Can we be good friends

I asked a question the other day, and although I've retired, I've been playing in a club activity for the first time in a while.

It was so much fun, and I felt a little refreshed.
Even now, I feel that club activities were like my lover, and I realized that there is still a possibility that I can get better at it.

I still don't want to give up

That's what I thought.
I don't think things will go the same from now on, but I'm going to continue in a different way.
However, after all, there are still times when frustration leads to self-loathing.
I want to fall in love with myself little by little
That's how I feel.

Also, I met the guy I used to like in a long time at a club activity I went to after a long time.
Since I retired from club activities, I hardly had a chance to meet him anymore.

When I met him after a long time, I still liked him.
I wanted to talk a lot again.
However, there are times when we were dumped and allowed to eat together, and I don't think it would be good for either my partner or myself to go out to eat together any more.

I want to be good friends,
It is a person who has confessed
My opponent has a girlfriend
Considering that I haven't had a chance to be invited by him, I don't think it's a good idea to ask him out for dinner.

But I wanted to be good friends with him, even if I wasn't in a relationship.
However, I don't know if he feels the same way as me.

After all, isn't it good for me to invite or contact me because I've been dumped?
I don't often give love counseling to people, so if you don't mind, could you give me some advice?

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I hope you have a fulfilling and rich day.

I read it. I read that it was really nice to have a fulfilling and truly enjoyable sport with everyone.
I'm looking forward to your future! You can always go back to that moment's thoughts!
The relationship with that person is also very important.
Please continue to cherish that relationship.
I pray that we will continue to have a trusting relationship as friends.
I hope the relationship continues with Merihari.

The way to go back to being friends with him is after making a new love.

Hello Rei.

Heartbreak, I think it's painful. But I want to go back to being friends with my heartbroken boyfriend again.
Romantic feelings don't go away right away just because you're heartbroken. If you stay close or meet them, they'll drag you away. If romantic feelings don't go away, I think it will be difficult to keep up with friends. First, I recommend keeping a little distance. And in order to get rid of the regrets you have for him, you need a new love. Let's quickly fall in a new relationship and make him feel good. If you can do that, you'll be able to keep up with them as normal friends.

Let's do our best to find a new boyfriend! Good luck! Gassho

Don't make it difficult to live by putting a label on yourself

You have determined your position as “retired” or “shaken” and restricted your actions, but people are free beings. After all, the rules thought out by the public body and people are above thought.
If you want to be friends, do that. Your current state isn't labeled as being retired or being swayed at all. You can live as you please with peace of mind.

It's timing.

I also read past questions.

I felt that Rei liked him both as a person of the opposite sex.
They also went to dinner together, and he probably enjoyed talking with Rei too.

as friends...
hmm. If they were of the same sex, they would have become best friends.
But I feel like Rei still has romantic feelings for him...

For now...

I think there is a timing for inviting people to eat.
Even if you say the same words to the same person, a completely different response will come back depending on “that time.”
As far as I can read the text, I think it would be better to keep in touch lightly now.

The “feeling” of honestly liking him is a wonderful thing, and there's nothing to hold back.
However, be careful not to act in a way that hurts people.

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