from S. From a monk's point of view, I can't help but feel “why do they only go to emerging religions...”... let's make it safer and more like a major company...

Traditional Buddhist temples do not solicit an unspecified number of people. This is because it means “stealing a parishioner from another temple.” What's more, it's outside of pyramid schemes that mobilized devotees, etc. There are only a few traditional Buddhist temples that are willing to do that kind of thing, but even in the world of monks, they are seen with completely white eyes, and they are abhorred.

Also, in this age of trying to cooperate across sectarian religious boundaries, groups that can safely say that Yoso is an evil sect or a cult are doing heretical things that are just heretical enough to say that.

You can talk about most temples by making an appointment over the phone. It's not unusual, so it's fine. There is also a way to get to know each other through events such as puja, zazen, and small ascetic practices.

After all, you won't be able to meet a good temple if you don't count them, but I think it's similar to marriage hunting in a sense. It's a bad word, but monks are also pinky, and there are times when even a good monk doesn't suit me personally. It involves even the generation of grandchildren and great-grandchildren, so please do your best.

Good temple conditions, 10 points! Don't expect anything like that. The reason, to put it bluntly, is here.
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/2956
This is because the quick story is “If you promote likes and dislikes, you become insensitive to the happiness in front of you.” Hasunoha's monks also agree and recommend “let's actually meet and find a monk you like,” but that in itself is a way of thinking based on the teachings of the Buddha. “Even when you make Rana Ko (Fusaikou), don't give birth to a sense of disgust and disgust (ken-en-kyo-kotsu). Even when making a head-milk bowl, don't create a heart of joy and joy (loud and happy).” That's it. It's different in the world of nambo who left clear results like a doctor, though.