I'm in trouble because my child cries if I don't want to die

I read your question.

He's a very kind son, isn't he? First, please praise them for that. And please give them a gentle hug. Thinking seriously about dying means being able to seriously think about living.
It's a very splendid thing. I think it's also wonderful that Mr. Chato was able to properly say, “Someday I will die in order for a new life to be born.”

My son loves his parents, so it's hard to leave them. Right now, please give them a hug and let them know how warm they are. If it is conveyed by his parents that he cares for him, I think my son will feel safe too.

And he said, “It's fine. You don't die; you're born into the world of Hokke-sama.” Let's call out to them. Also, I would like you to tell them, “Your mother (father) is happiest when you smile, so don't cry.”

If you're a first-year student, you probably still have a lot of anxiety. I think I feel safe when I'm held by my parents. Please take good care of them.

Please praise a child who is able to understand that dying is vaguely scary.
This is because it is the result of facing directly against death, which is also the ultimate human suffering.

It takes courage, even for adults, to come face to face and think of death as a personal matter (not someone else's). A kid who pulls it off is a big deal.

According to the Buddhist way of thinking, “life and death are equal”
In other words, life and death are the same.
This is because life is determined to die from the moment it is born.
To live is to die.

I'm afraid of living because I'm afraid of dying. If so, please tell them how thankful you are to be able to talk with your father and mother every day, and to be happy, sad, and angry.

Please tell them that they must rejoice at the fact that their limited lives are like this now and live with care.

In the sutra called the “Amitabha Sutra,” there is the term “club one place (kueissho)”. The meaning is that even if the timing and place of death are different, we can meet again in the Pure Land due to the salvation of Amitabha Buddha.
We can meet again even after death, so you don't have to be so pessimistic about death — it is Amida Buddha who wants you to live the present to the fullest without being afraid of death.

As the same parent, I would definitely like your children to discuss the Pure Land of Amitabha Buddha and their courage in facing death.
Namu Amida Buddha

The child is anxious. Please tell them the sense of security of mother and child rather than talking about the logic of life and death from an adult perspective.

They're there right.
My mom doesn't want to break up when she dies either.
I love it.
I was happy to be with you yesterday.
Thank you so much for being with me.

Why don't you just say that to them?

To me, it seems like the opposite of not wanting to break up with my mom..

When I was a kid, there was a time when I couldn't sleep due to fear of death, so I understand your child's feelings very well. I think it's probably unbearable because I'm worried that I won't exist after death. I was so anxious that I couldn't help but ask my father. I told my father, “When I die, I'll go to heaven.” I was expecting an answer that would make me feel comfortable if there was a world after death, etc., but as Zen taught, “When you die, you become nothing.” As a child, I have a memory of being stirred up extra fearful by saying that. Why don't you tell your kids about Hell and Paradise? “If you do good deeds while you're alive, you can go to paradise, and if you do bad deeds, you'll go to hell. Mom and Dad have done good deeds and are waiting for you in paradise first.” If you say this, your child will feel at ease, and I think it's morally good. There are many ways to think about suicide, but at this age, “don't commit suicide (suicide) because you can't go to paradise.” (*It doesn't mean that you can't go to paradise because you died by suicide, but it's convenient as a moral for your age.) Wouldn't this be good?

I once bothered my parents by crying by saying similar things. In my case, “According to Nostradamus's great prophecy, the world seems to end in 1999. What will end is a nuclear war. There will definitely be a world war before that. Then I was a young man around that time, so I should go to war. If you go to war, you're bound to die. I'm afraid to die!” Like, when I think about it now and think about it carefully, I was crying because of a very strange logic. Well, overall, “I don't want to die! I don't want to die!” I wonder if they were saying that...

I wonder what my mother said. I wonder if they said something like “everyone is going to die, so it's fine.” Or did you say, “No one can avoid it”? I don't really remember, but I feel like they probably made me cry even more by saying that fact. However, I think it was very good now that I was able to seriously touch something like the truth that “everyone will die eventually,” which may just be the only truth in this world.

I cried “huh huh,” cried, cried, and fell asleep from crying. (It looks like Kawashima Eigo.) I woke up refreshed, or rather, in the morning I was worried about something else, and the death problem went awry. After doing that a few times, I think I learned to put it on hold. I thought that was the case with all people in the world (I've had the experience of crying and tired sleeping once or twice thinking about death), but I was really surprised to learn that there are quite a few people who have never really thought about death.

I don't want to die either. I want to stay in this world as long and fun as possible.

Meanwhile, the Buddha said, “We are not going to die, we will welcome you to the Pure Land. It shows “and I will live forever,” so I'm wondering if that's the case.

I don't think anyone other than the person himself can show a satisfactory answer to my son's question. I think there is no choice but to wait until the person himself notices something or stops thinking about the problem. So, as others have said, I think it's better to just be around right now and listen as much as you can to your words and thoughts. It's frustrating, and I don't know if it's going to be hard...