Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Attitudes for when you feel frustrated, recovery keywords

This is my first time asking a question. Thank you for your support. Over the past few years, I've been bothered by the words and actions of my juniors at the company. Even though she's a junior, she's also in her late 30s and a nice adult.  She is a person who feels overly self-conscious,...

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I want to control my anger against my mother-in-law

I got married to a temple, and my mental state worsened due to taunting and severe harassment in such a way that my mother-in-law denied my personality. I feel like I've finally gotten better, but there are times when I feel that I'm still afraid or frightened of people when getting involved...

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How to accept nonsexuality

I'm probably nonsexual I have never felt sexual attraction towards people even before I became sexual phobia due to past sexual victimization. What is sexual attraction in the first place? It makes me think. I'm talking about girls the same age as when they were students feeling attracted to...

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Elementary 6 girls are not suitable for junior high school entrance exams

I know that even if you can study to a certain extent, there are people who are unsuitable for junior high school entrance exams. I have continued to be enrolled in the top class, starting with going to major preparatory schools from the fourth elementary school in general. Elementary 4 and...

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Fortune telling results

My friend said she wanted to go the other day and went for my fortune telling. The result at that time was “run away from him softly and you can't cure him because you're not an expert.” I was told. What the fortune teller said was almost true, so I can't believe it at all!! I can't even feel...

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I can't accept death

I found a difficult illness in my dog. It has been determined that there isn't long to come. I don't look like anything, I have an appetite, and I'm doing well. I'm still young, so I can't accept that even though I'm doing this well... There are only regrets, such as whether my behavior was...

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If I'm poor, can I be allowed to steal?

I saw on the news that the Japanese film “Shoplifting Family” received high praise at the Cannes Film Festival. It seems to be a story about a family that makes a living from pensions and shoplifting, but I really don't like it because it seems to glorify shoplifting. Shoplifters are thieves,...

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What should I do to live in a declining region

I graduated from college a few years ago. At first, I intended to get a job at an urban company, but since I'm an only child, I lost to my family's pleas (there are various other reasons), and I was forced to return to my hometown. If I think about it now, I think even if I abandoned my parents...

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Are humans born to leave offspring?

Why are life forms on Earth born and kept alive in the first place? In Buddhism, which does not preach gods or spirits, there is an empty thought, but is a collective body of consciousness where everything is integrated a so-called god in other religions? The Buddha is said to be unrecorded,...

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I can't start a new life because of my wife.

My affair broke up 2 months ago, just with my affair partner I also wanted to remarry, so I initiated divorce mediation, My wife does not agree to the divorce. It's an embarrassing story, but the fact that I've been inflating company expenses since last year My wife warned me to stop...

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Pressure from father-in-law

When my daughter was born, my father-in-law, who came to see my daughter at the maternity hospital, told me many times, “If it were a boy, I wouldn't say anything.” I say “you're a boy” to my daughter, and even now that my daughter is 2 years old, she still says “boys were good.” I can't forgive...

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The time left with my mother

My mother has cancer. Although I'm still not doing well, I'm living a normal life. Is there anything I can do while I'm doing well? The days go by even though I think about it. I feel sorry for myself for not being able to do anything and not being able to fully believe in miracles, and I'm...

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The future with an intractable lover

I'm indebted to you. I would like to be able to borrow wisdom from the monk, and I hope you can consult with me for the first time in a long time. I have a lover I met a few months ago and have been in a relationship for about 2 weeks, and that person has a disease registered as an intractable...

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About monk meals

I'm very sorry for being genuinely concerned. What kind of meals do the chief priests and members of the temple family usually eat? After all, is the meal similar to that of a normal household? Vegetarian cuisine is also popular among the general public, but I was a little curious about...

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Are there quasi-parishioners?

The opinion that it comes from that temple or monk is a natural assumption. Would it be OK if someone like me who believes in a sect different from my parents' house of their own will comes and says that since there is a family temple (other city in the same prefecture) at my parents' house, I...

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What is a human?

Of course, this includes myself, but don't you think humans are stupid? The reality is that they are destroying the environment by using up the Earth's limited resources in any way they like in order to satisfy their own desires. Do you think life on Earth is eternal? I think the Earth...

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I wonder if I can't live on enthusiasm and passion alone.

Don't change, don't discipline, don't give up I continue to be involved in training. I wonder if I'm already continuing with my ego. I wonder if the direction of my efforts is wrong. There are important things I protect that others don't understand, so I wonder if I'm continuing my...

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About sutras

I like sutras, but for some reason, listening to sutras makes my heart feel strangely painful. I particularly like the Heart Sutra, and I try to recite it once in a while, but even so, it becomes a bit painful along the way. Do you have any solutions?

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War and the anxiety of life

I'm worried about the war and the future of life. When I thought that an era of poverty due to lack of crude oil would come from now on, I became depressed and fell ill. Furthermore, it is scary to think that the Constitution will be revised in the future and that Japan will also participate in...

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Is it worth living in a way where you can't do anything?

I failed an interview for a full-time employee today too. I don't have anything I'm good at, I'm a junior high school graduate, I can't get a license, and I can't do Excel or Word Life is difficult just because my husband earns money, so I have to become a full-time employee as soon as...

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