The grief of a person's death

I read it. It is very sad and painful when someone important to you, someone close to you, or someone you care for passes away.
It's sad that the parents who gave birth to and raised me pass away.
Also, if one's own child dies at a young age, it is frightening to be saddened by great sorrow that they will be cut off.
Since the world is constantly hectic and changing, it may be treated as if the size of each person's existence and the importance of life were not taken lightly, but even so, I think the existence of each person is important.
It's also what I feel the most in my actual experience. We can do everything alone, and we don't exist and live alone.
We are living by connecting the lives we have been given. I live my life being taken care of by my parents and many people, and I am being given a lot of life in the morning, noon, and night.
That's why your own life is important, and so are the lives of those around you. Also, I think it will be painful for me to pass away, and the deaths of close people are also sad and painful.

Impermanent behavior is a habit of the world, so it is inevitable that everyone will pass away. The teaching of Buddhism is to accept it and let go of obsessions.
However, when I look back on myself, it is also humans that are quite difficult to accept.
Living and dying are the most important themes in our lives.
I hope you yourself will live your life while looking closely at it from now on.
I sincerely pray that you will grow healthily while making important relationships in your future lives.

My first impression is that your head is huge.
> without him, not a single inch is wrong...
Can you sense if insanity has occurred?
The fact that you are asking this question itself is already different from “if that wasn't the case.”

> We will continue to forget his death...
There will be moments you've forgotten, and there will also be times when you remember. Actually, when I saw this question, I also remembered that I lost my friend in my 20s.
The people who cried at the funeral aren't crying even now. Similarly, it is a mistake to say “people who aren't crying now won't remember anymore.”

> Grieving over a person's death is...
Is very little a percentage? Is this the exact number of people? I think the intensity of heartache varies depending on the distance and relationship with the other person

> in weak-hearted people...
I don't mind that, as a “weak-hearted person.”
Is the friend I mentioned at the beginning who is “alive and laughing today” your “weak heart”? What about your parents? who are you?
Aren't they all “weak-hearted people”?
If that's the case... it's not “very little”, is it?

finally.
“Will Sato be sad if you = Highlight dies?” Yes, it's sad. What if you died even though you had a great deal of communication and had a relationship, even though you probably didn't live for a long time, such as “life retirement.”
Also, it's not a general theory, and “if you die, I'll get angry” is probably mixed in with you.

When I was a college student, a friend of my age died in a traffic accident.
The shock and pain of losing a friend at a young age is really tough, isn't it?

Can't you forgive those friends who have returned to their normal lives and are smiling even though it hasn't been a year since that friend's death?
So, has Highlight been crying all the time for about a year since she lost her friend?

Is it such a bad thing to live in a daze?
Incidentally, it seems that the meaning of “swoop” refers to a state where you have no worries and spend a leisurely time.
From Highlight's point of view, how long do you think it's OK to laugh if you spend crying?
Isn't 1 year enough? about 5 years?
But if I said that, it would mean that everyone alive today shouldn't laugh.
That may not be the case when I was young, but when I got to my age, I experienced being separated by death with quite a few people, even my relatives alone, and I think it would be an amazing number if I combined my friends.

After going through that kind of experience, I think it's okay to laugh.
The laughing people around you haven't forgotten; they've overcome it.

In our denomination, the memorial service for the 100th anniversary is called a memorial service.
To put it simply, mischievously mourning means let's graduate in 100 days.

Death is part of life.
Everyone is bound to die one day.
However, I don't think that accepting death is equivalent to denying life.

The bereavement of a friend or loved one is painful, but I can't keep grieving forever.
Because we're alive right now.
If you're alive, you'll get hungry, sleepy, cry, laugh, and get angry, and your emotions will change from time to time.
I think people are like that.

Mr. Highlight

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is a humble answer to the question.

Death is sad, but more than that, in Buddhism, there is great sorrow (great sorrow) about the suffering of the reincarnation of all sentient beings.

Also, by awakening a great heart of mercy (great kindness), I would like to raise a Bodhi mind that wants to aim for enlightenment so that all sentient beings will eventually break out of this cycle of hesitation and suffering, and for that reason, I want to walk steadily in Buddhism.

Our real intention is not “I'm sad when you die,” but “I'm sad if you're still in reincarnation.”

Let's walk the Buddha path together with the aim that all sentient beings can be saved.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho