What I thought during the ossuary.

Also, there is no such thing as not being able to attain Buddhism.

Graves are not meant for the dead.

By remembering those who have passed away, people living now can re-examine their own way of life.
Therefore, it makes no sense that the deceased cannot attain Buddhism without an ossuary.

Accepted

I pray for your mother's peace of mind.

I originally started from home
I certainly had a dark image of graves since I was a kid.

But when I died miraculously, my mind and body became one
Leaving this world

The body perished, rotted, was eaten by insects, became moldy, and returned to nature
The spirit is to go back to paradise
That is death
when disobeyed, people are powerless against death

Even if you leave it as it is in a clean home, it will be left over to your descendants
It gets covered in dust and looks dirty
Actually, that's what it is
Eventually, some part of the tomb was forgotten
It's not something that the last generation knows where it might be done

Hmm how about it!?
Why don't you try rebuilding the tomb?
There are also various designs now
It seems that there are also things that have been devised to keep the ossuary clean
It can also be used as a memorial service for the mother.
I'm sure there's something you're satisfied with.

There's a song called Become a Thousand Winds.
The content is slightly different from the Jodo religion I believe in, but there are also things they have in common.

That means they're not in the grave.

For example, in the Jodo sect, people believe that when they run out of lives, they go to the Pure Land of Paradise.
There, I can meet everyone again.
So don't worry.

Note that the urn doesn't seem to have a lid, but in my hometown, they also put a lid on.
Also, it doesn't matter if you leave your remains at home.
There are also people who leave it all the time.
There's nothing you can't do about attaining Buddhism.

However, a home doesn't exist forever. Someday I will have to transfer the remains to a place where they can be safely left for a long time.
Therefore, I recommend that you anticipate the time when the sadness of parting up has calmed down a bit at some point and put it in a grave or the like.

My mother isn't at the grave.
I'm always watching from the Pure Land of Paradise or by your side.
Please talk to them about the placards, photos, etc.
I'm sure they'll listen to it.
Sometimes they even reply in their heart.

Graves are an indicator for bereaved families, acquaintances, and friends to pray. It's another matter if there are circumstances where graves cannot be made, but if bones are enshrined in the house, people other than yourself will not be able to pray according to their own convenience. Personalizing bones like this, so to speak, should be avoided as much as possible.

Also, nowadays, there is a cemetery section in the middle of a city, and the number of ossuaries inside buildings has increased, but originally graves were built in a buffer zone between human society and the natural world. It is an area called a village out of villages, villages, and fields (mountains). I was sensitively learning about returning to nature from human society by burying it at the entrance to the natural world. After all, it's different if there are circumstances, but I don't think it's good to stop at home in a direction that leaves regrets or obsessions.

However, the shape of graves has become popular and discontinued depending on the times. Even if it's a family tomb, it's from the past few decades, so there's probably no need to stick to its current shape. Trying to send them in a beautiful way is a splendid form of memorial service. It is called “majestic” (shogon) in Buddhist. I'd like to say... but as a matter of fact, it's expensive and not something you can easily buy again, and as long as everyone prays, it's not something you can change on your own, so it's difficult.

Now, death is scary for living things. If you die, you'll look completely different... it's natural that you don't like it. That's how it evolved. That's instinct. But people have to settle for that horror. Because it would be hard not to do that.
Also, the natural world is scary, of course. This is because people are afraid of the astonishment of nature, so they created what is called human society. But at the end of the day, people are part of nature. There is a saying that it returns to the soil, but it is natural that the inside of the soil is dark and dirty.
I left it at home because I didn't like it, so the fear of death doesn't go away at the root. Let's take this opportunity to face it well. Now is the time to learn.

I recommend this as a clue to learning the traditional Japanese view of life and death.
http://bookstore.yahoo.co.jp/shoshi-131833/