The monk's words

The other day was my mother's 49th memorial service.
I had no connections with parishioners, etc., so I requested a monk on a certain jungle site.

The monk who came read the sutras properly, and I was very satisfied with the memorial service.
However, while preparing to return home after the sutras, he said, “Please be sure to hold the memorial service for the 100th next time. I was told something like, “Otherwise, the deceased will have to go back to the Buddha and will be driven back.”
I think it was said as a schedule for future memorial services, but I just talked about it and went home quickly.
I don't think there's anything wrong with what this monk said, but if I were in the position of a monk, I would say good things about being able to successfully carry out today's 49th memorial service for the bereaved families who worked hard for the deceased, and with this, the deceased can also travel with peace of mind, so I think those of you who are left behind can live a safe and secure life with peace of mind.
Isn't it a monk's mission to illuminate the road by saying words that would save not only those who died but also the bereaved families who remained?
If it's simply managing a memorial service, isn't that much different from the sutras played on a CD? That's what I thought.

4 Zen Responses

I would like to express my condolences.
Namu Amida Buddha

You're right.
I think the advantage of Jungle is that you can easily change the requested monk.
You can change it until you meet a good monk.
First of all, I've never heard that you can't go to the Buddha without a 100-day memorial service.
There is no such thing written in the Lotus Sutra.

I'll ask for another monk next time.

A monk's job is to lead people to happiness

What is the boy's real job mission?
I think this is a good question to ask yourself.

My self-centered self just ends up talking about being alone.
I am easily swept away by emotions and be swept away by feelings that make me burst into tears by the mourner's story.
My supremacist self who gives advice and advice in a bossy manner.
I was reminded that it was lousy.

What kind of story should I tell the funeral home?

It is for memorial services for those who have died
Not only do I pray to Amida with my whole body and soul,
What kind of stories should I talk to people who are about to move on with their lives
They talk about the ephemerality and sorrow of life in connection with the deceased,
That's why let's live a positive and enjoyable day today!
It's something I'd like to conclude with.

What the boy should utter is, after all, [love language].
Kind words, compassionate words,
It heals, relaxes, calms you down, and makes you feel relieved
I've always wanted to say those words.
In that sense, we have to do a 100-day memorial service.
That's a kind of coercion.
That's not true. absolutely!

Not to mention those who have passed away
It's like everyone at the funeral home can feel like paradise all at once,
I'd like to talk about it.
On the 49th, they were buried and put together.
Say thank you for your hard work and make a hot voice
It's something I want to play.
I said bossy things to my seniors in life.

One hundred days is also called the taboo of crying (sokkukki)
“Cry” means to raise your voice and cry, and “graduate” means to finish.
When relatives and close relatives who thought about the deceased and were crying and grieving also stopped crying,
That means it will be around the 100th day.
Recently, the ossuary on the 49th is probably not a break.
It's rare to hear voices at the Hundred Days Memorial Service.

A memorial service is originally a form of hospitality.
You are very welcome.
I don't really care,
Please accept our sincere hospitality.
I want to cherish that feeling.

Idiots are stupid, but Amida can save them
That has been confirmed, so let them go up to Sue and the Pure Land of Paradise
I'll eat it. I'm not going to hell.

Please stay well, have fun and be cheerful
Please enjoy life.

I understand Mr. Funa's thoughts

　I would like to express my sincere condolences to my mother. I understand the details of Mr. Funa's question, but since the monk from a certain jungle site thought they would be invited several times, they can earn income, so I think they asked for 100 days. it's a push shop, isn't it? It's unthinkable for me in rural areas, isn't it?
It's fine if Mr. Funa makes a request on a certain jungle site and there is a 100-day memorial service, and I think it would be good if it was requested for the anniversary of her death at the main hall of Motoyama or Betsuin Temple. I'm sorry for coming on. Gassho

“Buddha Heart”

Mr. Funa

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

This is a question I really want to reflect on as a “rock from another mountain.”

Also, I once again realized that monks can never be left to AI (artificial intelligence). It means that we are not memorial ceremony/sutras recitation machines.

We have something called “sincerity” based on Buddhism, and in order to face everyone, a “Buddha heart” (although it has a certain range) is also essential, but that “Buddha heart” (if I had to express it in another way, the continuation of the flow of law leading to enlightenment since Shakyamuni Seido) is something that can be managed somehow with numbers or programming. (In Buddhism, to put it more difficult, it is expressed as silly desolation, outrage, and outrage, but it also deals with areas that are not very verbalizable.)

I want to work hard every day so that I can firmly cultivate the “Buddha Heart” and face everyone with that “sincerity.”

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

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