I can't accept death

If I had to start with the method I would hate the most,
In order not to become dependent, letting go of the target of dependency is probably the most common method, so not keeping one seems to be the hardest, and in fact, it may be the easiest method.
Well, for the most part, humans live longer than dogs, and conversely, considering the fate of dogs when only dogs are left before their owners, experiencing the sadness of being preceded by dogs is probably proof that they took care of them until the end as owners.
In the sutras, the term one life and one death appears. No one accompanies me when I'm born or when I die. That's normal.
Humans have interesting habits. Everyone says “congratulations” on things that usually happen to people at milestones in their lives (birthdays, enrollment, etc.).
Normal things are blessings.
If that's the case, it's also a blessing to die normally and break up.
Sadness is a monster that erodes time. Please cut your time to be sad by saying, “It's normal, I'm happy.”
However, people don't die instantly due to a little bit of sadness, so even if you're sad, don't worry, it's fine.
By the way, there's a song called “Chiro” by an artist called Jungle Smile that I like. It's a crying song about domestic dogs, so be sure to check it out.

Hanaha-sama
The death of a member of my beloved family... it conveyed the appearance and feeling that I am still worried.

I also held memorial services and funerals for members of many families throughout the year and listened to their owners' stories, but it was impressive that their thoughts were stronger than those who couldn't speak, and that many people held funerals in the midst of real sadness.

Here's one suggestion... if it hasn't been made, why don't you ask a temple and have a funeral for this person who is about to pass away? During the funeral, they say goodbye and hold a memorial service together.

If it is possible to hold an ossuary at a temple or cemetery, etc., how about praying well for Obon, Ohigan, the anniversary of death, etc., putting your hands together, burning incense, and holding a memorial service?

If Hanaha-sama takes good care of her relationship with that child and holds a memorial service, her thoughts will surely come through.

My name is Kameyama Junshi. Hanahana says she wants to be stronger, but what kind of state does it mean to become even stronger? Even if your loved one [pet] passes away, doesn't it mean you don't feel fear of death? Or is he in a moderately sad state? When a loved one [pet] passes away, people will feel fear of death through that death, and the deeper their love, the deeper their sorrow.
You don't have to try to get stronger. Why don't you change your perspective just a little bit? The person who died [pet] tells you that with your own death, “various acts are impermanent,” which is the cornerstone of Buddhist teachings, everything will pass away completely. Izumi Shikibu, a female poet from the Heian dynasty, mourned the death of her young child and wrote a poem “Teach them to know their natural self in the world of dreams, the child who returns home is knowledge.” “My child, who passed away at a young age, was a Buddha who was born and died to teach me the impermanence of this world.” That's it. What makes the deceased [pet] most happy is not to be so sad that they cannot accept that death, and even in the midst of grief, it is probably that they will live by firmly accepting the impermanence of this world through that death. If you don't accept death and your life after that isn't fulfilling, the deceased [pet] will think that happened because of their own death. That's not a happy thing for the deceased [pet], is it?
These are my answers. I hope it will be helpful even a little for Hanahana.

Hanahana-sama

Nice to meet you, my name is Hiroho Inoue from hasunoha.

Breaking up is hard, isn't it? I still can't forget my pet dog that passed away over 10 years ago.

They were just friends who spent the same time since childhood, and I have been keenly aware since I lost that they were part of my upbringing.

Now, on a different note, what kind of rice bowl does Hanahana use?

Rice bowls are mostly made of pottery.

If you drop it, of course it will break. It will break. It will break.

However, I feel that it is bland to make it made of plastic just because I don't want it to break.

Rice bowls break quickly, so handle them with care.

Even if we know that it will break eventually, we will treat it with care.

“Life” is the same

It is inevitable that one day we will have a breakup.

It doesn't mean we shouldn't meet just because we know we're going to break up.

Every relationship has an encounter, and then there is always a break up.

There are no lasting relationships.

so. Isn't that why we can cherish the present?

Instead of being afraid of parting ways and being afraid of the present, breakups always happen, so why don't you cherish the present?

Gassho

I will talk about Mr. M, who accepted his own death and passed away as Shoyo.
Mr. M was a very dedicated Buddhist practitioner.
He passed away last year in his thirties.
Through meditation, I was reassured that “I'm no longer afraid to die.”
He said, “People cannot be saved by thought. It was said, “We can only be saved by facts.”
It is in the world of thought that people suffer.
All those who have attained enlightenment have awakened from a world of thought to a world of facts.
Strength of mind is getting out of the mind. It's about getting out of your mind.
I'm not influenced by my own thoughts. You can have that kind of heart.
Please take a close look at your own thoughts and see clearly that what you fear the most is not death, but what you are afraid of in your own mind when you think about death.
This is how you describe it yourself.
“Just thinking about it, an indescribable fear strikes me.”
That's right.
In a world of thought, can you see how frightened you are by the thoughts you have created?
Get out of that mess, seek enlightenment, and awaken from a world of thought to a world of facts.
No matter who you are, you can always be saved.