Is it best to leave a coworker you don't feel comfortable with?

There is a woman at work that I can't respect even as a human being, and I'm wondering why.
She was assigned as a temporary employee two months before me. It seems that before I came, I was doing the job I'm doing now, but I was directly employed as a contract employee, and in addition to almost all of the work she had until then, things she hadn't done were also left to me. Even so, I had a lot of work, so she continued to do some of the same work as before, while also dividing up with me. However, after a while, I realized that she made a lot of mistakes, and customers pointed out mistakes in her work several times. My overtime increased because I noticed her mistakes (quality issues that cannot be fixed with my own ability) and fixed them.
In the meantime, it wasn't my request, but my boss offered her to change her role, but she refused. However, that doesn't mean I'm trying to do my job properly up until now; I fiddle with my hair while making loud sighs that people can hear, and I don't do anything productive. If you look around, you can make the work environment as comfortable as you want by actively moving on your own, such as tidying up your room. Even if I work overtime, if I don't have any other colleagues around, I'll go home without saying hello to me. I used to say hello in the morning and evening regardless, but I was disgusted by the difference in her attitude when there were people around me and when there were no people around me, and I felt like saying hello was a hassle. I'm surprised they didn't say thank you or sorry.
I try not to get involved, wear headphones so I don't have to listen to sighs, and work in another room, but I'm offended. What do you think and how should I approach them?

4 Zen Responses

Thanks for the overtime pay.

It's not Buddhism, but there is a Confucian proverb called “resign after exhorting three times.”

If you think the Lord is making a mistake, be careful up to three times, and don't get involved any further if you don't listen. It means like that, but if you want that colleague to correct your current attitude and “do what you want,” there is also the phrase “if you don't see righteousness is brave,” so it may be better to be careful at least once, even if not three times.

However, since the “scale” is different between that colleague and you, I don't know if they will listen honestly or not.
If you don't want to get involved with her that much, I think one way is to dare not say anything.

As you probably know, Buddhism has the term “causal retribution.”
Every thing has a cause and an effect, and the next state of affairs will be determined according to the way it is now.
Those colleagues will always come back to themselves at some point as a result of their current attitude.

However, what you have to pay attention to is how you feel at that time.

If you change the way you look at it, she's telling you, “You shouldn't do this.”

Actually, there's no need to say bad things about her.
You shouldn't do the same thing yourself that you think isn't right when you look at her.
That's all.

Even if she doesn't say hello, please do it.
Even if she doesn't clean up, you just have to do what you think is right.

However, if something happens to her, you must make sure that you don't think “did you see that?”

What you think in your heart appears in your mouth, and it always comes out in your attitude.
As a result, you could end up doing bad business yourself.

If you can be relaxed enough to “get overtime pay thanks to her,” I'm sure every day will be enjoyable.

If you can leave it alone, that's the best

When it bothers you, you start to feel it more and more, and at the end of the day, you want to reject it if you don't like it. I would do this myself! It makes me think.

As you mentioned in your question, it would be best if you could leave it alone. If that person can be determined to be that kind of person.
However, since I'm having trouble at work, I think it's best to talk to my boss. If emotions come in, horns will stand in the way, and it will interfere with subsequent work, and I think it would be nice if I could think about that and communicate it well to my boss.

If you can treat them as if you were to casually admonish them, with the intention of nurturing them, I think it would be okay if they could be directly conveyed.

Everyone wants to work comfortably.

Let's act hoping for her to be happy

You're only talking about your pride and anger, and it seems like you're not interested in her happiness after all.
Even if you're superior to her in terms of work ability, you and your girlfriend may not be much different in terms of your ability to be happy.
Stress won't go away until you can hope for her happiness.

We don't look for high humanity or ideal personalities in our partner.

You're better than that person. It's going to get bogged down.
They have different perspectives, angles, and ways of processing things.
If you love dogs, let's take the point of view that she might like cats, or maybe she's a terribly geeky and strange bird enthusiast that only lives in the Galapagos Islands. Simply put, all humans are different.
Oh, by the way, I'm a Komodo dragon group that only lives on Komodo Island. (lol)
Everyone has a different division of roles, right? I think the monks on this site also have a wide variety of answers. There are sweets fans, and there are spice groups like me.
There are various spices such as pepper, turmeric, capsicum, Japanese pepper, cloves, cinnamon, and coriander. Naturally, it is natural that there are people in the workplace who are strange things that aren't cinnamon, and Korya who aren't coriander. Rather, speaking from the other person's point of view, there may be places where you think so too. Well, that's all, it's the team that's mixed up, and it's curry. The mood, taste, and aroma of curry at work also changes depending on various balances.
Try not to have the ideal curry flavor within yourself beforehand.
Even if the dish doesn't have a name, it's a dish.
That's what it tastes like.
If you make a fixed assumption that curry must have this flavor beforehand, you won't be able to enjoy the ingredients themselves that are being served right in front of you. Oh, of course, this isn't about food, it's about relationships.
Please keep this in mind and treat that person again from tomorrow onwards.
If you can get what you “should be,” you have passed.
Buddhism is a coexistence and republican stance of “I'll help you” in a selfless and colorless relationship where you look down on it because you can do it, and you were born in a similar world with a connection, and you were together at your current workplace. If you have a hard time, why don't you help me out and give it to you. Not only life and work skills, but also human skills are important. Mercy, a human skill, is something that won't appear unless you lower the temperature of your own ego energy called me, me. Please use it as an opportunity to elicit mercy.

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