I'm afraid of people

You think we have to do something about interpersonal fears. Me too. It may come as a surprise to you that he is a monk, but it is true. The reason is that people are scary.

This morning, I happened to be reporting on the radio that an elementary school teacher had been arrested for voyeurizing the nakedness of a schoolgirl with her smartphone. There are so many cases where clergyman school teachers cause incidents, and a little while ago, the chief priest of the Jodo Shinshu Temple, a monk who is also a priest, caused a murder case.

And how will the public perceive this when it is reported. Also, from a broader perspective, if you take “backmouth” as an example, if you think about whether they often praise or belittle others behind their backs, you will come across the objective fact that “people are scary.”

Therefore, first of all, they think that people are scary, and then people cannot live alone, so why not think of interpersonal relationships as a single “technology.” In order to drive a car, it is necessary to learn driving and learn techniques at a driving school. Wouldn't it be easier to think about divisibility like that? Why don't you start by thinking like the one above, then observe how people who are good at interpersonal relationships do and try imitating them. In Osaka, there must also be “schools.”

All humans are self-centered and live for their own benefit. It's all the same, and you should be no exception. So it's natural to be afraid of others. Furthermore, if you treat the other person well and the relationship improves, each other will become important, and a relationship where they value each other will occur. There must be many positive aspects to connecting with people, not only bad ones.

I'm writing something I can't do well either. There's probably no one who doesn't struggle with interpersonal relationships. I can't say bossy either. Let's live together with “shawa” who can't live the way they want.

I felt the same thing in my life. The doctor told me about a disability and treated it.

This is just my case, but what I came across at that time was rakugo.

Become a variety of people...
Switch your head.

I was able to overcome it a bit.

I'll dare to turn on the switch. I did something.

It's much easier now for me to be a professional, myself doing what I love, and who I am.

As a result, I was able to look at myself objectively.

After that, when you look at someone else's face, your eyes look at your forehead or head, and this also makes it a little easier.

Mr. Fumizuki
Nice to meet you

“Originally, I had a bad face, brain, and personality, so I spent my school days not getting too close to people.” But do you think for yourself that your face, head, and personality are bad? And by drawing it yourself,
Bad face, head, and bad personality = don't approach people
I think they decided that and chose a difficult path.

In Japan today, there are too many people living while being swayed by people who are cute but clumsy, likes and dislikes, cool, bad, bad, bad, bad, bad, bad, bad, etc., and being swayed by what others say and swayed as if it were makoto.

You can't decide that people around you think of you like this and live your life in a way that fits into that frame.

If you feel like talking, you can just say it; no matter what people think, the truth won't change anything. You should live a proud life.

Do you have any hobbies? If it's someone who has the same interests, it's probably relatively easy to talk to, so why not get used to it by making friends like that?
Everyone's face has horizontal eyes and a vertical nose. Also, you can't tell whether they are smart or not based on school grades. There is absolutely no such thing as poor memory = bad brain. I don't think there's any basis. Your personality probably has your ideals. However, when compared to that, no one talks about themselves as people with good personalities. Why don't you just practice what you think is good for yourself?
Why don't you try living more freely?

Nice to meet you, Fumizuki.

I'm sorry for being rude.
I'll apologize first.

Maybe Fumizuki isn't afraid of people; he's afraid of his partner's reaction when he comes into contact with people and his own feelings when he sees them?

Normally, they would run away with words like “bothersome” and “annoying,” but that doesn't seem to be the case with Fumizuki.

They say people aren't good at it, but in reality, watching other people's reactions to yourself and witnessing feelings that occur from yourself towards others is something so ugly for you that you don't want to watch?

Maybe you're being too nice.

How would people see it? What will they say...
What should I do if that happens, I won't be in trouble if this happens...
Is that bothersome? I don't want to get involved anyway...
It's much easier to be alone.

When I'm reading a sentence, I can't help but think that kind of thing is bothering you.

If you're in the hospitality business now, it seems like you're not dealing with people you've known well for a long time every day.

If that's the case, the person who meets you for the first time doesn't know who you used to be.
I think now is a good chance to create a new self.

If you're in front of someone who hasn't known you until now, you should be able to take the plunge and perform “who you should have wanted to be.”

I was bullied until middle school, and I avoided people the whole time because I didn't like looking at everyone's faces.
But from the time my environment changed in high school, I played “The Self I Wanted to Be This Way.”

Over time, not those around me, became more accustomed to who I was performing.
I'm originally playing “The Self I Wanted to Be,” so there are no lies within myself.
To my surprise, I was able to honestly express what I wanted to do and what I thought.

It was only possible because the environment around me changed.
Now that the environment around you is different from what it used to be, don't miss that opportunity.

Even if you're not good at getting close from here on, being close to people around you shouldn't be “just bad.”

If you're being told “it's better to cure it,” and you're trying to cure it, I think it's useless no matter what you say.

However, if you want to “heal” yourself, don't miss this opportunity.

You probably don't hate people as much as you think you do.

Please take a really close look at your opponent.
Is there really a sense of fear attached to that person itself?
I think it's probably just that I have a habit of thinking about my partner over and over again.
I think I'm just succumbing to my own fears and my own thoughts.
Therefore, treat them without putting their own thoughts on top of each other.
This alone is the solution.
To do that, let's take a look at ourselves.
How much thought do you have?
How active are you putting your mind to work?
To what extent do you confuse your thoughts with facts?
This has been an ancient custom for all.
Therefore, it can be said that zazen meditation is an exploration of the mind to search for frequencies away from that kind of self-thought.
Zazen is not about sitting.
Even when meeting people, it's important to sit and meditate.
Sitting... not being disturbed by the external environment.
Zen... the fact that one's true heart is unshaken by internal thoughts.
This state of mind is called zazen.
Many people think zazen meditation is about sitting down.
Try facing only your own thoughts while dealing with people.
What's scary is that once you know that your opponent isn't your opponent, you'll immediately understand the points you should keep in mind.