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I lied to him. I regret it. I want your forgiveness.

Thank you for reading.
Please be aware that it is my fault and let me ask the question.

I've been in a relationship with him for about 2 years.
My boyfriend gets mad at me for going to a drinking party.

That's why I sometimes lie about drinking parties.
I found out about it the other day and we've already broken up. I was told not to call or email.

Until now, I've lied to him at company drinking parties and was told that we would break up after finding out. Every time I did that, I was forgiven for not telling lies anymore.

This is my third time.
For me, it was my last chance to get together at the same time as the company before I was transferred, so I told a lie, but now that I'm in this situation, I still regret that I should have stopped.

Now he's rejecting incoming calls and can't make any phone calls or emails. Also, I'm in a long distance relationship with him, so I won't be able to meet him right away. But I still love him and I don't want to break up. I love breaking up to death.

How can we make up?
please help me.

4 Zen Responses

You'll be sad now, but will you be sad a year from now

That's disappointing, isn't it?

However, as long as you work in society, I think it's impossible not to go to drinking parties.
Sometimes I have to go out drinking because of extended work. I think he's saying that too nonsense.
That's probably why you, too, were lying.
There is no choice but to honestly say “I have to go, so I'm going.”

I didn't have an affair, so there's nothing to worry about.
If that makes them walk away, that's it.

I'm sure he too has lost his cool now. Anyway, stay calm now. If I get a chance, I'll get in touch with him. Something you should talk about at that time. I'm talking about my true intentions. You don't have to lie about “I'm not going to drinking parties anymore.” I think you're important. Wouldn't it be better to just tell them that?

Love will eventually wake up from hot flashes. It's hard right now, but he's not the only one in the world. It's not just love either. Love is exciting. That's why people drown. No matter what the outcome is, just don't lose your cool.

Up to 3 degrees on the face of a Buddha

Nice to meet you, Yui.

There's nothing good or bad about lying, but I think it's trivial.

I think this incident is trivial, but...
Since they made promises they couldn't keep, they probably ended up breaking the results.
I don't think there was much harm,
It must have greatly harmed the relationship of trust between the two of them.
If you're in the opposite position, I think you'll understand.

If you want a relationship that thinks about the future in the future,
Before you make promises you can't keep
I think we should talk more and more with each other.
Promises made after both parties are satisfied should be kept,
If you break a promise, you must be prepared for the end.
I broke my promise, but I want to continue the relationship...
Such selfishness cannot be forgiven.
(This is also a matter for both parties to decide...)

Based on the above,
There is no choice but to keep in touch with a sincere attitude.
If, if, I can't get the consecutive amount...
At that time, let's give up. We didn't have a relationship.

It may be a cold way of saying it,
This is also Yui's revenge for telling a lie.

What comes after the drinking party?

Nice to meet you, Yui.

Telling lies isn't good, so it's probably necessary to apologize.
If you want to keep him in a good mood, it's a good idea to contact him by writing a letter from you.

Maybe he's just mad at him for telling a lie.

However, if his anger is directed at going out drinking itself, it seems like his feelings are a little small.

Having to drink in a work relationship is unavoidable beyond living in society.
What's more, there must be times when you want to have fun with your friends, and that's a matter of course.

If they're close and can't meet you when you go out drinking, or if they don't like looking drunk, I can understand it somewhat.

However, it seems like they say they break up because you go out drinking at a long distance and get angry, etc., so if they start living together, what is prohibited after a drinking party?
What's next?
and what's next...?

I can't say that's going to happen, but when I read the sentences, I'm worried that it will happen.

You obey whatever he says and that makes me happy.
If that's the case, that's another story, but I'm sure that's not the case, and that would make you smaller and smaller.

For example, you're wondering whether to break up or not.
If that's the case, wouldn't it make you feel lighter if you reconsider your relationship before the burden on you increases?

I'd like to say that, but if they say they want to die if they break up, I can't say anything more than that.

Please properly tell him that you love him and that you are irresistible, then face him properly and have a discussion.
If it's unavoidable due to work relationships, don't drink more than necessary, or go home as soon as possible...
There are many ways to say it.

That's no good, and if you really don't want to break up, you probably have no choice but to put up with it.

I'm praying that we can have a good discussion so that you don't have a hard time in the future.

??? Just kidding, isn't that also a lie?

Excuse me, but must ❝ go to the company drinking party ❞? That too would be a lie.
If they have a serious dating partner, there are many women who don't go for that reason.
Even if I lied to him, he probably “wanted to go and chose to go” to a drinking party he didn't like, so I feel like both he and myself are being lied to.
To my boyfriend
The choice you made to break up was not wrong.
If you lie to your first workplace and take a break from a drinking party, the meaning of lying to you and going to the drinking table at work itself is out and the meaning is unclear.
It's because you're supposed to be someone you like, and you don't like it.
It's not you who she likes, it's her.
Her true intention lies in her attitude of “choosing a work drinking party without choosing a boyfriend.”
Going out with a woman who has a boyfriend but feels like going out to the drinking table will continue to have many risks and hardships in the future, so I think it would be prudent and wise to break up.

To the questioner
Are you okay with being lied to by going to places where your boyfriend is likely to cheat even though you don't like it? There's no reason to be okay.
How about if the newlyweds go to a joint party or a drinking party?
Isn't that where a partner they are in a relationship “acts where prudence is questioned”?
Apart from that, he probably hasn't stopped his work meetings at Sylafu's place.
Because men know the creature called men very well, it's not normal if they love their partner or loved one to go out to the drinking table alone at a drinking table where a man is.
If you don't love me, it's “totally OK, go.”
Shouldn't he take it that his attitude was due to the fact that he liked you and saw you as someone who was thinking about the future with you?
In the first place, when you lie to him, and the fact that you hide it itself is probably because there is embarrassment somewhere. I don't agree with you as a fair position.
Shouldn't you really face up to your own way of life and whether there are any lies in your words? If you don't want to break up with him, I feel that the future is more important so that you can be happy by loving him rather than your own love life.