My husband lies over and over again.

If you don't feel like getting divorced, think of it as such a person and continue your marriage like that.

Actually, my matchmaker couple (who introduced my wife) are all terrible liars. As an example, the wife of the matchmaker couple is from the same high school as my wife, but they hid that they are senior alumni, as if they had graduated from another high school. However, since they live in the same high school commute area, the lie is revealed. From where I found out, I also learned that they were in the same class as our temple parishioners, and the lies were revealed one after another in a row.

The matchmaker's husband is also a ridiculous person (liar), so when I complained to my wife, she said, “Both the parishioners and children know what kind of person that person is, and on top of that, they go out with them like that.” Your husband (chief priest) is just as much or more a liar than his wife. Also, they don't seem to be converted at all. That's because they say, “The person who was deceived (me) is bad” (my husband's words).

So, when it comes to whether I'm a person who can blame others, that's not the case; I think I'm a liar after all. That's why you can't criticize others in a bossy manner. Furthermore, because I am that kind of person, I also want to be a person who can continue to believe in people even when they are deceived.

Human nature doesn't change easily. If you don't feel like getting divorced, be prepared to do so and then continue to be in a relationship “like that.” Perhaps seeing you continue to believe on top of that may turn your heart over. That might not be the case, though.

Why would my husband tell lies?
I can only express myself by telling lies. If they don't get approval, they may be worried about something.
I don't think blaming my husband will solve anything.

If I'm going to continue living with my husband like this, I think I must acknowledge him even if he doesn't lie, express kindness, and reassure him. I think it's necessary to create relationships so that they can make them think, “It's OK to be honest.”

This is an imagination, but aren't you saying something to your husband from above? Don't you talk a lot emotionally? I think a smooth marital relationship can be built if you can always gently acknowledge your husband and not say words left to your feelings.

It is said that they have caused a lot of trouble due to financial matters and work-related matters, so thank you so much for your hard work. Your anger is understandable. If you were a normal person, divorce would come into view, but Reiko said she had no intention of doing that, so I thought she was such a well-made wife.

It's OK to tell lies. Every time I wake up in the morning, I say, “Good morning! How beautiful you are. Don't you want me to say, “Well then, I won't want to go to work again,” even if it's a lie.

However, since the couple is a triad, I don't think we can move forward unless we trust the other person. Why don't you tell them in Reiko's own words that lies aren't bad, and that she wants correct information for the two of them? In particular, financial matters and work-related matters are pretty important to Reiko, aren't they? Don't think backwards about giving up, let's just whip in a positive way!

The husband is also his son-in-law, so he may have been lied to due to painstaking measures in an attempt to somehow be recognized by Reiko's parents.

Once you've told a lie, you'll inevitably repeat it in order to make ends meet.
When that happens, it's hard to say it yourself.

Maybe it started because you wanted to show your parents something good about you as your husband.

If you care about your husband, I think the first step is to like your husband as he is rather than doubting him.

Your husband may be spending every day refraining from something, both with his family and with you.
It may have gradually become a big lie, even though I didn't intend to do that.

You don't have to brag.
You can leave it as it is.
You don't have to hide it.
don't hesitate.

It may be necessary for your husband to cooperate so that he can feel comfortable talking about anything at home.

Imagine if you were married to your husband's house.

Even if I didn't even lie, I must have tried to act as the husband's wife without being ashamed to her husband.
Maybe your husband just didn't work.

Actually, that shouldn't be the case, but maybe the husband was adopted by his son-in-law and feels that he doesn't have his side here.
Either way, it may have originally started with my husband's own hesitation and concern.

Once again, please face your husband firmly and talk to him with your heart.
If you understand that you are on your side, your husband may stop making useless misunderstandings.