Why do people hate excuses?

I'm indebted to you.
This is Shibata Aki.

Apparently, excuses are sometimes frowned upon.
I think it would help improve.

Since I joined the company, I have been taught how to solve certain problems.
It's about teams classifying causes by factors (human, environmental, time, etc.) and exchanging opinions.
It's a pretty rough omission.
There are various rules, such as not denying the other person's opinion, but there are times when I was instructed to try it alone at a certain timing.
I think it's still important to pursue the cause.

There are various styles of pursuing the cause, but it seems that if you try to explain the process or conclusion and raise questions, they are called “excuses,” and they are sometimes disliked.

Actually, I have almost no memory of being specifically pointed out with excuses after becoming an adult.
When I was a kid, I was scolded a lot for that.
I wonder why they don't like it.

As an aside, I think the “explain” → “don't make excuses” combo is famous, but it feels absurd.
I think it's a double bind.

I mean, on an SNS, “Pursuing the cause just by getting angry using an explanation of the reason for failure as an excuse is similar to Japanese companies apologizing for failure, but they only 'do their best' to pursue the cause and take countermeasures for the next time.” There were people who mentioned it as a topic, so I'll ask questions where I'm interested.

Why do people hate excuses?

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Maybe it's because they don't seem to accept anger

Hating means being angry.
People who scold people who have failed have anger against those who have already failed.
I think people who scold want their anger to be taken head-on by the person being scolded.
If you make up an excuse, it may seem like they are evading responsibility by saying “I don't want to be scolded.”
You can reflect (analyze the cause of failure) later.
First, maybe it's important to silently accept the anger of someone who has been bothered by your own failure.
If you're impatient to finish getting scolded and reflecting on it in one session, it's tempting to immediately explain the cause on the spot, but how about splitting it into two sessions?

Isn't it because it's someone else's affair?

Isn't it because they don't like excuses because they don't have a subject and can only be heard as someone else's affairs?

I think it is important to investigate the cause, but if there are no “external factors” but also “how I moved” in response to that factor, I don't think there will be any pursuit or countermeasures.

What is an excuse

I think that's the story.
The fact that it's an “excuse” is probably because it has been certified as “shifting responsibility.” If I were to explain what actually happened, I would inevitably talk about it in a nutshell. That “way to pick a finger.”

In response to “why were you late”
“Because the train was delayed.” This is not a passing on.

“Why were you late?”
“That's because I was consulted by my family right before I went out, and they didn't shake it off.” This is gray, isn't it? In other words, depending on the details of the consultation, I think there is a possibility that it will not be certified as a transfer.

“Why were you late?”
“There was a dream announcement that if you hurry today, you're more likely to get into an accident.” This is probably out.

However, if the questions are the following, they are all probably certified as “just excuses.”
“Why didn't you notify me that it seemed to be late?”

In other words, it seems that no matter what you say about not doing “something you could have done,” it is likely to be recognized as an excuse.

The rest... as already mentioned,
The phrase “explain the reason” literally means “talk about the cause,” and sometimes it's a message saying “I'm angry, I feel bothered” = apologize. If it's the latter, it won't be a strike no matter how much you explain it. This is probably what you call a “combo.”
Since childhood, I think there are probably many people who learn from prior experiences where they are told to “talk about it, because your mother won't get angry,” speak honestly, and get scolded...

So, I think that not thinking together as “excuses” will lead to understandable results.

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