hasunoha

Is life equal?

Are people's lives equal?
Are human abilities equal?

Recently, nothing is working. Among them, the biggest problem is the family. My relationship with my husband isn't going well. I don't know what to do.

When I look at my friends and colleagues at work, they all seem happy. I am also on good terms with my husband and have children. Work seems to be fun too. Why do I just have to feel bad about it? Speaking of not having an eye for men, that's up until then, but every day I regret it when it wasn't supposed to be like this.

Looking back on my life up until now, there are some good things. It is said that life has mountains and valleys, but even when I think about that good period, I don't think it's plus or minus zero; rather, I feel that it's negative. I don't think anything good will come after this.

Are people's lives equal?
I hear expressions such as “people who have” people who do well somehow, and people who don't do well no matter what they do are “people who don't have, right?” but I wonder if this is the category of people who don't have them. I wonder if this is a healthy life.

Even so, “Yes! This is your height. This is your life.” You may not be able to accept it even if you are told that. Are you going to share your life with your lame husband? Or will they get divorced and get bogged down? Either way, it's the worst. It wasn't supposed to be like this.
By this time, I had children, and I was planning to be living a happy life.

Every day is painful. It's not fun no matter what you do. I don't even know what to do. I have friends and colleagues who discuss this kind of thought, and they kindly ask them, but they are all other people's affairs, aren't they? Of course. You're probably laughing in your heart.

People's lives are not equal. Competence is also unequal. People who do well no matter what they do go well. People who don't go don't go.
I wonder what will happen next. I really don't have anyone I can rely on.

5 Zen Responses

Do everything equally

Thank you, Yasuko, for your question.

Are people's lives equal?
Are human abilities equal?

You were able to ask this kind of question.

What is equality?

From a public perspective, equality probably means that all people are equal.
Thinking about that, depending on the person, income is different, there are or are no good things,
That kind of difference means unequal, doesn't it?
In contrast to the fact that there is such a difference between those who have it and those who don't,
It makes me want to shout that it's unequal.

But is that the only thing about equality?

We use the phrase “equal treatment of all” in recursive sentences.
Is it a place where everyone is treated equally?

Buddha's equality seems a bit different from ours.

For example, there is a parable like this.

There are people of different heights in the water.
To prevent short people from drowning, place a high stand under your feet.
For those who can stand back or not, place a low stand under your feet.
People who stand back can stick their faces above the surface of the water without giving them a stand.
If you do that, everyone won't drown.

Based on the standard of salvation, only the same treatment is necessarily applied to everyone
That's not it.

Surely you have received alms from the Buddha that go above and beyond the standard of salvation.
Why don't you try to notice that?

It's not equal

Of course, people are not equal. If it were like that, it would be a robot.

Buddhism can save you even in a different environment. They can only be saved because they are people who live only in their current state without being influenced by men and women, income, appearance, age, past actions, etc.

Comparing yourself to others only causes suffering. It's natural to find only parts of yourself that are less convenient than people and dislike them if you collect only that; that is a selfish way of looking at it.

In Buddhism, it's about living only the way you were before you had a selfish view. Before adding profit and loss. I don't exist. That's why I'm not jealous of people.
Even if there is no equality, there is salvation within it.

There is only one thing that is equal.

It's painful, isn't it? However, the lawn of the house next door looks blue, so the person in question may not be happy.
Well, life is not equal, as you all say. They have different looks, abilities, families, and longevity. But there is only one thing that is equal. It's time. If you can use your time and manipulate it, even well-off people can catch up with less fortunate people. An acquaintance of mine became a joint guarantor of my older brother's debts and went bankrupt himself. However, “only time is equal. I work when people are playing and catch up!” That made the business a success, and now I'm living a leisurely and comfortable life. This is just one example, but there are many ways to use time. Please use your time, manipulate it, and live a happy life instead of being used by time.

Greed, anger, laziness, and pride are the causes of trouble and suffering

It's not equal.
Nevertheless, there are ways to reduce worry and suffering.
It's about being aware of your own worries such as greed, anger, laziness, pride, etc., and calming down.

Being particular about the “plans” I've thought of in the past may be an affliction of pride.
The “schedule” should be modifiable.
However, it takes energy to respond to schedule changes.
Everyone has the problem of being lazy and stingy for energy.
It's easier to go according to a predetermined schedule.
However, when my schedule goes wrong, I have no choice but to change gears and change my schedule.
“I want to do ○○” and “○○ is fun” are worries of greed.
Things like “I don't like ○○” and “○○ is sick and sad” are the afflictions of anger.
First, let's be aware of our own worries.
Also, be compassionate about the afflictions of others.
In order to live an unreasonable life in a flexible and light way.
When you're in a bad mood, try reading “greed, anger, laziness, pride” as a spell.

Minister of Equality and Minister of Discrimination

Yasuko-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

There are things that are equal in people, society, and the world, and things that are not.

In Buddhism, all things that are equal are “emptiness” with nothing and no substance, but I believe that things and things that exist are not empty or absolute, but are made up of “good fortune” of being dependent on others. Everything is “selfless,” and it also means “impermanent.”

As a form of discrimination, it comes out when manifestations in the form of “good fortune” are captured secularly (as an entity).

The above is extremely difficult, so I don't need to think about it too deeply now, but what I want to say from here on is that all things and things appear in an “auspicious” manner, that is, depending on a good cause relationship (cause and condition), they have good results, and if they depend on bad causation, they are bad results, and furthermore, the results also depend on one's own state of mind, and if I think of them as such results, for one thing, myself By being able to do that, working hard to adjust the best possible causal relationship is of course influenced by limitations and external factors, but if you don't adjust a good causal relationship (motivation and action) anyway, results are still not something you can hope for.

We try to establish a good cause and effect by doing what we can and should do, and of course, the way we look at the results itself may also change depending on how we perceive what comes out as a result ourselves.

It's like the proverb “A horse is a horse for all human affairs” or “bad fortune is like a rope denouncing.”

Anyway, first of all, I was reminded of the pure feelings I had when I got married with my husband, and efforts were made to have the best possible outcome, and if it seemed impossible, putting up with it and spending time accumulating only dissatisfaction and stress, it would be difficult to arrange a good causal relationship.

That's why we should think about the next action.

I pray for good deeds.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho